My husband is a very sticky and possesive type. Pls help.?

he needs his space to live, meet friends he desires, talk to people he likes but for me he does not give me my space. i am the detached type and he is the contrary always seeking attention from me. often i feel suffocated of this attitude and behaviour. pls advise

So dump him and seek out whatever it is your looking for out there. It's obvious its not him...

ARE YOU THAT DENSE IN THE HEAD THAT YOU NEED ADVICE?????????????????????????/

Please get a life of your own and have your own circle too. In any long term relationshjips both parties need breathing space .... keep in touch with old friends and so go out with them sometimes. Also keep yourself gainfully occuped . If these are early days into the relationship it is easier to set boundries! All the best!

Well.. You said it all. He is possessive, selfish and dominating. If you don't stand for yourself it'll get worse.

DROP THE JERK IF HE WONT LET YOU SEE YOUR FREINDS THIS IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE LADY IT'S TIME YA MOVED ON GET A MAN THAT IS THERE FOR YOU YOUR FREINDS AND YOUR LIFE STYLE HELL IF HE NEEDS A BABBY SITTER HAVE HIM HIRE ONE YOU DONT NEED THIS KINDA TREATMENT FROM HIM OR ANY ONE ELSE

____:Jealousy/Possessiveness: Does your partner "keep tabs" on you or accuse you of flirting or cheating with other people? Does your partner become angry when you look at or speak with a member of the opposite sex or if you go out alone or with friends? Does your partner criticize your clothing and appearance and call you hurtful names? The fact is that your partner's suspicions have nothing to do with your actions, but instead, center on your partner's own insecurities. Those same qualities which attracted your partner to you, will attract other people as well. No matter how much you reassure your partner, it is not really your loyalty or love that is in question. It is your partner's confidence in themselves.



____:Isolation: Have you been distanced from your friends and family because of your relationship with your partner? Are your activities limited, or does your partner supervise/select your friends, entertainment and travel? Does it sometimes feel like you're being interrogated as to where, how, and with whom you spend your time? Your partner's unwillingness to "let" you do something or achieve a goal of your own, as well as their criticisms of your loved ones are signs of your partner's insecurities. If you have a strong system of support outside of your partner, your partner cannot be "in charge" of everything because you are less likely to be dependant on your partner and more likely to hear criticism of your partner and of your partner's violence. If your partner can prevent that contact your partner can prevent you- and themselves- from hearing any negative things about their violent behavior. As your partner deprives you of all social support, your partner also reduces your ability to resist or to receive objective advice. Your partner's intense envy and seeming paranoia can leave you living in the "world according to your partner" without anyone else with whom to speak. Of course, if you know that avoiding friends and family will spare emotional or physical pain for you or your loved ones, you are more likely to withdraw from them. An outgoing person may become quiet and shy to avoid being yelled at and this loss of their sense of self may cause a person to become depressed, angry and alone. By degrading you and/or isolating you, your partner can control you.



Does your partner put you down and threaten to leave? Does your partner walk away in the middle of arguments or give you the silent treatment? Isolation works two ways. This second type of isolation is when your partner makes you feel unworthy of your partner's affection. Your partner may tell you that you are nothing without them, and even deny you the right to speak with them. Not only have you been separated from your family and friends, having become dependent upon your partner, your partner can withdraw or deny their affection, leaving you feeling rejected, desperate, scared and alone. You may even chase after your partner, or beg your partner not to leave. You do this because you believe you are somehow at fault and have become convinced that you cannot live without your partner, not because you are crazy or because you want to be hurt. These episodes only help to reinforce your feelings that your whole world may fall apart on your partner's whim. But you are someone special on your own and it's never your fault.



