Could This Be Why I Don't Have Any Friends??

I've always had difficulty making friends, much less keeping them.

I never understoond why. I have good hygiene, I'm polite in conversation... I respect personal space, and when I do meet people, I'm not needy.

I was with my mom at this baby shower, and I got to talking to this girl that was my age (I'm a girl, too, btw), and I thought I was doing a good job putting myself out there. The conversation didn't really go past basic intro and icebreakers, and it kind of left me wondering why I seemed to bore people.

The next day, my mom told me that she saw me talking to the girl, and told me I had a bored expression on my face, and that I had "stay-away-from-me" body language, and my smile looked forced.

Come to think of it, I *do* find it difficult to let loose and smile in public without forcing it - I guess it shows. I never knew I appeared so unfriendly.

Hypothetically, if I met you, and I looked like how I described, would you avoid me, even if *what* I said was ok?

I never reveal anything about myself unless someone asks. I certainly don't go on and on about myself (except for right now here on YA, lol). I sort of just go along with whatever the other person says.

The first time I meet somebody, body language and demeanor are more important than words. But it's for the opposite reason than you might think. I'm not so much paying attention to their personality, rather their reaction to *my* personality. If I met you and saw what you describe as "stay-away-from-me" body language, my impression would be that you didn't really enjoy talking to me. If you looked bored during our conversation, I wouldn't assume that you're a boring person; I'd think that I am boring to you. So in those cases my perception is that you're not interested in befriending me, so I should direct my efforts elsewhere.

Idk!! Just loosen up!! Laugh at stupid jokes!! Find a common interest!!! People try to talk to me all the time!!! Even going as far as asking 4 my number!! wierd huh!!!?! :)

Look in the mirror. Who are you?

Practicing talking to yourself in the mirror might help. If you don't notice it, then you might have to look pretty close. Watch your hands in conversation also, I was taught to do that in drama class. If you are happy talking to whomever, a smile will come naturally. Hopefully :P

YES, body language speaks louder than words. If you look like you could care less about talking to me then fine, i'll go talk to someone else, even if what you are saying is normal.
Recognizing it is the first step toward changing it. Keep working at it, you'll get it.

I wouldn't avoid you because I didn't like you, but I would avoid you, because I would think that you weren't enjoying talking to me, so I would try to be polite and not talk to you. It seems your problem is you are too concerned with making sure you are polite and acceptable, and you aren't really open with people. I would much rather see the real you and be in disagreement, then talk to a fake you that is oozing with forced politeness. Just be you, and maybe some people won't like you but some people will. This one girl i know is rude as hell, and she still has plenty of friends, because people appreciate her honesty and openness.

well first when u meet peeps then don't keep talking on and on and on ok!! 2 always always this is a big one!! do not tell everythin about ur self the first or second time !! 3 talk for a couple or mins like 1 or 2 i guess do not keep goin and goin just be like so wat about u wat do ya like to do and stuff u no be nice and don't be boring just be ur self but remember don't tell everythin about urself then the next time u meet u will have somethin new to say and hat will make that person to meet u more and more trust mee!!!!

people are more attracted to people who are positive and always have a smile on their face. loosen up a little, dont be afraid to just be yourself