What should I do, my boyfriend broke up with me and I feel like killing myself?

We had been together for eight years. We have gone thru some really rough times. He thinks that I slept with his Uncle because of a rumor! I didn't and I can't convince him otherwise. He told me yesterday that he has been seeing this girl that I know and having sex with her. She has Hepatitis C and he knows this. I've begged him to not break up with me. He said, at first, that he just needed space and time to think. I know he's been using drugs with her. Could he just be saying these things 'cause of the drugs. I need him so bad. Should I write him a letter explaining all my feelings? He doesn't even care if I kill myself. He is so selfish. I'm 34 and I don't think I could meet anyone else. Please help.

The help you need is so completely far beyond what you'll receive here, that I shudder to think you even asked the question. Go to the professionals.

NO you don't need him and he's exposed himself and possibly you with hepatitis. I'm sorry your feelings are tied up but he's using the rumor to justify his dogging around.

He's a dog. Does drugs too? How does he sound like a sexy winner to you?

Seek professional help for yourself and get tested for STD's like TODAY. Get away from him.

ok he sounds like such a loser! You are way better then that. Find another man cuz he aint worth it!

You can meet someone else, so get that part out of your head now. My fear is the depression. Do you have a couselor? Anybody you can talk to? You need to fix yourself in order to be good for others. Thats your first priority.
Second, he is clearly a loser, and you have vested too much time with him already. You may not see this now, but soon you will. God Bless.

there is a better option then tryin to help a drug addict who says he sleeps with other girls, find a guy who doesnt do drugs and sleeps with other girls.........you'll be way happier!!!

You can't use a threat of killing yourself as a way of getting someone back. If they don't want to be with you than you will just have to accept that and move on. Suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do, so remember that when you throw around that word.

best tip dont kill urself with 34 u should still easily find sum one

The internet is not the best place to seek help...tell your parents or Doctor or anybody you trust

I don't know but you shouldn't kill yourself over this.

Chill,he does not care about you,this is CLEAR,MOVE ON,34 IS STILL VERY YOUNG,AND YOU NEED TO FIND Mr. RIGHT,SOMEONE WHO WILL RETURN YOUR LOVE,AND be there for you. move on,and be happy you did not marry this loser.

Come on girl, this doesn't sound healthy........you're 34, you've got so much going for you, why would you want a loser like that, and to think you're letting him have that kind of power over you. There are so many good guys out there, who will treat you way better........

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Look, I know you're hurt right now.
But killing yourself is not the answer. I tried to after my ex broke up with me and am lucky to be here today to tell heartbroken people like you that IT IS NOT THE ANSWER to your pain.

You have to let him go.
I know you love him and need him but you can't be with someone who treats you so badly and casts you off when he wants.
It's not fair on you.
You need to take care of yourself.

If your suicidal feelings are that bad, go to your doctor, immediately.
I was put on anti-depressants and they really help.

And do stop in at soyouvebeendumped.com
It'll help, I promise.

Concern,
SuperKylie..
x

Oh honey... you shouldn't "need" anyone in your life... you are with someone because you CHOOSE to be with them... not because you NEED them... He's gone and you should forget about it...maybe he did have sex with this girl, maybe he didn't. The truth of the matter is he isn't going to believe anything you say because he doesn't want too. And, if he has had sex with this girl, you would want him back why?? To contract Hep C yourself?? Sorry honey... you need to grow up and get on with your life. You shouldn't be so "needy", it's just so unattractive. Get some backbone, some self respect... you can go on with your life and get anyone else you want....

Jessica, you are a bright, wonderful woman. Why waste your time with this guy. You have a whole future ahead of you, don't throw it away. He has probably contracted some disease by now. You will find another who will treat you better than this guy ever will. Try to cheer up, I know it's hard--but good women are hard to find. If something should happen to you someone will spend the rest of their life not knowing you!!! Good luck-----------------------------------

dont be rediculous.you will meet someone else.let him and his hepatitus go.whats your phone #

ck this website...lots of help here

http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com

Hunny... If he doesn't care if you kill yourself, then he's not worth it. That IS just being selfish and you dont need someone like that in your life; whether you've been with him eight years or not. He apparently doesn't care what ya'll had, so why should you? There are more fish in the sea babe. Don't waste your life on someone selfish like that. You'll find someone else. If it didn't work out with him... something was meant to be. Shake it off and stand back up on your two feet and just think... it's his loss. :D
Hope this helps
Heather

Sweety get a grip on your life.