____: Quick Temper, Dr. Jekyll-Mr. Hyde Personality: Is your partner destructive when they get upset- punching walls or throwing things? Does your partner strike out over little things like dinner not being on time or burnt, or not finding a parking space? Is your partner cruel to animals? Does your partner have extreme mood swings- "a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde personality"- when your partner goes from extreme highs to extreme lows, or it seems that your partner almost has two different personalities? Your partner's most likely not crazy, and they don't just "lose control". A person who is quick to overreact or become angry is someone who needs to have absolute control over their environment in order to be happy. In an intimate relationship, you are part of that environment, which means that your partner feels the need to control you as well. Moreover, seeing things destroyed can be terrifying and can scare you into acting as your partner wants you to. It may convey to you that the "cost" of resisting your partner may be more damaging to you (emotionally and/or physically) than simply doing as your partner wishes. If your partner were simply a violent person in general, they wouldn't reserve their violence exclusively for the home- where they are least likely to be punished for it. These behaviors may be a sign of a person who was learned to work out bad feelings through violence and should not be underestimated. And always remember that it is only your partner who can control or stop the violence- never you.

Act mechanical and ask him that you feel so depressed and you think perhaps a marriage counselor can help you out. Discuss this with a trained marriage counselor or psychiatrist.

hey...do u look beautiful. then he has insecurity feeling, if you go out. He does not have faith on ur committment towards him. make him understand...otherwise, he would become still worse...
make him understand that only he can be with u always, in mind, bed.

it looks you love him a lot. but sometimes you have to be little harsh to explain. avoide him for a couple of days in the bed. but these are only suggestions. u r right to take ur own decission.

I think you need counselling,mail me on hotchocredrose@yahoo.com with ur problems in detail

DIVORCE

wtf??

And you need to ask this on the net?

Good eveningggggggggg Indiaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa haiiiiiiiii aadrish this side pls first u study ur self what u r if u find different, means u r same as ur husband because u adopted some kind of nature u can't change it but u expect other and want to involve. how it can be possible mam first u mix with other and adopt their nature than u find no difference between u and ur husband. i think god made for each other. good evening India

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your husband is either being selfish or is suffering from an inferiority complex.Marriage is not bondage as he is making it to be for you.both of you are meant to compliment each other,help each other,respect each other's feelings & much more .it is meant to be something to be enjoyed,not endured like you are doing now.you did never lose your right as an individual when you married him,ok.so make him understand that,not by qaurelling but seat him down & make him understand how you feel.if that is not enough,talk to one of his friends about this.if that does not change him,go for counselling & lastly pray if you believe in the efficacy of prayer because,there is notting prayer cannot do.

I am 30 yrs old, married since 2 yrs and going through the same situation. But here, its my wife.
She says she loves me so much that she wants me to be with her always and keep calling her every now and then when i am at my office.. I badly need some space to breathe... Keep ur fingers crossed my friend. There is a solution for every problem on earth.. Lets wait ........

End it, he's not going to change and sees nothing wrong with himself.

Hi,
Men are no doubt a little dominant , but then in ur case it is a little on the higher side. Break loose is the answer! Oops i don't mean seperation, but get bolder, defy him a little and start doing things u like...and i don't think it would take him time to realise and pay attention to u.

Im sure yu must be beautiful and he is not smart enough....thts the reason he is trying to dominate yu.......but yu shudn....after all yu too have yur individuality.

do not make this public issue. if you are having problem with your husband speak with him, explain your problem to him.but please by making this issue don't make people laugh at you.

The best person who can solve this problem is "YOU" and "You" only

if u want to continue with him try to adjust with him and his friends otherwise just ditch him out

I fail to understand how others can help you about this. You need to talk to your husband to solve this problem. See if you find better answers. Good luck.

Divorce his *** asap!

clapping needs two hands, I advise you to just try by slight changing your attitude and behavier. After all, he is your husband for life, you just cann't change the husband, (If at all changed, then what is the guarantee of second one).

so please try it.

do u believe in god then believe the power he will definately help u

Tell hime how do you feel it better to talk then to behave in an odd manner........ give it a try it might get some change in him

Tell him how do you feel

Talk to him frankly about your feelings & interests.Give him examples where you have given him space to do things he likes.Tell him similarly you also need your space.If this does not work out seek help of marriage councellors.Keep divorce as the last option.