Do I confront him now or just let him go?

Ive been divorced for 4 yrs/ bf 1, met my boyfriend online. We were together for three months and everything was amazing. We never fought, our kids got along well. He was absolutely perfect for me in every way. We had such an intense relationship and he was the one wanting to take it to the next level. He moved a lot of his things in and then about two weeks later he left and I never heard from him. When we talked he stated that he was scared he was going to get hurt in that hes never felt for anyone like he does me. He wanted to get through it vs. breaking up. He also stated he wanted to spend his life with me. I gave him the option of space so he could figure it out. He didnt want that. So seemed things were ok. Then 5 days later he left my house and I thought everything was ok and once again nothing. I got a text message that it was over and thats it. All his belongings are at my house. He hasnt called me after leaving a few messages and I also wrote a letter. It's been three weeks.

Confront him

what a loser! tell him to get his stuff out of your place and you need to move on. if not for you, for the kids sake. its bad enough they went thru a divorce with their father but now they see you with this basket case. very unstable. do you want your kids to mimmick you?

Time to drop all his junk off at a relatives house ( his relative ) and move on with your life. There are plenty of jerks out there and you just found one. Don't even talk to him if he tries to contact you in the future, so he knows what it feels like to screw over someone. I mean it, no contact, it's for your better frame of mind.

will he left his stuff hmmmmmmmm will its obvious that he left it there because it gives him an excuse for him to come back if he comes back ask him what the hell is going on??????then leave him unless it was out of his control....

Tell him to get his junk and hit the bricks. Meeting someone on line usually don't work. He's a looser.you deserve better.

Don't waste your time. You should be glad you found this out now. He could have moved in and after months of effort he would have broken your heart and your children's. So just put he stuff in a nice pile in the basement or send him a certifide mail with a time and date to pick his things up. If he dont give them to good will.

this is a pretty sad story. just let it go for your own sake. he would probably be happy with you but there's clearly so much other stuff he is dealing with or not dealing with that this behaviour will just continue and you'll be the only one hurt by it. Well, your kids will too. For your kids sake put up some boundaries. No moving in for a year or something. That way, it's not as dramatic and hurtful for you guys as a family.

One other thing? He has a very controlling ex wife. Could this be happening becasue of pressure from her. This guy was so together, no signs of unstability, a great dad, was involved in his church. I would at least like an answer as to what happened and I dont know how to get one from him. Ive contemplated going by his house to see if he would talk to me but then again I want an answer not to beg for him to take me back. I feel like if I dont get an answer i'll go nuts. Also he has so much stuff here at my house-could he have left it as an excuse to come back? I was really in love with him and I don't get close to people-this is the first and ive dated a lot nor have I onvolved anyone with my kids before. My son idolized him and they spent a lot of time together. I miss him so much. Could someone love you and then just get scared? How long should I wait to confront him?