Dating a hot chick with a kid?

good idea/bad idea? I am in no way ready to support a family financially. Soon i will be (once i finish my masters) but i am torn between this whole thing. I am trying to take things slow with her, which is really unusual for me but i see a lot of feelings potentially getting messed up.

I really think she may be the one for me but i tend to hurt people in the end. I don't hurt people purposely, it just seems to happen. Its my nature, I am a Sagittarius and hate being tied down, but I don't see that happening here, shes super cool and giving me space.

Then there is me thinking of the future, wondering where this relationship is going. A year ago raising someone else's kid wasn't on my agenda, I'd like to have a family of my own someday. I refuse to meet the daughter out of fear of her attachment and my abandonment if things don't pan out. Is that wrong?

I can answer this pretty fairly out of personal experience. My wife was a single mother when we first met.

You have to realize that the majority of respectable single mothers (and I say respectable because there are some single moms out there who put their children on the back burner) are going to have a set of rules regarding their children and your interaction with them. If you refuse to meet the daughter then you need to let the mother know upfront. If she's okay with that, then great. If she has some problems then that's something you'll need to address with her. In this situation you are going to be playing according to her rules for a while.

If you haven't watched Jerry McGuire yet go rent it. There is a section of dialogue where this is addressed. Single mothers have been to the puppet show and they've seen the strings.

If you are ready to enter into a relationship with the mother just bear in mind that you are also entering into one with the daughter. There's no way around it. Single mothers don't typically "date", at least from my experience. They are looking for stability, and if you don't think you are ready for that then you need to be very upfront in that regards.

Best of luck and do the right thing!!

BAD idea.. IMO unless your some kind of mr. right mythical figure she is looking for that will love her child as his own

if u love the chick, u gotta love the kid.

i dont think its a bad idea. I mean... you dont even know where its going to go yet since you're still taking it slow, so why not just see where it goes. the worst that happens is that it doesnt work out. but if she's really cool then the fact that she has a kid shouldnt make much of a difference.

i think its probably good of you not to meet her child until you guys have figured out where things are going. whether you want to be a serious couple or not. once you make that decision then its a good time to meet her kid.

I dont think the kid should necessarily make or break your decision of whether to be with her or not. afterall, you might pass up a truly amazing person.

Dont start something your not prepared to see through.I would not like a guy to want to be with me if hes not serious enough to consider our future.You will end up hurting each other.

It's a good ideal. However, you should realize if you start a relationship with the mother you need to start one with the child also. If you are not ready to be a father then leave this woman alone. She comes with baggage attached.

If you do hook up with this woman you can always make a child of your own with her, but the child she has now should still be treated as if it was yours too.

By the way your Zodiac sign has nothing to do with how you treat people in a relationship, that is just a Disco Era version of how to pick people up.

Obviously, you are young, since you are still in school. Just see where the relationship goes. You don't say how long you have gone with this girl, but just take your time.

Forget about your "sign" and what the characteristics are supposed to be. If you don't want to be tied down, you aren't mature enough to consider marriage.

This girl sounds she is sensible by not wanting to rush into anything either. She has her child to think of. When you think you could be serious about her, that's the time to meet the child.

And remember that just because someone says a Saggitarius acts a certain way, that doesn't mean you HAVE to be that way! Be an adult and quit hurting people.

Good luck!