Ok pleeze help. if ur in the top 10 to answer u'll have a 50% chance i'll pick ur answer as best.?

my best friend of 4 years kept askin me out and i finally said yes. we were tight before we started goin out and goin out only felt better. we were even each others firsts.( as if that counts for anything)but him havin a job and me not havin a car summer put strains on our relationship because we would barely see each other. then he goes and cheats on me w/ some girl he meets on my space while he was out driving around w/ her. why would he keep askin me out for 2 years and when i finally said yes he cheats what he swears he would never do. then the ***** calls back sayin can we still be friends.
god i almost killed him.why would he do that to me and to us? is it like programmed in a guys head to **** everyone w/ open legs in sight?

girl ive been in that situation there is no explination for why they do it, just try to forget about him he is a loser

Most guys are looking for sex some are not.

Yes it is programmed. Don't talk to him anymore. Move on.

there was no question in that ever so long story......"gaming for points" is against Yahoo Guidelines though.

he just wanted to have sex with you some friend he is

well be straight up with him tell him"its either me or her" and then if he wants you then thats great but if he says no then i dont know

hope that helps tho!

Dont know if it's programmed, porbly he wanted to stay close to you just im case he had a chance to sleep with you.

yes it is programed

He's a loser! Don't take his calls anymore, forget about him! He isn't worth your time. Obviosly he just wanted to get in your pants.

You should just leave and never look back at him. Next time you have guy friends don't ever hook up with them. Some guys are just jerks and don't care about no one but themselves.

Well you have to realize that just because you guys were great friends doesn't mean that he wouldn't hurt you in a relationship setting.
The same thing happened to me. I was great friends with a guy and we finally dated after he pursued me for years and he dogged me. I can't explain it, but just because a friendship was great, doesn't mean the guy is great when it comes to dating.
Of course he still wants to be friends because he wants to try to redeem himself in some way and I'm glad that you are blowing him off. He didn't respect your relationship so you don't owe him anything.

sweetnes I am afraid ur right .Its the little head doing the thinking

u r right what he did was very wrong and he wasnt right 4 u any way

Yes, nearly all boys are programmed like that. Why don't you find a man.

move on and remeber tight friends dont always make for right loves. man what a jerk

I think you should leave him...it sounds like he did all this for sex . Everytime you're unavailable is he going to **** the next *****. I think that you were a challenge and the one girl he couldn't do and now that he has you he doesn't appreciate you as much. I don't like telling people leave their man but you should leave

Yep! That's the way most guys see it. They are more interested in the chase and conquest than the long term relationship.
But there are a lot of good guys out there! Dump this loser and don't be so quick to give it away to the next one...men appreciate things if they have to work hard for them...hold out for the wedding ring!

If you didn't have sex with him.Thats why he said that.

MySpace has that affect on people.

look, you said that you were eachothers first, right? did you really think that you would be his last? i'm taking it that you're both young...go out and experience life. learn from this and move on.

Hello there....
I see this kind of question a LOT on here....
Ladies....We all need to learn ONE HUGE THING....
If a guy goes out on you....DROP HIM....PERIOD....
It proves he WILL DO IT AGAIN if you stay....BY staying with him you only give him the message that what he did was OK>
IT ISN'T OK....
There ARE plenty of guys out there who WILL be loyal...
Get on with your life so you can find a GOOD GUY sooner...
Don't waste your life crying over the past....There are better things in store for you .... Take care of YOU...YOU ROCK
Good luck....in everything...

I dont think its programmed maybe what he not get what he is finding in you

hmm the cheating thing huh? hmm well i got cheated on too, by three different boyfriends... yeah some of us just never learn..but anyway, give yourself some time to heal and then maybe you can still be friends but you will need to explain to him how badly he hurt you and how he needs to earn your trust back.. but if you have been burned to badly to be friends with him then just don't be friends. and you want to know why he kept asking you out ofr 2 years? well it's because he really liked you and thought he could make the relationship work. it's when you started dating that he realized that it was different from what he expected. guys will be guys BUT not all guys are cheating slime balls... so no not ALL guys are programmed to **** everyone w/ open legs.

If he really liked you he would find time to see you over the summer, and wouldn't have cheated on you. I say dump him, after what he did, he should have enough decency not to lie and say that he won't do it again, because if he did it once he may do it again.

It would help if I knew how old he was. I'm going to guess that he is in his late teens, early twenties. Nope, not programmed in our heads. We just don't know any better. We never truly appreciate what we have til its gone. I was fortunate enough that my women took me back. For some reason most young males become idiots around pretty women. It took me many years and some heartache to figure this out. All a women has to do is cater to a mans ego and she could get him to do just about anything. Once you have crossed the line between friends and lovers, there is no going back. Its one or the other. Young...dumb...and full of ***. I'm sorry you had to go threw that. Things will get better. When he finds out you have moved on, his attitude will change. But then it will be to late for him. Best wishes, Jack
p.s.-I'm 36 now. I was once him.

I'm sorry he did that to you. I would feel completley horrible. I can't really say much. You'll find the right man someday. But when you get one....Buy a leash.....

I feel so bad for you. U should call him and want to divorce because he thinks if he cant see u ,u 2 cant br together!