I NEED GIRLFRIEND HELP! Does she just need space, or is it something else? THANKS!?

met my girlfriend last new years eve at a party, we have been dating since then. We are both early 20's.

A few months after we started dating, she pretty much stayed at my place every night, and just recently moved in.

Since she has moved in, she has been more onry, and it seems like she is just really independent, and wants her space, which is fine, i started hanging out with my friends more often, and it seemed to be helping but..

A few days ago, we were kinda arguring, and she just completly broke down. She started crying, and was mumbling about how we used to be so happy and now all we do is argue, and how we took things to fast when she moved in.

I completley agree with her, it is soon to live together, and I should just have one of my friends move in instead of her..

But now she wants to take a break and not really see eachother until she moves out, which is going to be like 2-3 weeks, which is fine with me but..

.but I am just worried that we will not get back together.

Everything was PERFECT between us, but this last month or so we have just been arguing non stop, and it has sucked.

I felt a break was a good thing too, and I feel that she just need some space, am I right? Or should I be worried?

I think I will just let her have a few days to herself before trying to talk to her again, after she broke down she went to her moms and is staying there, I won't bug her.

Her sister told me she does this all the time with guys, which worries, but I love her to death and I don't want to ever loose her, I am just hoping things work out for the best...

Suggestions?

Girls don't usually say they need "space" unless they are gently trying to let you loose.
She may want a chance to "test" out someone else.......
Watch out.

no advice but funny avatar!

She is having an affair. Period. Kick her to the curb.

this sounds mean but i dont mean for it to be. why dont you just ask her instead of asking random people online just ask her and dont hesitate

Everyone is different...i had the same issue with my guy wanting his space...he worked all week and only had the weekends to unwind and see me and his friends and he had no time to do all those things. I was selfish and didnt understand till now. It hurt me but I eventually realized he did need his space. Let he unwind ..she could be overwhelemed with school...and scared about her feelings with you. sometimes it freaks ou out when u realize how much you love and need someone. let her chill ...and cool off..she will come around..I knwo how you feel...but it will get better...u can ask me anything you need to know

If her sister says she always does this with guys- buddy be happy to be rid of her! Trust me, she isn't the only "perfect" girl for you. It seems like this is probably a habit for her, that doesn't work out, and she refuses to change it. Dude, do you want to live your life like that with her?
Pack her up and drop her and her stuff off at moms- have a great nite out with the guys and give it time.

I don't know what to tell you why wouldn't she want to be around you? Maybe there is more to this story that meets the eye. I hope the best for both of you.

her moving out sounds like the perfect solution, you two just werent ready for that step. You aren't broken up so that means the feeling is mutual. Don't fear losing her or you will. You guys can get through this, it's minor

i think giving her time is a good idea. then once she cools down from that arguement, ask her what she wants to do about all this and just let her know that you are scared that you guys won't get back together after this break. tell her what's going through your head so she knows where you stand on things and then she will most likely open up to you too. good luck!

Man, welcome to my world....we are going through the same thing. The best thing to do it what everytone told me...let her be give her her 'space'. if you are a good man, she will be back...if she doesnt she was never yours in the first place.....at least that is how i am taking it.

I JUST WANT TO SAY I KNOW WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM. ME AND MY BOYFRIEND MOVED IN TOGETHER AND WE WERE BOTH GETTING ON EACH OTHERS NERVES, I THINK IT JUST TAKES PEOPLE TIME TO ACTUALLY LEARN ABOUT WHAT TICKS THE OTHER PERSON OFF WHAT THEY LIKE AND WHAT THEY DONT.

THE BIGGEST MISTAKE THAT I THINK THAT YOUNG PEOPLE MAKE IS MOVING IN TOO SOON, WITHOUT REALLY KNOWING THE OTHER PERSON.

I MEAN YOU CAN BE WITH SOMEONE FOR YEARS AND YEARS AND FINALLY MOVE IN AND THE PERSON MAY COMPLETELY SURPRISE YOU. SO I SUGGEST GIVING HER SOME SPACE AND LET HER THINK AND YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT THIS AS WELL.

THEN IN A COUPLE OF DAYS CALL HER AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND LET HER TELL YOU HOW SHE FEELS. MAKE SURE YOU TELL HER THAT IF SHE WANTS TO MOVE OUT SHE CAN AND THAT YOU WONT HOLD THAT AGAINST HER, BUT LET HER KNOW THAT YOU STILL WANT TO BE WITH HER.

I HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE BIT. GOOD LUCK!

Yeah, it seems like moving in together was not the right thing to do. What have you two been arguing about lately? Does it have to do with things that happen since you've been living together? You know, I read in magazines that until you are married, it is best to see your significant other 3-4 times a week. This may seem hard (My boyfriend of 3 years and I have been living together for about 6 months now) but I do believe that it would work. It would keep the spark and excitement in the relationship. Having my boyfirned move in with me was a mistake. The things he does bother me - like when he uses the bathroom and it smells and I have to take a shower right after, or how he takes up the whole bed at night, or makes a mess and I have to clean it. Sometimes you are just not ready for that yet. Maybe that is what she is going through. The whole thing with her telling you she wants a 2-3 week break . . I don't know about that. I've used that excuse when I wanted to end the relationship but was to scared to hurt him. I'd talk to her about that . . ask her if she wants a break, or she doesn't want to be with you. You seem like a smart, level-headed guy..i'm sure she loves you and that it will work out. If not, then you will have to except that it was not meant to be and you will find someone who will not ger angry with you after living with you for a short period of time ;]
Goodluck - let me know how it goes.

yeahh actually
i do that a lot too.
if something goes too fast for me,
i'll start acting really independant and rely on just me.
only because i need space and time to think.

so maybe that's what is going on with her?