What would you do if you found out for the first time today your husband of 30 years was on my space and said

he wasnt married but single and didint want kids(we have 2),and wanting to met single women 18-25years old? HELP!!!!!!!Q!!!!

Confront that son of a b*tch...My ex did the same thing and I left him for it...obviously you'd have to think harder about leaving someone after 30 yrs...but jeez..thats pretty bad and very painful to deal with..good luck to you.

I think you're introuble

I'd think it was time he and I had a talk...grandpa should be beyond "midlife crisis" age by now...COMMUNICATE

oh i would kick him to the curve gurl i don't know who he think he is but you better let him go before he rapes your kids or something and take that man to a relationship conselor or something like that.

First of all, I'd want irrefutable proof that is was him on My Space. Then I'd confront him with it and remind him it is grounds for divorce to have sex with a women not your wife. I'd ask if he has thought about the risks involved with online relationships(if he's the selfish type who thinks only of himself). I'd ask if he has thought about the consequences of his behavior on his children(if he cares about his children, that is). I'd ask frankly if he still wanted to be married, and offer to go to counselling with him if he does.

It's a tough thing to do--but imagine the consequences if he is allowed to go ahead with his My Space plans.

This usually happens when your marrige isnt working that well so he needs to fullfill whats not being filled in the marrige. You should try to confront your husband about this. Ask him why he did what he did. Find out the core reason for this. First ask yourself this is there anything wrong with your marrige? Have you been arguing latley? Is he being distant with you and your kids? Maybe there might be a lack of communication and trust between you two. Whatever the problem is you guys need to work through it. Maybe marrige councelling. This marrige is definalty in jepordy and if your husband does not seem to care then you should, you need to tell him that you care, you need to tell him what you feel. You guys need to communicate lol.

You need to talk to him!!!!!
Now!!!!!!!!
Find out how long he has had this profile for. You can usually find out right on myspace because I'm pretty sure he wont tell u the truth about how long he has had it.
Then find out when was the last time he used the profile.
You never know he might have started the profile around the time you guys were having problems and then never used it again after u guys made up. Go into this conversation with him informed. That way there is no chance of him lying to you.
OR
He's just an asshole that needs a wakeup call and realize that hes too damn old to be playing games with his wife and kids!
Good luck girl...I feel for u.

I would call his cheating butt on the carpet, tell him what was on my mind, show him the door, and call my lawyer! He could have all the young women he wanted...but on the small amount of money he's going to have left, he couldn't get any! Can he say, child support, alimony, house , kids, and both the cars? He'll regret the day!!

First of all you need to remember its the net...second...confront him...third TALK about it....

I am very sorry to hear that you are having this trouble but I wanted to agree that this is serious. You can not let this go; you should confront him or dig deeper and find out exactly what he is doing on there. After 30 years together I would be curious to know why he would be willing to throw it away. You could make up an account and respond to him..tell him what he wants to hear..pretending you are someone else. You will know exactly what he is wanting to tell another female. I do not recommend this unless you feel it is your last option but throwing away 30 years for a fling or is it possible he wants more..hmmm something to think about. Good luck!

I would say how long have you been doing this. Trying to uck some young girls, you need to give me some answers. Please don't let him say it was just for fun it was just something to do. I think he is either cheating or really trying to suceed at it.

Get a myspace account under a different name and be a 18-25 yr old, send him a friend request, send him emails about how you would like to meet him and spend time with him,ask him if he has a wife or kids and if he's ever been married,send him emails for about a month. And then send him an email asking to meet him for a date or casual meeting somewhere,let him get all dressed up ask him where he's going watch him lie,get someone to watch your kids if they are young,get dressed up meet him with a smile and say hi glad to meet you,watch him die of embarrasment and and say, "Not what you were looking for honey,but I think that I look damn good for a 18 yr. old don't you think. And laugh in his stupid face. Leave and go file those divorce papers!!!

Sounds like a dirty old man.

30 years is a long marriage to throw away over some dumb add on my space. It was wrong for him to do, no doubt. And you must speak to him about what you found. See what his answer is then make a decision. It is possible he never intended to follow through, but as always, communication is the key.

a guys point of view.....................linda............. think its safe to say at this point hes already cheated on you...sorry...now what are you going to do about it? depending on weither or not he did do anything...i would say kick his azz to the curb...then take him to the cleaners...sound like he wants his cake and eats it too...this is a wrong way for a man to treat the person he promised to give his life to..i dont know what you decieded to do...if anything yet...but dont be gentle...make the sucker sweat...thats totally sorry...forgive my forewardness...be safe...be kind...and i wish you love............

confront him and give him no choice to to attend marital counseling with you.

Oh dear...it means he's looking for excitement and free sex. He's probably bored with his marriage. I'm curious if this is his first time lying about his marital status or if he has lied to other women before. If this is his first time, you have time to nip it in the bud, by having a heart to heart discussion with him. If this is something he has been doing for awhile, then you may have a sex addict on your hands.

I recommend a reliable, trustworthy male (family member or friend) to have a talk with him.

To give him the benefit of the doubt, whenyou sign up for a Myspace account, it automatically putsyou are single and want no kids. Maybe he just hasn't changed it or doesn't know how to.

Ouch.. I'd pull his page up on the computer and ask him what he thinks he is doing and to explain himself. He is living on fantasy island right now and needs to be smacked back into reality.
Then I'd google marriage counselors and have him pick one...
if he refuses, remind him of the 50/50 spit of assets in divorce and ask him to try again.
I know you are probably panicking right now, but it is time to be strong and stand up for yourself. If he is looking to cheat, or to be single, he needs to be up front about that and not make you live a lie. NO ONE gets to have their cake and eat it too for too too long. Good luck, I'll be thinking of you- dd

I feel bad for you but you need to know for sure before you ask him anything. I would go on a friend's computer posing as a young single woman and tap into his myspace and contact him. See how far he will go. Print it out then you have it to confront him. Oh and don't forget to make copies first for your lawyer. And when it looks the darkest don't forget. You can start a new life and be happy but you need to have respect for yourself to do it. Good luck.

i would think he was going through a midlife crisis, then i would kick him dead center in his monitor causing his hard drive to crash and make his disk go floppy permanently

but its your personal choice of what you want to do

I think those words he put out there speak for themselves. Why torment yourself with catching him in lie and making up some sort of immature excuse..

ok, let me just say...my friend put a profile up on myspace and never filled the box for his marital status. And it shows him as being single too. And that he doesn't want anymore kids. But...who knows why your husband is looking for women 18-25yrs of age. But that too shows up automatically. So..maybe you might want to "spy" on him...get a screen name for that site..and "flirt" with your husband. I don't know what you think about that...but sometimes we have to do what we have to do!

You just had a rude awakening and welcome to the real world of men. I am speaking of 90% of all men not the very,very small 10%.Sometimes this is the only way we as women will believe the kind of man we are really married to .We refuse to listen and see what is right in front of our faces.We no something is wrong but we talk our self right out of believing the worse.How many times have you said to yourself or someone else My husband loves me I no he would never say or do anything to hurt me.When are women going to wake up and realize when her husband is using his computer or when he walks out the front door he becomes someone other then her husband.I no most women who are reading this now are saying to them self this person don't no my husband or me,and your right but one thing I am sure of it's a 90% chance your husband will or has all ready been with other women

maybe he's living out a fantasy.
you know he's anonymous and he can be anyone he wants to be, so he's just seeing how many responses he gets and flirting around.
watch him closely and when he's gone, go into his computer and read whats been going on.

Spin more time with him

Someone already mentioned this, but I'll agree. Make up your own profile as to what he's looking for. But I would keep up conversation with him and see if you can get info such as, has he ever been married, why isn't he anymore, what bout kids, stuff like that. Go along the lines of what he's looking for in a young girl. Oh yea, you'll need to send a pic, find one on another dating site or something and send him that one. I did this, of course, I found out more than I wanted to. But sometimes, you just gotta know for your own piece of mind. I busted him one night and told him I had a new pic of myself. I sent him the real pic of me. He was in shock.....then I asked, why did you do this to me? of course we weren't married just dating, but after 30 years, you can lay into his a-- then...Good luck, only do it though if you want to know the truth. You probably won't like what you find out...

I would be too Pissed.And I would let his *** have it.