He found a new girlfriend in 6 days!!?! How do I wrap my head around this? Give me your two cents Devastated.?

I am 33 and I dated my biggest love ever mr dreamy 30 years old for 1 1/2 year. The first 10 months were perfect. We talked about being soulmates. During the whole time we both dreamt about being with each other for the rest of our lives. Last 6 months were rough... I was jealous & insecure about him. I felt like he isn't ready for comittment wanted space and kept meeting new people pulling away threatning to break up with me often in fights . But he kept calling several times a day and we kept seeing each other 5 days a week and went on vacation once a month. He said i love you constantly and was always kissing me. We had a lot of fights and it ended two weeks ago with a crazy abusive fight. I left and we havn't called each other. I just found out that 6 days after our break up he is fine and dating some girl already. How does this happen??? Are men emotionless? Was he already flirting with her while we were dating? How should I get over this?? Please advise me. I am crying non-stop

It sounds to me like he's very insecure, and has to be involved with somebody constantly in order to feel worthwhile. This could be going a little beyond a fear of lonliness. (I'm basing this on his calling you several times a day, and seeing you 5 days a week, and going on vacation once a month -- as well finding a new gf so fast.) He may have big issues of his own.

The way to get over this is to acknowledge that you hurt, and think about what you want to have next in your life. What kind of bf you want next, where you might find him, what else you want to do with your life, etc. I know it's hard, but you need to think about yourself now, not about him.

It sucks... but i think you need to realize that he was probably seeing this girl for some time before the two of you broke up. I cant think of any other explanation...

He kept calling, hon, because he wanted to keep you as the Jerk in Reserve, and you fell for it....until he found someone else.... He's been outa that relationship for 6 months..... he just didn't tell you. Now that he has found someone else, he's gone, but in reality, gone long ago. Not your fault. And quit blaming yourself... he had that babe lined up looooogggggn before six days ago.

If the grief is overwhelming, get some counseling. There are too many really neat guys out there to cry... every try Yahoo Personals? Tricks to it... Write if you're interested...

Wow, you really blew it. He sounds like a great guy. Obviously this other girl knew what a great guy he was, while you frittered away a perfectly good relationship. Too bad. Looks like you've screwed it up. Maybe next time you'll think about that a little more.

You said over the last 6 months you were feeling jealous and insecure because, "I felt like he isn't ready for comittment wanted space and kept meeting new people." Well, apparently you were right. Why are you so shocked that you were right? He clearly was not ready for commitment. He had probably, indeed, met the woman before you broke up and was keeping her number in reserve as breakup insurance. Instead of shock and crying, you should be angry. You should be saying, "Ha! I knew it all along, and I was right that you are an untrustworthy, commitment-phobic, knuckle-dragging Neanderthal!"

You left the physical relationship. Not the emotional one.

So what if he found someone else in 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months.? It shouldn't matter to you since you are not apart.

Move on to more important things for your OWN life.

for the past 6 months u say u felt he wasn't ready and wanted space, he was pulling away from u and the insecurity and jealousy was caused by your gut feeling that everything wasn't okay. he was seeing this other person while he was with u, and finally felt like he could trust her so he kicked u to the curb. he sounds very narcissistic and selfish, these narcissists believe other people are just objects to be thrown away and disposed of at will, they steal your life and make u think they love u, and than abandon u or anyone who suggests there is need for change. he was already probably sleeping with her and had this all planned out. he threatened to break up, because he knew he already had someone waiting in the wings. u may need therapy to help u through this, but this isn't about u its all about him and how he sees himself. u asked to be treated differently, but he was unwilling. to protect his fragile ego he hurt u and brought u down making him feel good. he has no conscience or fairness and may not even know he hurt u.