My Girlfriend of 3 years needs space? What can I do to save our relationship??

I have been with the same girl for 3 years and up until about 3 months ago have mainly been hanging out with each other and occasionally other friends. Before she met me she was a smoker and a partier, but dramatically calmed down because of me, as I am not into that stuff. Now, she has begun hangin out with other friends that she has met and is back into that partying lifestyle. About 2 months ago she got drunk and cheated on me and things have been going downhill ever since. She continued to communicate with that same individual that she cheated on me with, and of course I would get angry about it. Eventually, I forgave her and tried to get on with our relationship. Now she wants "space" and does not want to communicate or hang out with me. I know she is hanging out with the other guy, as a "friend" while she is out with other friends. Obviously, I am devastated and feel helpless. What steps should I take from here? because I would really like to save our relationship

dont try to save the relationship..she dont want to be with you anymore..your better off..you dont want her to keep cheating on you..if you take her back, she will cheat

The only thing you can do is to let her go. Cut off contact, let her go. If she wants the party life and guy friends, then she's wanting her freedom, and the more you try to hang on, the harder she'll pull to get away. I know it hurts, but we can't control others. Only ourselves. I hope that she'll change her mind, but just let her go do what she wants and don't be there to pick up the mess she makes. Go on with your life and find someone more reliable.

I'm sorry but it sounds like she doesn't want to be with you any more. Concentrate on moving on and finding someone whose values are more compatible with yours. You shouldn't be with someone that treats you like that.

Give her space but tell her you have a limit. After a week if she stills needs space, give her all the space she wants and dump her.

sounds like she got bored with you not being a partier. She may not want it to be saved. Yall just may be too different.

There is a song by Devin the Dude
"So you say you need some time, to find yourself and free your mind.....I can see it clear, I'm no longer needed here"

See it clear man

Let her go, she doesn't seem like she wants to be with you. There's no way to salvage the relationship. Obviously, she hasn't changed; you can't change anyone. You need someone who genuinely wants a relationship.

It seems as if your girlfriend wants to go back to her old lifestyle, but would you still accept her if she did that and could you live with that?
If she is going back to partying and smoking and cheating on you, then maybe you want to evaluate if she is a person you really want to be with.
If you really want to save your relationship, then you should accept him terms for taking a break while you reflect on the relationship while she does as well. She'll come to you. She might feel crowded if you try to talk to her. If this time out lasts longer than you think it should then maybe you should give her an ultimatum saying, "I want to be in a relationship with you, but I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to be in one with me." If she says no and says she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, then it might be a good idea to break up. I know it will hurt, but people change over the years and sometimes there is nothing to be done about it.
I hope you and your girlfriend can work it out, if not, then I'm sure whoever your next girlfriend is will be lucky to have you. Best of luck!

here's whats happening...

She cheated on you and she enjoyed it. She is still seeing this guy and she is still cheating on you i bet. She probably has a huge thing for this guy and she probably never thinks about you anymore. She obviously wants something else and is tired of you.

Now, this girl obviously never got the partying and stuff out of her system before she calmed down to be with you. Dont be sad about this, you are not with a good girl anyways. Anybody that cheats does not respect you and thinks of you as a toss away. A person that truely loves another person would never do this. Forget about anything long term with this girl, you are just gonna set yourself up to be hurt real bad.

Be a man and have some respect for yourself! This girl cheated on you and she wont even stop seeing the guy!!! What does that say about her. Really man, just pack up your stuff and leave her behind and dont even say goodbye to her. 3 years is a long time to be with someone, but she cheated on you!!

Sorry to hear about this, but you need to give her up. Shes not worth more trouble! Get yourself a good girl!