How do you know when to give a relationship space, and how do you guage n how much to give if they are depress

I helped him get into an apt after Katrina(hurricane) and now he just wants to stay there mostly alone, unless his kids are there, I do see him, but usually not long, because I get that vibe when he wants to be alone. I know he is depressed and may need medication or time. I am newly divorced but dated a lot while separated, so I have met many men. I love him, but I do not know when I should go or stay and that is a horrible feeling. I do not know what to do or how to help or if I should just stay away and let him make all the first moves. I am so confused, and at this time it should be all new, not more hurt or confusion, and I do not want to dump him, but he is down all the time, and negative energy gets to me.Im 35 and he is 37, we both aren't getting any younger, yet this is his 1st place totally alone, but sometimes I feel shut out of his world and I do not want to have to push or force my way into anything. Why should I have to? What should I do?

It sounds like he does need help. Talk to him about going to a doctor and getting medication. Try to print a few articles about depression and let him read them. Someones all some of us need is one friend who cares.

That said, if he will not accept help and continues to bring you down, you have to save yourself. Negative energy gets to me too. I have trouble with depression myself and cannot be around negative people too much or it really brings me down.

Good luck. I think it is great you are trying to help him.

it will come to you

you should talk to him, try to cheer him up, show him there is the future to look foward , show him you love him, and that you are there for him

Maybe, you need to have a talk about the whole situation.