I am finding it hard to cope.........?-Offistart

sounds like your trapped.
insist on space.

You must tell them to Cease and Desist.

Make it very clear that you DO NOT WANT TO BE BOTHERED.

They are using tactics of guilt to bolster their own feelings of doubt.

People like this will harm your kids. Escape.

Jesus said He would be the cause of families splitting up. Forget the cult and turn to the Truth. It's Jesus Christ.

It sounds as if God is speaking directly to you. Listen to what He is saying. Leaving JW may mean having to seperate yourself from these people for a while. Pray to God to give you the strenghth to hang tough. He will see you through it

You could start off by reading the Bible and not the book that the Jw's call their bible.
You could ask for guidance from the Holy Spirit and come to know Jesus as your personal Savior.
Find yourself a good Bible-based church and get involved there.
Pray for the JW's. They are lost.

a religion that teaches you to shun and lockout your family because you don't have the same belief is not of God

If they don`t respect you`r requests for space...forget them.

fasting and prayer helps a lot. while fasting I ask God to draw me closer to him, and strengthen me in the path of righteousness. I ask him to lead me, then I follow no matter where he takes me. He knows best for each and every one of us if we will trust in Him, pray to Him, and ask for the guidance of the Holy Spirit he will no let us down! John 11:13 God send the Holy Spirit to them who ask.

You can call me. I have been there. It angers me that they use the salvation of your kids as a scare tactic to cause you terror.
They did this to me. I was still indoctrinated and still believed that they had the Truth and believed that my child would die at Armageddon if I did not turn him over to be a witness..I tried to take my life over this.

You are in the love of Jesus now. I am praying for him to lift you up and put his loving arms around you and to give you comfort and strength.

You might want to e mail Simon Peter you can find her in my contacts list..she has a website and a support group on-line for us....I hope to chat with you there....I will e ail you my phone number and the link to Simon Peter....Hang in there...U.L.

If you are avoiding JWs are you then attracted by another branch of Christianity? If so, why not be seen by JWs to join in their activities. When they next call you can honestly tell them so and request that they no longer harass you. There is a Law against such an activity you know.

I am not a JW. JWs have been banned in my country. to be fair I think you should pray to God for guidance. if you seek Him hard enough you will know the answer. Philippians 4v6

You are correct. They've got you cornered and will continue to pressure you until you buy into their dogma. It's called brainwashing, friend, and they will relentlessly continue to apply pressure until you become one of them. I seriously think you need a vacation from all JW's, so you can think your own thoughts and discover your own beliefs. You may decide to continue with JW's, or you may not. The most important thing is that it be your own decision.

Edit: If I were you, I'd take Unsilenced Lioness up on her kind offer of support.

i know just what you are experiencing believe me!! i attended the meetings for 20+yrs,, my husband stood well within the truth, we have three children who had dropped away from meetings one by one, i never felt i measured up in some way, i tried and tried did number 3 talks went out on Field service, i know its the truth in my heart, but i still dropped away and i received all the love of the congregation i had the elders constantly visiting me, but i just couldn't go to the meeting, they are very loving people and genuine in their faith, but you will only do what your heart tells you i never returned i think its been about 4yrs now but we still get visits and the magazines delivered to us, i hope for you that you do return as i feel ive left it too long tell your friends in the truth you will go to the memorial, and until then ask them to respect your privacy best wishes to you

Stand your ground, you alone know what is right for you and your children.
Be very firm in your insistance that they leave you and your family alone.

She's right, you need to consider your kids. Would you want your children to be raised in cult that misrepresents God and tells them that they shouldn't play with other kids on the playground, not even other Christians?

I'm sorry to be so harsh on that issue. But it angers me that she (probably out of genuine concern because she is misled) is using GUILT to try to convince you to go back to something GOD has shown you is FALSE.

This is JUST a suggestion. If it were me, I would handle it this way: Send a note to JW that you were closest to before you started having serious doubts. I would assure her that you are fine, but you have questions that can't be answered by the Watchtower Society and/or the Elders. Tell her that you are involved in lots of prayer (I'm assuming you are :) and that you are going to let God lead you to these answers. Then I would write out about 5-10 scriptures that contridict their teachings, mostly focusing on Trinity issue. Tell her that while you don't yet have all the answers, that you know there is reason for concern. Tell her that she can attend church with you if she'd like to find these answers, also. That way, the pressure is off of you to prove something that you are still struggling with!!! (I've been there)

Every time a JW insists that you should go to the Kingdom Hall, insist right back that they should come with you to church. They will back off really quickly.

You can email me if you'd like. You should also contact Simon Peter, since she's also been there but she's more qualified in this department.

(((((Ditto)))))

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Lina is perfect example of JW thinking. She doesn't understand the meaning of "Back off." The last thing anyone who is struggling needs to deal with is 100 people who don't know when to BACK OFF!

If you are a JW, shouldn't you be certain that Ditto's search for God will lead her back to the Kingdom Hall? Then why must you try to take matters into your own hands? BACK OFF!

(This message is now subject to FALSE reporting...... sighhhhh)

this is what i call brainwashing you do what,s best for you

I will pray for you. Read the Bible and ask God to send you the Holy Spirit to help guide you to truth about Jesus Christ and pray in his name. Your children can pray with you, you can read the Bible to them and live a Godly life in front of them. If they decide to become Christians that will be their choice to make someday. You must be responsible for raising them but the choice to follow God will be theres to make. I am sorry you are hurting so much right now but standing for what we believe in is something we have to do and many times it costs us dearly. God be with you.

Dearest Ditto,

My heart goes out to you. What you are facing--you do not have to face alone. You have God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and those who believe in Jesus as their Savior to love you and encourage you.

