Should I leave my boyfriend?

Every now and then I can't contact my bf for 4-5 days in a row. He won't pick up my calls and doesn't reply to my sms or emails. He will answer other calls etc. and go out with his mates, but refuses to have any contact with me. The first few times, I was worried sick. I went to his place, which is 1hr by public transport and he locked himself in his room and pretended he wasn't home. I know he was there because I rang his phone and I could hear it ringing and his roommate said he should be home. His excuse was he thought he had breast cancer and wanted to be alone??? And now he's saying its because he wants some space from me. Every time I want to break up with him, he asks me to meet up with him face to face, and I can never go through with it. Also, I always have to go to him, he never comes down my area to see me. He lives in the North, and I live in the SE. My friends say I deserve better and my sisters think he's a jerk. But I love him and want to be there for him, what do i do?

It doesn't sound like he's merely a jerk, it sounds as if he's mentally unstable! If he won't tell you a reason why he's unreachable, it may be that he's really ashamed of something he's feeling or something he's done. Really weird excuses are not normal and shouldn't be tolerated. He may possibly need professional help.

You say you want to "be there for him", but he very obviously does not want to return the same courtesy to you. if he won't come to you, that's a sign he's using you and doesn't show an ounce of respect for you or for himself.

If the love you obviously show for him doesn't move him to care more about YOUR feelings, then he is NOT worth any of your precious time, sweetie. Move on and find someone worthy of that great love you have inside you!

get rid of him he is only playing you round, if he really liked you then he would answer his phone and make contact with you atleast every second day. piss him off and find some one with a brain, that can treat you how you should be treated!

You need to face facts - he is uncontactable, you have to go and see him, he won't come and see you, he makes up really lame excuses. Your sister is right, he is a jerk!

You need to ditch him!

get rid of him, hes clearly living some double life if he see you for a few days and then is gone and unreachable for 4-5 days. theres either another girl in the picture somewhere or he's too scared to have a real relationship, get rid of him he sounds like a loser.

what the hell he thought he had breast cancer???
sounds like a total weirdo if you dont mind me saying!- finish with him!!
you do deserve better !! it sounds obvious that he doesnt appreciate you !

leave him and move on. u deserve a better guy. look...u treasure him so much but he doesn't....when he tried to avoid, u worry and came to look for him..but does he care? He doesnt treasure wateva u did for him. find someone better. in the end, he's the one that lose...because he lose someone that treasure him but u lose someone that don't bother at all....cheer up ya....since he wana be alone, just leave him and move on. I know its hard....but time will heal the pain. Sometimes in life, we say it's hard to forget someone..its hard to move on after a break. But when we look back and found someone better, we regret for wasting our time crying over a jerk...I've been through the same thing and i finally realise that i was stupid to waste my time with a guy like him. Don't cry over a guy..they are not worth ur tears.Keep urself busy and spend more time with your friends. I'm sure u can do it. Its just a matter of whether u want or not...tkc...=)

i am sorry to say this but i wholeheartedly agree with your friends he obviously is using you and the relationship you have with him will never amount to any more than it is now if you want a decent relationship with a decent guy and not a complete jerk dump him before he hurts you even more

why are you still with him ??????

++++ him off.he using you. WASTER..

There is no easy way to say this to you. This situation with your man your having is not new to thousands of women.
But here it is, sad to say, he is seeing another woman or he wants to see other woman!! He is giving you flashing warning signs that he is not ready for any committed relationship. You may be hurting but you have to think outside of the box you have been in with him. For example what if you married him? Would you rather find out he is not worthy after you said I do? or before? Listen there are so many Fiiine, hard working respectful men out there, but your still trying to see a man who doesn't want to see you. Yes it's going to be very painful and I mean painful so go in a quiet space and cry your eyes out be a mess for heartbreak 4 about 2 weeks. But then fix your hair, buy a new outfit, hangout with your sis, and friends and keep looking up so you won't miss the cuties that are trying to say hi. Here is the secret to your problem to deal with him. Stop calling him, that includes vm, or IM, no email of any kind., do not go to his house, blow him off trust me you will be glad you did. You will laugh at yourself when you finally realized how much of a joke your man really was. oh and one more thing never go back to an eaten apple!!!!

you need to leave him...he sounds like real imature jerk. what kind of man gets breast cancer. he obviously would rather be away from you than near you why would you want to wait around for someone like that you need to stand up for yourself and face him face to face if thats what he wants and tell him your done with his bull **** and that you know you can do better for yourself and tell him that you will have no problem finding someone that really loves you and always wants to be around you. stand up for yourself dont let him run your life. if he locks him self in his room and he knows that your there he dont love you. ditch him.

there is a simple rule of thumb when dealing with "whether you should dump him or not..... if u have to ask... the answer is yes...

To be quite honst, he does sound like a jerk, BUT! Men can have breast cancer too,
So here is my advice, Check into man breast cancer its out there, but I am sure the symptoms are quite easy to recongize, then if he is lying, well. You know what to do.
Look at above answers for help otherwise.