What would you say to a friend who was involved with someone on drugs. To stay with anyone like this is to put yourself in danger. Him leaving you may have been for the best and 34 isn't too old. My father and mother did not meet untill they were in their 40's. Take this time to take stock of your life. You sound like a nice sweet woman with a lot of love to give and you deserve to get loved the same way back. Don't continue to pine for someone who has passed up something great.

Your life is worth more than a relationship. I know I tried to kill myself once and am just now starting to shake off all the consequences (7 years later). Feel free to e-mail me if you need someone to talk to, but please don't do anytihng drastic.

Ok for a start you feel so **** because you have been a part of him for so long and dont know any different. you have lost who you are and dont know yourself anymore. I dont know why you would want to be with someone who has slept with someone else and uses drugs but you are willing to put up with anything just because you cant see yourself living without him.
you need to rediscover yourself and learn to love yourself! He is destroying you! you are worth so much more,you just need to get your confidence back, you will meet someone else when the time is right.
i hope you have friends and family to support you at this time.i am always here if you need to mail me :-)

I'm sorry that you feel so bad but there is no way that you should let this man walk all over you. He has admitted that he is cheating on you and that this woman has Hepatitis C. While having Hep C in itself is not any thing to condemn, is he using protection with you and with her or is he putting your health at risk.

You know he's selfish and he is emotionally blackmailing you. If you have been together for 8 years then he will know when you tell him the truth that you did not sleep with his uncle. However, it seems like he wants to believe this so that he can have his space and see this other woman while all the time pretending that you are to blame.

At 34 you are not too old to meet someone else but by staying with this man you are wasting your time and he is stealing years from you where you could be happy with some else. Make a break now and don't be asking this question again at 44. Best of luck!

What you should do right now is go see a mental health professional such as a psychiatrist, psychologist if you're feeling suicidal and desperation. He's not a good guy for you, he's toxic. Go borrow this book from the library: Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives by Laura C. Schlessinger


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Hello Jessi, You should not settle for less than what you deserve and it is clearly not him. Let me put it in prospective for you. Unless you are using drugs as well that is not good for you. You deserve to be treated like the beautiful person you are. Killing yourself will only make one person miss out on the blessing you can be to them. I know that what you are feeling right now sucks but trouble don't last always. You will look back and say why was I thinking like that. Start by valuing you as a very good woman and has a lot to offer someone.

If you are clean, you don't want to be caught up in drugs or Hep C. No need to explain to him what he wants, he is now doing it. Yes, he is being selfish but you knew that all ready, so it is time to move on. IT is time to do some self evaluation and get what you deserve. A person who can treat a whole lot better than your ex.

If this all started with a "rumor", is it possible to kill this rumor first....get this uncle of his and set a meeting with both these together and let him see reason......I understand this looks a bit odd but then I feel that the water is already tuching your head....its high time to start swimming...hope you got my point.

Secondly, if he really had sex or not cannot be judged on assumptions....if he did, you shd get him test for all sexually transmitted diseases provided you are all willing to take him back at any cost and in any shape...

Third, writing a letter should not do harm to you...but whether he understands your feelings in that could be a point of discussion...but you can give it a try....

Fourth, I am ignoring the point that "he is selfish" as an abrupt feeling you are using to rest your back on...but if thats not true - why worry so much about all this....!!!

Don't ever take your life please! it's not worth it. What would it solve? If he is doing drugs, you need to try to find help for him immediately. Even if you have to go to authorities to bust him. he will appreciate it in the long run that you care and want to help. When someone is doing drugs they cant think straight. call a drug prevention and ask what you can do to get help for someone that doesn't think he has a problem, they WILL help you.
Good Luck!!

Dont talk about it, be about it!

