M married and want a little change.a male friend who likes me, shud i continue meeting him?

i m married since 2.5 yrs.i have a kid of almost 2yrs.i luv my baby.sumtimes i also like my hubby when hez kindda gud 2 me n not really messed in his mood swings or bugging me wid his regular nagging about what all i shud do and not do.I have known a person shortly, a male who kindda shows signs he likes me. i dont have dat liking thing. but hez like a buddy, gud 2 talk 2 abt work n regular things. v havent met too often. shud i continue to meet him n accept a stronger friendship? i found after almost 3 yrs sum1 was talking abt the wonderful pep in me dat made his day, n i saw i was blushing n feelin gud. 4 a change not talking about my household probs but sumthing better n beyond dat. he doesnt invade my space. only if i reply his mails, he too wud. i feel like dressing up well if hez gonna meet me n hv a gud feeling 2 innocent n light flirt.he is married and also has a kid.hez met my hubby.shud i still meet him if he insists once in a month or so?or is it dat i m deceiving my family?

When you have a boring marriage, you want to do something that would excite you and thats where you are right now. You've known your husband only for 2.5 years, and you have a baby involved. You have a lot more to learn and understand your husband, many many years more. Marriage is not always being romantic and kissing each other... This guy too has a family of his own. Have you ever tried to understand why your hubby may be having mood swings or bugging you with his regular 'nagging' about 'what you should do and you should'nt'' ? Could it be something you are not doing right, not taking an effort or things that you may be ignoring leading him to do that ??? Obviously there could be a reason, or are you plainly telling us that he is a monstor who comes in home and drives you mad by behaving like a monstor yelling and tearing you apart and hates you, but still keeps you and the baby as a part of his family ??? I do not think it is that bad.

You have taken efforts to write about this person who is outside your family, but not taken efforts to talk about your husband and whats going on. Have you taken efforts from your side for the situation ? Ever felt like dressing up good for your husband once in a while atleast ? Its good that you feel good, but believe me, this guy may like you, but he's not going budge from his family. Has he told you his household problems ? Or given you signs that you are his priority over his family, his child ??

I cannot console you. Iam sorry, but you are deceiving your family. Im sure that really feels bad, but thats the truth. Not only cos' both of you are married, but you would end up hurting four other people, plus yourselves. If things arent going right in your marriage, end it, go counselling, or talk with your husband...or just plain end it. But you cant have both. Atleast it wont last for a long time. You still have time as you arent too involved yet. Get away, do something else that would excite you and make you feel better, than a married guy, for godsake!!!! You could involve in things, so many activities, meeting other people, groups, voluntary help to people..you would find the attitude in husband change too.

Iam not telling you to forget him, or freindship is bad. But ask yourself a lot of questions before taking the next step and initiating even a once a month meeting. He doesnt invade your space, but i guess he already has. If he hadnt, he wouldnt even ask to meet you once in a month, knowing you are married, knowing you have a child, knowing your husband (you said they have met), and most importantly, he has a family of his own. What do u think would be going through his wife ??? What if his character in his house is the same as your husbands' towards his wife ???

Back off..it isnt worth it..i tellu. Not worth your family. I know. It hurts real deep to be there.

Im so happy for you smiling.Iam glad you want to give a try, keeping your family priority. Goodluck! Ur wonderful and strong to have made that decision.Plus,get involved in things tats goin to give u more satisfaction, in other activities for the time being. You'll see how it makes a difference. Report It

continue the friendship.

your deceiving yourself, your family, his family, God. If you are that unhappy, seek counceling. If that doesnt work, get a divorce. Don't play games while you are married. No one wins.

It's not right that your are doing that you should be faithful to your husnabd don't you understand your marrige vows when you said i do in the alter.

stick with your family. i dont know if u actually know what a marriage is to be honest. marriage is not all lovey dovey at all. you have to work at it. of course hez goin to get on your nerves, you are two different people. everyone is different. talk to your husband.

and please do not have an affair because you have so much more to lose, believe me

you need a divorce.

if truely speaking should forget him . & if u have physicalrelation eaith him u slould it to ur hasband so that no further disterbens takes place

when people start to talk rotten, when their words cannot be understand, i think, it's a sign of infidelity. STOP!!! don't do it. divorce your man and start your transgression. don't be sinful! lust is only good when you can control. I learn that from a friend.

First of all, there is now a spell check option. Please use it. Also, numbers do not alternate as words. Single letters do not function as words either.

As for your question, if you and your husband have the understanding that this is a monogamous relationship and not an 'open' relationship, then "NO!!!!" you should NOT screw around with another man.

If you are unhappy, quit the marriage or seek counseling. Otherwise, you may end up in deeper doo-doo WHEN (and I do mean WHEN) your husband finds out about the infidelity.

Grow up. You chose the marriage. Live with it or end it. End of story.

ok how abt this wat if yr hubbie[love;sweetie] happens 2 do da same.will u accept such a kinda behaviour from him or let him do wateva he feels. think abt it make a decision cuz its only u who can do good n bad both . n if u want my advice plzzzz dont do dat i mean who would like 2 get betrayed by sumone n besides yr da one whoz da most person in this world which is y yr his so called "wife".all da best n wish u a happy married life.

ok take it from someone who has been in the same boat, you need to eaither just have a friendship with this guy and tell and not hide it from your husband. or if you think that you want to be with this guy you need to get out of your marrige first. take it from me you will lose everything. i did the same thing had a friend and did not tell my ex-husband and he thought something else. now we are no longer married. hope that helps

If you really want an answer to this question...trust me... everbody will tell you one thing or the other.

Just remember though that their answers will be based on things like their own past experiences or lack of it, religious and moral inclinations, education, view of marriage etc.

The truth though is that... you are the one in situation. Use your head and make a decision that to the best of your knowledge will not bring you or your child any unwanted complications (drama/Baggage) Life girl... is really to short.

Look at it this way...when we sleep we don't see or feel anything around us. It's almost like we don't exist and the world came to a halt. No one can say for sure what happens to us when we die but...and I say but... one thing is sure...we can choose what "we individually" define as happiness for ourselves while we are alive.

Will we make mistakes? Yes. Will we regret some of these mistakes? Yes. However if you are willing to take total
responsibility for your actions and live with them while learning from each mistake to influence future decisions..then I say that is life. You hold the cards...now make your move!!!!