I just can't stop thinking of her my new boss is starting to sense that I'm distracted. Friends stop listening

It's really really tough not thinking of her but I guess she isn't thinking of me. I'm 26 working professional and she is a 22 year old fulltime working adult/ premedstudent. We dated for 2.5 months and it's tough just letting her go. Her reasons are that I wasn't close enough and I can't buy that. It's tough because when we met I lost my job, was behind on my mortgage and a lot of other things. I would spend the night and we would talk about it even to the point of landing my dream job. It's hard because she was there throughout the whole process from going away to training to even the interview process with this job. After 2 weeks of buying her meals on a friend level I told her that I wasn no longer going to do that as friends and now disconnection. She says she just need space and if it works out in the future it works out, and she wasn't dating anyone else. It's tough letting go someone in short time who has been there through times were I felt suicidal and now she is gone.

That's a real bummer, guy.
I've got less than complimentary thoughts for her, like - she's only 22 but already has a holier than though (pre-med) attitude and expects perfection in a mate, kind of thing.

Because you can't change her mind, you have to change your own. The only way to stop thinking about her is to busy your mind on something else exciting. Take up skiing or something with your friends.

You aren't ready to let her go is what it comes down to. I don't really know what you mean by "..that you weren't close". Do you mean close as in the feelings weren't deep enough for her, or that you lived too far apart?

On the other hand, were you too needy and weepy while you were in the dumps and she was just trying to be a shoulder for you to cry on? Maybe she sees you as weak and doesn't like what happens to you when the chips are down. I really don't know, I'm only guessing.

i know it's hard,but you really have no choice except to let her go.who knows she may change her mind,but keep in mind that for many people 22 is too young for a committed relationship and may need to date and grow and find herself.

I think right now you should just feel thankful to her for being there on the time, you even realized, were sooo extremely difficult in your life. Maybe she was trying to be friendly from the beginning and showed it by being there for you and you took things the wrong way. Of course at first she probably let things flow because of the situation you were in and she probably just wanted to make sure you got out of it.... so when she noticed you were seriously heading that way, she just decided to back up ( because thats not what she really wanted). This is something that happens frequently, which is one reason I, as a woman, feel scared to get too close to a man as just a friend because it all ends up wrong most of the time.
Yeaa maybe now she will find excuses to say she doesnt want to be with you, but chances are she felt like that from the beginning but like i said it was not the time to bother you about that...and it's a shame too, that if im right, she is not being completely honest with you now......that old story about the "need of space" and "if in the FUTURE..." that is all BS I've gotten from other people, and of course got the opportinity to use myself, but thats all it is BS!!! when we say that to someone, we truly are not interested in them, in my case, I just could not see him in my future life as more than a friend, it has been years and I still feel the same!!!!!!