So far just on this question there is already unsilenced lioness, Diogenes, Blessed and me.

There are many others here who care very much that you are being coerced, emotionally and spiritually manipulated and having a hard time coping.

You asked, "What can I do?"
With writing this question--you are reaching out for help and that is essential that you keep reaching out.
You can contact simon peter and all of us who care about you. You can pray.

I will pray for you and you are welcome to email me anytime.

Dear Father in Heaven,

I am so thankful that Ditto is reaching out and wanting help. Lord, you know exactly what Ditto needs. You know exactly what is going on in this situation and I pray that You, Lord, intervene with Your Love, Peace and Comfort in a mighty way.

Lord, I ask that you surround Ditto with Your strength and goodness.

Father, I specifically ask for your protection and guidance for Ditto in this situation.

In Jesus Name.
Amen.

Dear Ditto,

I was just doing a quick check of my emails before getting offline to await a call (I have dial-up) from my opthamologist. UL sent me your question so I want you to know along with Steinbeck, Blessed and UL, I'm praying that you will be strong - remember to put on the FULL ARMOR of God each day.

Remember also that your heavenly Father is perfecting that which concerns you.

I'll add more to this tomorrow. Meanwhile I'll pray that some of my contacts who have faced what you are now facing will give you the help you need.

Edit:
I never became a jw but throughout my lifetime there have been times when my mother especially kept after me to try to get me to join her. I love my mom but I reject her man-made religion. Not having caller-id I learned that I had to pray BEFORE answering the phone just in case it was her. When I received letters from Mom I had to pray before opening them. There were times when we had a great phone conversation in the morning but then I received an extremely angry letter in the afternoon. I am very careful not to discuss religious matters with Mom because I love her and don't want to argue with her. But there have been times when she has gone to a non-jw funeral or wedding and then is livid about something that she heard in the worship service.

For the people who are doing "nice things" for you why not print out copies of The Father's Love Letter to keep beside the door and give them out saying that you want to give them the very best that you can.

http://www.fathersloveletter.com

For His glory,
JOYfilled

I was under similar pressure once only not JWs. I dug my heels in because I felt sure God had made me FIRST to relate to Him and hear His voice and THEN to be part of His church. I was losing my identity. If they are right, God will show you. If wrong then you must break free. I did. It took a while to heal up but God kept me in His love and to a church where I flourished. Be strong and God bless you.

Hang in there Kid. Your Father has got you and will not leave you. It took me many years to realize that. God is not a man that he should lie.
God is calling you as he has been doing all of us.
I left the JW's also and I understand......
Realize there are hundreds who have seen this post and they are praying for you.

I just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you, that the Lord comfort you and fill you to overflowing with His peace and love. Christ told us in Matthew 11:28 - "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." He will direct your path, Ditto, He loves you and will never forsake you.

God bless you!!!

Ditto,

I am so sorry that you are feeling cornered by this situation. I completely understand where you are coming from...as I watched my husband go thru this very same situation. You have got to stay strong and continue to choose GOD over MEN.

Absolutely under NO CIRCUMSTANCE should you give in and go to the Kingdom Hall just so you don't hurt THEM!!! Think of the PAIN that would bring to our Heavenly Father!

I am praying for the Holy Spirit to keep you strong, that you may be able to overcome their forcefulness.

You must say NO.

xo Anna

JWs are usually very nice people, but your doubts are well founded. I recommend that you check our some different churches. I like the Assembly of God type, myself.

Brother Jesus has set you free! Stay the course do not get sucked back in as you know the truth! Get into a good Christian church get in a Bible study develop new freinds!
Go to Tower Watch Ministries email them they can help I am sure. You are in prayer seek the true light! In Christs name!

Hello. With much love and understanding I speak to you.
My Wife and I just left the Organization and we were a pillar in the congregation we were in. We also have a 10 month old son Jayden is he is such a blessing.

My Wife Raquel was raised as a Witness and I got baptized in Aug. 1996. We have been married for 11 years going on 12 and we use to be regular pioneer's and have been to several different States. For the last year I felt the Holy Spirit upon me and I had some serious doubts that this was really God's Organization. After a year of personal research I knew for a fact that God had nothing to do with this organization.
I spoke to my Wife about it and she also agreed, we walked away that very moment and prayed to be born again Christians.

We were also warned by certain ones that I was killing my new born Son and my Wife and myself by leaving.
After that comment I knew that I had made the right decision to leave that false organization. E mail me anytime, I am here to help and I encourage you to pray and leave as well.

read The Ancient Secret of the Flower of Life

it will change your whole perspective on this trivial stuff :)

really they are just trying to do what they think is best for you and for themselves. you cant blame their intentions really. you just have to find a way to break out of this mind-cage and open your own perspective on the issue and in turn, theirs.

im sure you want the best for them, while keeping your own space for your self. the best thing you can do is listen :)

You're a Jehovah's Witness?

Don't you have some sort of god to pray to or something?
Cripes... I thought the entire point in HAVING a god was to have someone to whine and b|tch at when nobody made of meat will listen.

I am a Jehovah's Witness. I have an aunt in almost this same situation. I suggest studying the Bible and literature for encouragement. If you try it out, you may not feel cornered anymore. Attending meetings can be a great source of encouragement and I'm sure it would make your family very happy as well. Most of all, pray to God for help! If you do nothing else, do this.

Sounds to me as though you're the architect of your own misfortunes in that you have made friends of your enemies, and enemies of your friends.

If you *are* cornered it's because you're facilitating it.

Get in the boat or get out of it. It really IS that simple.