Is this odd behaviour connected with depression/prozac or just because she is unsure about me??

I am meeting my ex girlfriend. We were together 9 mths, she ended things 4 mths ago. She has a history of depression, since being a teenager, she is 28 now. She also has chronic fatigue syndrome.

At the time she broke up with me her Dr said she was depressed. He prescribed prozac, which she took, and counselling, which she refused. She then said she wasn't depressed but unsure about us.

She also has low self esteem. She made comments when we were together like "I hold you back" etc

2 mths after we split I tried to sort things. She said us being apart was right and whoever ended up with me would be "as lucky to have met me as she was". She wanted to stay friends, I needed space.

I started dating someone else casually, so did she. I rang her 1 mth ago to suggest we meet up. She said no as it wouldn't be fair on the person she was seeing.

I wrote & told her I was fine with things ending, seeing someone, & happy to be friends.

She rang me. We are meeting.Tips??

Also, when she rang I asked her if she was seeing anyone, she said no. I told her I had been seeing someone (that has now ended).

I want to try and be with her but know it is complicated. Any tips??

Hi,
Its nearly impossible to understand how a depressed person thinks when you don't have depression yourself, and with chronic fatigue syndrome that makes things sooo much worse.
Just be honest and upfront with her, ask how her treatment is going and how she has been lately, tell her that your there for her but there is no pressure.
Don't put any pressure on her to resume your relationship, if she initates it well then go for it!
I think shes trying to push you away because she doesn't want her problems to hinder your life, which she obviously thinks is happening, she loves you too much to watch you get hurt by her problems.
Since she has a low self esteem try make her feel good about herself, tell her the things you like about her and if shes done something nice with her physical appearance then compliment her on it!
Hope this helps :)

I'm not sure if this answers your question at all, but I'm pretty sure it was Prozac that I've seen a news report on about how it actually made the people who were taking it, more depressed. If it's not Prozac and it's another drug, I'm sorry :\ But I'm almost certain it was.

Sorry to hear about her depression. Send her my good wishes :) And good luck for later, although I doubt you'll need it.

You asked this very same question the other day and got good feedback - if you have to keep asking hten your not sure about her so dont do it!!!

show here that you care for her be there to support her know that what ever happens you want to stand by her and help her as much as possible
from what you have wrote i think she really needs you but she cant bring her self to tell you due to depression

be positive!! and responsive to her needs

She has a low self esteem which goes hand in hand with depression , she thinks it's not fair on you to be stuck with someone as useless as her .

Your never going to talk sense into her while she suffers depression so you must play her game back to her .

tell her you cant function without her , her refusal to give it a proper go is causing you depression and you've considered medication .

She hates herself but she'd hate even more to see you in the same boat ,

she can only see negatives so she will understand this completely .

With luck 2 negatives will with time become a positive and her depression will be forgotten about .

Good Luck .

PS
I'm sure most answers will say be there for her or just care for her and other such nonsense .

This will only serve to make her feel even more hopeless

Having depression makes you unsure of everything and everyone around you, you don't want to or feel unable to have faith in much and most things just seem like hard work - including relationships.

Tips for meeting, try and keep things light and treat her as normal - make her laugh and leave on a good note. ;-)

it's a difficult thing to deal with someone in depression.
you have to keep your thinking right with your judgment.
if you're seeing anyone or whatever you have in mind, be a good friend to her. it will do a great deal of help to a friend.
:)

Its peculiar how you keep posting but never take any of the good advice offered.
Obviously she rang you when you said you were seeing someone else, she wants you on the string you've built for yourself. I'd like to bet if she actually does meet you, she'll say again let's just be friends or the same drivel about it being you making her depressed.