How can I get over my straight best friend?

We met almost a year ago and instantly became best friends. He's been so good to me as a friend. He is married to a sweet girl. Well, I started realizing that I had feelings for him about 3 months ago, but never admitted it to myself and actually accepted it until about a month ago. Since then, I've been trying to keep my distance from him. I don't really want to see him anymore because the more time I spend with him, the more I fall for him. So he came over the other day and decided to tell me off. About how he feels like I'm not being a good friend anymore and I'm not wanting to hang out every weekend (We usually get together on weekends, rent movies, and have a few beers). He, then, told me that he loved me and I am the bestest friend that he's ever had. So I decided to tell him the truth, that I was falling for him and hurting by the fact that he's straight and he's married. And I told him I need space and I don't want to see him as much anymore. He got really pissed and told me I was being selfish. So he left me that night on bad terms. Then he called me today and apologized and I just told him that I was so sorry that things had to end up this way and I'm trying my hardest to do what's best and that I really do need some space to clear my mind and get over him. He hung up and showed up at my door, like, thirty minutes later and we fought about the whole situation. After things mellowed down, we sat on the couch, I put my head on his shoulder and told him I loved him, and he looked at me and told me he loved me, but he was straight. He got up walked to the door, I followed him, and he decided to give me a kiss, and we kissed for a few minutes at the door. After that he said that he can't live without me being his best friend and that if he was gay, I would be his man. Then he left. So my questions are: Am I being selfish like he says? Am I wrong for wanting time and space to get over him? How can I deal with this? I can't just stop hanging out with him. He told me that he, literally, can't live without me being his best friend. And he said it so sincerely, but I'm so frustrated and I want to scream because I love him. I love someone who I can't have! What should I do? *Cries*

dzpnoiz2, well you are in a pickle. but you see he is being unfair to you as well he wants the best of both worlds so if anyone is being selfish its him. and then there is his wife how the heck will she feel if she finds out. you can bet big money she wont blame him and by the sound of it he wont admit any complicity in the whole thing.
If you love him dearly you have to put it to him that he has to tell his wife that he has another love in his life besides her, HMMM
Well I don't think it could work out and I agree with you that you need space. You need to hook up with some other guys of a similar sexuality to you. Just so that you can adjust to the life nature meant you to live. when you have had a few weeks apart he will find out if his love for you is genuine or not. If it is then he will join you with your gay friends to relax in his free time and his wife knowing that he is out with his gay friends wont worry that he is cheating on her with a woman from around the corner. what ever you do you must be open with each and every one that is affected by your dilemma. if you do that you will find that it will work itself out in the long run. I do feel for you and wish I could personally help, ROBERTO.

Similar boat here, though not as deep I think. Best thing to do is just find other things to distract you.

Oh and avoid hanging around when him & his girlfriend are together, it'll just kick you in the teeth to see him with someone else.

Best thing I can think of is to find someone that you can have much like him. Or just find someone to help get over him.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone...