Help me!!! my mom never believes me. should i move with my dad?my mom never gives me space and thnks the worst

ok well tuesday i stayed home from school and so did my friend. we were both sick. well i texted her to not call my house phone when my mom was home cuzz then my mom would think i was playing hookie with her or we woulld me. out of nowhere my mom took my cellie and read the texts. now she thinks im met her and thinks i do all this bad crap now like stealing her beer. my mom talked to my friends mom and then my friends mom told my mom all these lies. my mom thinks im drinking beer, sneaking out all the time and yelled at me forever. i have the choice to move with my dad 5 hours away. we are really close and i visit him all the time. my sister and bro already live up there and love it. i dont want to hurt my mom though. last time she said i can move up there so i said ok i will, she got mad and said im never moving up there. then she gave me the choice again and i dont know wut to do! i dont want to leave all my friends and make new ones. nobody trusts me here. mydadalwaystrustsme

Your mom cares a lot bout you. Its not always that she's fair and justified in the way she does and your concern is justified. Moving to your fathers place wont solve the problem. It might be a temporary break but there will certainly be other issues that will disturb you out there. I'd rather suggest talk it our with your mother. tell her you dont want to dissapoint her nor lie to her, at the same time you need your own space. Also make her feel that you love her and care for her. Very often we don't express what we feel. But expression is sometimes important; very important. You mom's not staying with her husband. She needs your love and support more than anyone else. Once in a while bring her a gift - a bunch of flowers, a card or something thats favourite to her. It will work wonders. And dont forget to wish her on Mother;s Day ( 13th May) you can send her a surprise greeting card or a bunch of flowers. Check out these sites for gifts and flowers -

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Move in with your dad if you're inclined, if you are able, and if he's sensible and respectful.

well if you might hurt your mom and its the right thing to do u shuld do it you should spend your life without fights and problems

Moms have a hard time with their kids. Any ages. I'de suggest talking with your mother about this problem. If that doesn't work. Seriously go move with your father. Dads don't do much of the work but they also care about their children.

sometimes starting over with new friends and a new school can be better because then you have a clean slate. and if your dad always trusts you;go there.

Move. Then tell your mom not to ever get mad at her children for doing what SHE does (like drink beer) because that makes HER a hypocrite and if she says its an adult thing, tell her if it isnt fit for kids adults shouldnt be doing it ,it makes them HYPOCRITES!You havent said much about your dad, but it sounds like your mom has some mental issues.

Tell ur mom u r not a kid and you need space and if ur father will u will gladly move to his palce but that means you have change schools and make new friends

do you realise there will be rules at your dads house too! something seems fishy here....
in my opinion you do not seem honest...sorry i read this twice and can read between the lines that there is some sort of dishonesty here that does not add up.

Things always look better from a distance, if you move in with your dad you will most likely find out things about him that you don't like and he will find things about you as well. I loved my cousin we were best friends for about two weeks but after living under her roof for about a month I started to hate her guts, I hated everything about her. Friends are not an issues, because you will make new ones, change is something that you can always adjust to. I'm guessing that your mother will probably change her mind about you, if it was just one friend who said that... do you think it will effect her oponion of you about 8 months down the road? Instead of thinking about your rights or what you deserve... just think about what would make you happy.

i think u should talk with her cuz shes on ur tail so often cuzz she cares about u. if u move away, u'd probly break her heart. and plus, u probly wouldnt want 2 move away from ur frinds? ur frinds mom may hav just misunderstood som things, so talk with her, too. also talk with that frind cuzz she mightve told her mom that. but her mom mightve misunderstood. u have alot of talkin 2 do!

moving to your dads will not change how your mother thinks about you. I would never take someone else word over my child's. You sound like you got a good head on your shoulders.

Since she gave you a choice, I would say move in with Dad. It's hard to make new friends, but the reality is your good friends will stay in email contact, but you also get to make new friends in another environment.

Talk to your Dad about rules and such so that you don't run into trust issues with him. What are his expectations? I think that would help a lot.

My Mom and I had trust issues for years. Space is really the only thing that improved our relationship.

I have a feeling that you're living with your mom cause you figured it'd only be you there, so you could get away with your shenanigans.....If you move with your dad for legitimate reasons, don't be disillusioned into thinking you're going to get away with anything more, there. We were all kids once. We know what's going on....You will too, when you're a parent....We always want what's best for our children cause we love them....You're mom loves you, as I'm sure that your dad does....Grow up a little bit and show some responsiblity...It's amazing how far you will go if you can look into your own behavior instead of pointing fingers at mom or dad...Good luck to you.

Your mother has issues. Unless you are doing any of that stuff ( and I believe that your not). She is depressed from the divorce. She lost your father and is having problems believing she is good enough for anyone to respect her and do right by her. She is pushing you away because she thinks she is not good enough for you. Talk to her. If you leave her it will confirm her thoughts in her mind. Try to get her to get some help through counseling and maybe a divorced women's group. You can not let her problem cause you problems. You have to keep her mental health up. If after you sit her down and tell her you love her and that she is greatest mother in the world she does seek help then you should go to your father. You have to feel good about yourself. Remember that you are the only person that you can control. Your attitude towards life is the only thing can make a difference in your life. Your mother can not ruin your life, she can make it harder to deal with. You HAVE to talk her. Maybe if she has any siblings or parents close to you you will need to get their help. What I am saying is alot like an Intervention for a drug user.
Good Luck!

Hunny, as a mother I can honestly say mothers can be more overprotective then fathers can.
Then again, I can also say that mothers see more then most father's do.
I am not saying you are a bad kid, I am just wondering if you did something sowhere along the line to make your mom stop trusting you?
If it was something that she knows about, and your dad don't, she naturally would be more suspicious of you.
Sometimes moms go a little overboard protecting their children, but they do it because they love them, not because they are trying to make your life miserable.
I would suggest sitting down with her, and asking her what it is that you did to cause her not to trust you and what you could do to start earning your trust.
Your mature attitude may be the first step in establishing her trust.
I caught my daughter smoking, and I must say I was impressed by the fact that she did not bother to lie to me about it, not even about taking them from me. I no longer trust her as much as I used to, but I also know that everyone makes mistakes and am willing to give her the chance to earn that trust back.
I think too that if you are the only child at home, that would make her want to hang on to you a little more tightly, you are her everything.
Think about it and try talking to her....................... it may help.