I'm I doing the Right thing by saying Good bye???

I have was going out with this man for 1year and things were really good we loved each very much but I had to break it off because I find that things were extremely complicated. He was planning on moving overseas because he wanted to live over there with his family and because of a career change not just that I was 20 and he was 31 my family did not known that I was dating him. I always told him that I would be willing to move over there with him and that I would do what ever it took to make it work out. He said no, because he did not want me to get married at a young age and because he thought that it would be even more difficult to leave my family so we both decided that we would stay as friends and that we would just give each other some space
After so many months he asked me out, I said no and he got upset with me and stopped talking to me so I just left it at that. nevertheless a few weeks ago he asked me out again and he said that he really need to see me or if we could just hang out I said yes because when I first meet him he was my friend so I said that it would be like old times but before I even went out with him again he asked if I would take things further like have sex but I said no because I wanted to wait until I was married he got really upset and said that he known that but he just didn鈥檛 know how to control these feelings and that this was something he wanted he didn鈥檛 want to just date even when I made it clear to him that I just wanted to be friends so now I have just blocked him out all together why is he doing this and Im I doing the right thing! I still love him but I don鈥檛 want to be used like that

You are doing the right thing. You already told him you wanted to wait until you were married. He seems as if he has disregarded your wishes by continuing to ask you. If he can't understand than why bother with him any more. You are young and there will be plenty of time for fulfilling relationships in your life!
You know what I don't understand is why he is so confident that you are too young for marriage but old enough to have sex with. That does not make sense to me. He wants his cake and and eat it too! What i do know is that Guys can be physically needy and who am I to say that he loves you or not. But based on what you've said he seems to me like a selfish guy who wants a a quickie before he goes.

you are doing the right thing. move on.

Yeah your doing the right thing, If he truly cared for you he'd back off and quit asking you.

Yes, you are doing the right thing. Go on girl! You are strong, you can make it through.

Good for you! Stand your ground. You are absolutely doing the right thing. It sounds like he just wants to have sex with you or he would respect your decision. Don't give in, he doesn't deserve you.

you over complicate, he dosent want to use you, hes attracted to you. Keep things simple is what i say

ok this is very complicated. i have been in a lot of crap in my short 17 year old life but this is kinda crazy. from wat i got outta wat u said he wasnt respecting your wishes of wishin to stay a virgin until marriage. that is a big deal. i dont think you should ever just shut someone out of your life but if he cant live with just being friends then i guess u kinda have to do wat u did. so as far as i can tell u did wat you had to do.

That a tough one, it sounds like he moved out there wanting a fresh start thinking that he coild cope withoug you, or that he wouldnt miss u and he was wrong.
Its hard for some one to have feelings for some one and not want to have sex with them and i guess he jus wants to have that intimate feeling with you to i dont know but it sounds like he really likes you but doesnt want you to make such a big decision by moving your life out there with him, either that or theres the possibility he his hiding something out there? like a child? a girlfriend maybe? i dont know.
Any way dont be mad with him for him wanting to date u again and stuff he obviously loves you and cant bear to just be friends but if u feel u cant cope with the stress of a long distance relationship then tell him, its friends or nothing, Dont block him out, tel him how u feel, tell him you either want to be friends or nothing at all, if he cant cope with that then he should put ur happiness first and just leave it,
if u r a virgin and u want to wait til ur married then great be stronf and keep at it but dont beat ur self up if u do accidently find your self doing it, love is great but its even better with sex.

Sweetie u'r doing the absolutely right thing..just stick to it...and dont let him complicate u'r life..ur young and u will meet someone who is right for you so dont let this guy take advantage of you..

yep sometimes letting go is hard but sounds like you are doing the right thing by letting him go.

You are very and at this young age I admire your control , even though you love him. I think he is using your feelings for him to get sexual favours. Besides, his advise on not marrying early seems selfish as it seems he is not sure about you and him. Better to block him from your life ! You will get a guy who will respect your feelings for him.