How do you tell your BF you need space?

I met this great guy, we have everything in common and things are going good but almost too good too fast. I just got out of an 8 year relationship about a year ago and I don't think I'm ready to get into anything too serious with anybody just yet. I'd like to date but not be committed. How do you tell someone that gently so they understand where you are coming from?

just say to him exactly what you have written here. It is polite enough & is very clear. :-)

Just explain to him like you did to us. Simply tell him" I need space." Then it will be up to him if he still wants to keep dating you.

Duh! Just like you just did. Be honest.

just like that. Tell him i really like you and enjoy you're company but i just got out of a long serious relationship and i'm not ready to get into another. But i would like to continue seeing you. Good luck!

i need space

I think you just explained it pretty well.

Just be honest- say "can we just slow down a bit?"
It doesn't have to be any more complex than that, really.
Believe me...if he doesn't understand, he will ask a question or two

Exactly what you told us, tell him that you just got out of a strenuous 8 year relationship, you aren't ready for that again and most of all you just need some space, tell him you would like to see him but not be exclusive.

Tell them just the way you did. They have to understand that.

What you said in your question sounds good to me. Be honest and let him know that it doesn't have anything to do with him at all. Your still dealing with the emotions from the prior relationship and you don't want to make anyone your rebound person.

There is no gentle way to tell someone to move on. Just be upfront and honest.

Always be honest with people. Tell him how you feel and take it from there. If he cares he will understand and you can take it slow. If he is a rush then he is not the one for you. If he waits and takes it as slow as you need to. Then, keep him he is worth it.
Good luck.

I'm assuming that your b/f knows that you recently got out of an 8 year relationship. Simply tell him what you're telling us. Let him know that he's a great guy, and that things are going really well, but that you're are a little scare of moving too quickly due to you just getting out of that relationship. Tell him that you need a little bit of time.

why did you let him be your bf then. there must be something you are scared of from your past 8 yr relationship. give him up,there are girls who need a guy like that.

what is wrong w/a perfect relationship b/c you didnt' have one and don't know what to do w/it when you have it?

So you want to date, but on your terms only and basically call all the shots??

Let your past stay where it's at and get on with your life.

Nobody wants a part time GF and one that lives in the past.

I bet you have done some comparing too to this present beau and your x, huh?

Take your guard down at least 50% and get to know this guy, you just might find out he is nothing like the last and even if he is a bit, he is NOT your x so don't anticipate problems before they ever arise.

Start living again.
Good luck

just explain everything 2 him calmly. if he really cares for u he'll understand ur feelings

Easy.... tell him you got out of an 8 year relationship and you think that its going too fast. Need to slow down a little bit before I put myself in the same mind as when I broke up with my ex.

That should work. If that doesn't work then you have a sick puppy on your hands. Sounds like you're not vaccinated for that and it will end sooner than it began. Or you could say you think you're going gay and need him to come on a little more patient to get you readjusted with carrots and cauliflowers.

be honest and tell him that u were in an 8 year relationship and dont want to be in another right now. tell him u like him and want to continue to see him but u dont want a commited relationship

Straight out,then you will find out how great he really is.I think he will understand.Just don't stay with anyone out of guilt.Get your space and see how you like it.Talk is important...