He did not react well at all??????????give him space?

Okay heres the situation i am 23 years old and just graduated fom college a few months ago and i decided to go backpacking well sort of (we stayed in nice hotels)with some friends across Europe.Anyway i met this guy in Spain who was English and my age he is 24 and i fell head over feet for this guy. He was so sweet and nice/charming and well stuff happened and i am now 5 1/2 months pregnant.I only just found out about it and am in total shock.He is still in some college called oxford i have never heard of it.Yesterday i e-mailed him saying i had an emergency and i told him. He was super angry and thought it was a joke till i sent him the ultra sound pic and a note from the doctor as proof.He started to rant about his familys reactions to this and how bad this will look?

Well...yeah...that could come as quite a shock!! However, what is done is done and cannot be changed. You may end up raising this child on your own, but he is still financially responsible. If he didn't want a baby...he should have practiced safe sex!
He may come around and be a part of the baby's life..and for the baby's sake, I hope that he does...but you can't force him to be a father. Establish that child support order as soon as you can though...your baby deserves it.
Good luck...and hang in there!

my guess is that he is thinking of himself and would like proof.. he will probly ask for a DNA test as well.. when the baby comes.. from the way you are describing his attitude... i think he may be more scared then any thing and that could be why he is showing rage.. OR he might not believe you that it is his.. Guys tend to do that alot.. i am just being honest not trying to upset you any more..
*hugs*

If you are in America now, you can probably consider yourself just a knocked up girl who will be a single mom until some understanding guy comes along who doesn't mind dating someone with a kid by another guy.

Or maybe the guy will change his mind and decide to want to be the father, he comes to America and marries you for the green card and you live happily ever after.

The former is probably the most likely. But hey, at least you are done with college.

He should have thought about that when he had unprotected sex with you. I would suggest you have the baby adopted since he will not be in this child's life as a father. Please learn from this experience. No sex outside of marriage.

I answered your question from yesterday. Obviously the reaction wasn't good. It doesn't sound like he wants anything to do with the situation. What else did he say? Does he want anything to do with you and the child? Will he be financially contributing to his child (provided you can prove paternity)? - this is what you should be asking him.

You may have to just drop this and realize that you're going to be doing this on your own.

How shocked were you when you first found out? Now imagine getting that news through an e-mail. Yes, he is in shock and yes he will rant...but it's not the end of the world.

Give him a couple days, let him coold down, then e-mail him a nice, polite, non threatening e-mail or phone call asking him if he has had a chance to think about the situation. Be prepared for all kinds of nasty accusations. You might have to wait until the baby is born to do DNA or blood typing to prove he is the father. I would make it clear that you are willing to do what is necessary to prove he is the father.

I would also advise you to prepare to either raise this child on your own, without his help or presence in the child's life, or place it with an adoptive family. It does not sound to me like you know much about him, (you've never heard of Oxford), it's easy enough to cancel or ignore an e-mail account or telephone. Since he is in another country, it will be more difficult to collect any child support, BUT you should at least try.

Good Luck.

Well yeah he's going to be surprised, weren't you? Give him some time and space and if he doesn't come around, then you might just have to do it on your own. Use this as a learning experience - if you weren't ready to get pregnant then both of you should have taken some precautions to ensure that it wouldn't happen. Well, it has happened so there's nothing that you can do about that right now all you can do is start making preparations for your child and think about what you're going to do if he doesn't step up - like getting child support or something like that. Good luck and I hope things work out for you.

wow, i dont know what i would do, for now id say give him breathing room, its a big adjustment