Why can't I get this guy to date me?

I'm a good looking, fun, outgoing girl, but I have been having terrible luck with guys lately. The most recent guy I have been hanging out with totally gives me butterflies in my stomach. I can tell he likes me by the way he kisses me, he says he wants to hang out, but then doesn't call me. He is a really nice guy and I can tell he is different then all the other guys that I have met recently. We are both 20 and sophmores in college so it's not like we are looking to get married or anything. I've been giving him space, but he knows that I am interested in him. I really like him and I just don't know what to do anymore, I need some real advice, please don't just post something to get points. Thanks!

STOP kissing him until he is your boyfriend. Maybe that is why, he is probably kissing other girls and thinks you are kissing other guys. SHUT IT DOWN

ummmmmmmm duh he likes you! he kisses you!

if the feeling isnt there, it isnt there.

not sure

step up ur game
flirt with him alot
and call him if he doesent call u to like hang or somethin
if he doesent pick up maby its not the guys maby its just u lol

strip

I know this is not what you want to hear, but I would forget about guy problems and focus on my school work. Also, if you're showing him less attention, that might peek his interest. Sometimes we give off a vibe of desperation when we're really into someone and that puts guys off. Ignore him and focus on your work. Maybe that will make him come around and if not, at least you'll have better grades.

well, continue to contact the guy. if he doesn't contact you after 2-3 more times then you need to move on. you don't want a relationship with a guy that you can't get a hold of. I'm sure he's a great guy but maybe he's too lazy to call you or something.

He likes you! But he is too nervous. Try to be more relaxed and more comfortable around him. Call him up and show that you care.

he more than likely, really likes you too, but is playing hard to get. play it cool and im sure you will hear from him again. if he really likes you, he wont let ya get away! :-)

......i think you're just looking in the wrong direction, and trying to hard.
this guy thats kissing you?? sorry, but sounds to me like hes not out for "dating" you, he's looking for something else.
Move on, .and when the right guy comes along you'll know it..

i'm surprised by how many here think cus the guy kisses you that hes "into" you as a girlfriend, ...
...He wants one thing..and i hope you're not going to give it to him!......

Maybe the giving him some space isnt working. Instead of asking him to call, tell him you'll call him to make plans. Guys are weird like that they won't call you even though they like you. So be the one to take charge a little. Maybe he'll be turned on by it :) Good luck

That guy, you should just leave him alone now. He knows you're interested but he keeps blowing you off. So either he's actually busy doing other things in his life or he's just stringing you along. Start dating other people and he may come around. But he sounds like the type of guys I date. This is how they act BEFORE they show you what jackasses they are. But if this one turns out to be really nice and right for you, then he'll come around. Don't dwell on it. The best things in life happen when you least expect it.

ask him out. he's probably focused on colledge, and graduating

Dont force it. If he is really into you, then he will come around. If he continues to play you like he is, then he doesn't deserve you. The best way is to just ask him. Ask if he wants a relationship, if not, tell him goodbye. Just remember that you have the rest of your life infront of you. But also remember that now you are both adults, and that you come first. Make yourself happy before everyone else. If he gets upset that you dont want to hang around because he's only into getting booty, then he wasn't worth it in the first place. If he is understanding and tells you he just needs a little more time, then go with it. But I honestly think he's playing you. You can't make a serious decision about how much somebody likes you based solely on their kiss. If he was really into you, he wouldn't leave you hangin.

Well, i'm in 9th grade so i haven't had as much experience as you, but if i were you i would try talking to him. It always helps if you just talk to them cause guys can be stupid sometimes. I know that ya'll have a chance but you both have to take it. Good luck!! :D

dont let him kiss you unless you go out because then he'll want to go out with you so he can kiss you then if you dont let him any other time

you have to step it up a little more.
dont just wait for him to call you,
you have to step up your game and flirt with him
show him that you like him as well...
try calling him yourself more
maybe he might think that your not that interested..
u have to prove him wrong (:

When are girls going to get smart about this "hanging out" business?
He can tell you're are "mooning" over him, and he isn't going to committ to calling you or anything else, as long as he can just meet you somewhere and make-out. Don't just give him space, give him the boot....guys like to work for what they get, they like a challenge, and you just aren't. So change your attitude, put some distance between the two of you, and have a few dates with other guys. If he is interested he will sit up and take note.

Dont show him so much interest. I'm 27 years old and i have learned that the more attention you give a guy the more you push him away. As soon as a guys notice that ur'nt interested they start getting closer to you trying to get your attention back. So my advise to you is to take a step back and don't let him think that he is all that... Good luck

Aww that's just great! Don't call him all the time and don't seem to eager. Be mysterious! It always work. Like once in a while send him a flirty text message. If you see him regularly give him a wink, smile and a wave and continue to do what you're doing. Or when you guys kiss, give him a short sweet kiss, making him want more, but don't give him that. Don't completely ignore him because that would make him get the wrong impression. Just be yourself and flirt, but not that much. Keep it on the minimum. I hope this helps! And good luck with your boo ;)

Well what would be wrong with you taking the the big leap, and asking him out, and or just asking him if in fact he is interested in you as per-hap's more than a Friend?

From the sounds of it, he doesn't know what he wants, because if he wants to hang out with you, but doesn't call you. That is contradicting his actions from his words. You need to be upfront with him. Because hanging out to a 20 year old guy is totally different from what we expect as women. Also, dating has no value, because you can date someone and have no commitment, but a relationship does. Since your so young and have a whole life ahead of you, enjoy those single moments. Trust me, just have fun and let the moment happen.

Some things you can't force, this may be one of them. You don't want to go overboard, compromise yourself or do anything unwise. You'd still end up without a long-lasting intimate relationship. This is what you're apparently seeking.

Back off, stay friends and let it go...

there is such a thing as making yourself, too available. Try not showing up all the time, find yourself somewhere else to go or be, now and then. If asked, say you had somewhere to go, or something else to do. Put a little mystery, into it. Shake him and things up a little.........predictability can be so boring at times. Let him think, he might not be, the be all and end all, in your life right now. Bet it works.