Are there any nice guys in their forties looking for a lady around the same age for companionship and fun?

This is not a solicitation for someone, but merely a question to see how many single men in this age range would like to meet someone not to marry or live with, but to share fun and life with, but let them each carry on their own household and life too. I need to have my own space. I have my habits, and hobbies and I think I would fare much better if I was allowed to keep this and yet still share part of my life with a significant person. Right now I am not looking because I would like to work on my career and re-do my house and spend more time with my kids who are teens, but I know that in about 2 or 3 years, I will want to start to travel and look for someone to share some life with, but not all.

Bloodlust, you honestly need to read the whole question (maybe understand it if you did read it) before you whack off at the mouth. Where in the entire question I posted did I ever say that I was looking on the internet for anyone, or that I didn't want to spend the time getting to know someone first, which is kind of the point of my explanation. For the record my children who are 14 and 16 are proud that their mother ISN'T

Dear Mrs M.

You will not have to look far to find a man that would like to be able to have a friend that enjoys him around from time to time, but doesn't want him under foot all of the time, so you can have a life as a single women also. men some times want the same thing. LOL

Good luck in life and enjoy it to the fullest!

youre words sicken me

odela1950@yahoo.com i want the same as you

cross your fingers and hope your kids don't see this. i would feel disgusted if i knew my mum did something like this, she had a relationship after my parents' divorce but with someone she knew and everything...this is...*ahem* *speechlessness*

i thought that when one grows up, they would be trying to get to know the other and have a slowly-forming relationship.

i don't think that it's wise to choose the one you'll share fun and life with someone over the internet when you're in your 40's...

You are my worst fear!

Don't get me wrong...You are not a bad person for wanting your own life but you ARE exactly what I perceive women my age to become...

What you describe is the 40-yr old version of "friends with benefits". You want a relationship without any of the commitment/compromise that comes with sharing your life with another human being. You are the woman that lists "very independent" in the first paragraph of your dating profile.

Good luck with your search! You can probably find a guy that wants the same thing you do. I just hope you are the exception and not the norm.

(Once again, I don't mean any disrespect. You said you were looking for opinions and this happens to be mine.)

I do not mean to offend you, but are you looking for a partner or a gigolo. There is nothing in your piece about feelings or emotions but rather it sounds like a sort of arrangement;a kind of booty call with maybe dinner and a movie thrown in. If you re-read your piece , you will recognize a woman who has been injured and has since locked up her heart and in the words of Cindy Lyper "just wants to have fun" If I am right, then I hope in 2-3years when you start your odyssey.you will travel with a companion you want to share your whole life with.Hopefully, you will lose the cynicism and the I don't want or need any man state of mind.I think you will discover that two is much better than one.and that having your own space is over rated.