Well for starters you should be happy that you don't have kids to worry about .
Aren't you glad he showed his true colors before you married.
Him saying you cheated was just an excuse for him to do it, that is what he tells himself to make it okay.
What is so special about him that you don't want to let go?
Couldn't be that he gave you Hepatitis.
Couldn't be that he cheated on you.
Couldn't be that he makes you feel like crap.
Couldn't be because he has a big d!ck cause no d!ck is worth that.
You said your self he is selfish, do you really want or need that kind of person.
How do you know their isn't someone out their for you?
Stop letting this guy make you feel worthless.
Put your head up keep your eyes forward and try to move on,
When thoughts of him come into your mind think about all the bad times you had with him and how much your life is a peace now.
He has taken enough from you so stop letting him win.

Sweetie, you need to seek counseling. You should not be threatening to kill yourself. He is not worth it. You need to get as far as you can away from him. STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM. He is doing drugs and having sex with someone who has Hepatitis C. This diease is very dangerous to your health. I have a friend who has Hepatitis C. He infected his girlfriend. She died from it. Go have yourself tested immediately.

As to finding someone else, you are in the prime of your life. Women become women in their 30's before they are girls. Enjoy these years because you will shine. Look around, you will see many guys looking for a good woman. God bless.

your boyfriend is using excuses to try and break up with you-let him go and count your blessings...........
At 34 your best years are ahead of you. There is another guy out there for you who will treat you as the special person you are,why would you be willing to settle for crumbs when you deserve the whole cake?
eight years is a long time together-all the good -bad times shared but a relationship is a forward moving thing and staying together for what it was will not work.
Be done with this guy who has no respect for you or your feelings or your health.Don't let him drag you and your heart through his crap...............

O-kay, first of all please get the idea that you need to kill yourself out of your head. That's only going to make him think you are psycho. If he's telling you he's been sleeping with this girl, he could either be lying to hurt you, so you could feel the pain that he felt when he heard what happened between you and his uncle, or he could really be sleeping with her. Either way, do you think your relationship will be able to work when the trust has gone out the window? I know right now you are thinking with your heart and feel the only way to console it is by getting him back...It will only be temporary happiness, soon enough all of your issues will return to the surface and cause arguments. There is someone else out there for you, but you are blocking him out. IF you don't move on you will never know. Right now you feel like your world is falling apart ((when in fact, it's just your relationship falling apart, what about your family or friends? do they not have a meaning in your life?)) you don't understand why this is happening to you.. But when that time comes, you will look back at everything you have gone through with your ex and be glad that the relationship ended. Even if you don't meet anyone for a while, it's okay. Spend time alone, love yourself first. I know people always say that, and you think yeah yeah, you do it! But guess what, I have done that.. and it's the best feeling ever. You will get to the point where you feel like you don't NEED him or any other man. Don't sell yourself short by begging this man to come back to you. If he truly Loves you, he will come back..Never make them try to come back, you'll be wasting your time and energy. He has all these reasons/excuses as to why the two of you can't be together, so even if he does take you back it will never be the same, he may do it out of pity.. Don't except that. Stand up for yourself and take this break up as a lesson learned. I know this break up process is not going to be easy, but neither is the relationship you are trying so hard to mend. Tell me something...if he is "so selfish" why do you want him back? I wouldn't write him anything! He should know how you feel especially if this has been going on for 8 years. I don't know what type of music you like, but listening to Keyshia Cole's new CD Titled, Just like you, helped me.

And know that it's okay to cry (but please do that at home and not at work in front people) Be strong!
I hope you learn to find happiness and peace within yourself and not expect to find it through someone else...
Have a great day! :)

Don't kill yourself, because things will always change. I know people who've had tough times, but they get through it, and I can't imagine if they committed suicide and I wouldn't have them to talk to anymore. If he believes a rumor, then maybe he isn't that strong-minded. Also, he's stupid to sleep with a girl with STDs and do drugs with her, that's just ASKING for trouble! Don't put yourself at risk for STDs or drug side effects! Try and keep distant from him. Remember there will always be someone else. He's not worth your time if he's always doing drugs, you need someone clear minded.