Omg please help?

im 25 years old grown woman, unfortunately i still live at home becuase i just started a job and need to save up. My mom violates my privacy, first off, both my parents hate the guy im seeing, there is no reason to hate him, hes not a bad guy, my parents dont like many people and if they see one flaw they arent even allowed in the house male or female. Anyway, she forced me to join match.com and even took my credit card while i wasnt around and used it to pay for it. She is constantly on my case about meeting someone on the internet. I know she is doing this mainly because she dosnt want me with the guy im seeing. Even if i wasnt seeing him, which i do, i sneak out to see him, they have no clue i still see him, she is still so violating my space, forcing me to meet someone....im not looking for anyone else....what would u do? I still continue to see the man i love without them knowing. she always tries to make me feel guilty i think she is boarderline disordered. opinions please

You are an adult. Sit down and talk to them like an adult and tell them how you are feeling, and cancel the match.com account, it doesn't sound like you wanted it anyway and what is the point of paying for it if you never use it?

wow...you are too old to be letting your mom do that.

tell your mom to back off

ouch. tough one. as soon as the money comes in run

have you talked to her about this? have they MET him?

invite him over for dinner and maybe theyll change their mind

they dont like him because they dont know him

this situation sounds so ridiculous! move out!!! if you can't though... confront your mother and say i like this guy i'm seeing and u should belive in me..... and if hes not the right guy let me make the mistakes all by myself.

you are 25 yeard old, a big girl now. Sit your mom down and explain that to her. You are old enough to make your own decisions and just because u are living in the same house doesn't mean she can invaid your privacy and control who you date. It might be hard to stand up against someone you love, but unless you want her controling your life forever it needs to be done. Good luck. And trust me, confront her.

Sounds right to me.

Tell them whatever they want to hear.

Move out.

First of all you are an adult now, and tell your mom in a nice way that you appriciate everything she is doing , but you can run your own life, even if she does not like it. tell her that you have to learn from your own mistake. if she keeps it up, I suggest you find a roommate and get your own place. and you shouldn't be sneaking to see your man, and your old enough to go out with who ever you want. good luck.

your 25 hello step up to the plate, tell your mom to butt out, you are a grown *** woman. the only flaw in that would be that she can tell you to move out. however, if she really cared she wouldnt dare do that unless she does it as a way to frighten you into doing what she wants. so my next thing is move out! you can still save money, it wont be much but at least you'll have the one thing you want the most...privacy

tell her to back off your 25 ok you need your privacy!!!just move in with your bf.im 14 and i fell like im saying this 2 a 12 year old!!!

Girl, you need to move out. Saving money isn't worth your mental health, and believe me, if you sit down and take this emotional abuse, it will carry you for the rest of your life, long after your parents are gone. Believe me!

I, too, lived with my parents between relationships and while it was financially convenient, it was hell. You're describing my mother who was a person who was so out there emotionally there was no reasoning with. No amount of counseling ever helped, because that would enfuriate her further.

Do you have a friend or relative you could move in with? Do you have friends in your same boat whom you could make arrangements to rent an apartment or house together?

Anything would be better than what you're going through right now, that's for sure.

Ok... you might be living with them, but that is your house too, and therefore, you need respect... as if you were living with housemates. You are not a teenager anymore. Talk to them, let them know that you are a grown up, and tell your mom that her attitude is outrageous, and if she continues, you might be forced to move out, in situations that are far worse than dating the guy she doesn麓t like. Second thing: change your credit card!

You're doing the right thing. Just follow your heart. Parents are always awkward. As far as their violating your space. They feel its there home and you're living under there roof. So that gives them the right. Now that may or may not be true but aslong as you live there you need to deal w/ that.

She probably means well, but she is misbehaving. I agree she is over stepping her role at this time in your life. You probably have little choice but to ask her repeatedly nicely to please mind her own business you need your private life. Keep telling her that since you are an adult who would normally be living in your own place where she would not be so closely involved in your life, she should try to keep those opinions mostly to herself. How about this schedule one hour a week when she can give you her opinions about your love life. Get her to agree on that one hour only. During that one hour once every week you will sit with her or call her on the phone and she can give those opinions of hers to you. You will listen then, but will not listen again until 7 days later at the same time.

Then stick to that schedule. If she insists on violating your agreement then cancel that one hour coming up next. If she violates it again cancel the following week, etc.

Keep it on a calendar that you both can see.

Well if I was you I would try to get out of their as quickly as possible... you and I are both in the same situation up to the point where your mom signed you up for match.com.... and I don't have a job yet. But as for your mom wanting you to go out with other guys... say you are going to meet one of these guys but instead go meet you boyfriend. The other part I can't help cause I'm goin through the same thing >.<

have him join the dating site. wouldnt mommy b happy then:)