Should I tell my ex girlfriend, who has a history of depression, that I am committed to her?

My relationship with my girlfriend of 9 mths was ended by her 1 mth ago on the basis that "her feelings had changed". I suspected she was depressed (she has a history of depression), she admitted she was & went to her dr who presctibed prozac & counselling. 1 wk later she said she wasn't depressed, didn't need counselling and our relationship was causing her unhapiness. She ended things.

I decided not to contact her to give her space. Everytime I said I was worried and thought she was depressed, she said she wasn't. I thought the space would allow her to focus on herself without the complication of our relationship.

She got back in touch with me a wk ago over some money she owed me. I was unsure as to her intentions.

I recenty met up with her. Whilst the meeting was awkward at first, she then was very natural and happy with me. She seemed sad when we parted & there is clearly still feelings for both of us.

What to do now? I will see her next wk again & want to be with her?

if you really care about this person then take things slowly and let things take there time.go out and have fun together remember not to make the first move.good luck and hope you enjoy yourself

Just play it by ear! obviously this girl is happier being single, no offence to you. some people are just better at being friends than in a relationship. I wouldn't go rushing into telling her that you want to get back with her. If she needed space to get her head together, you're better off waiting until she's ready to get back with you. Diving straight back in again will only bring you back to where you were when you split up. if you're meant to be together then it'll happen. Don't forcre the issue. Show your committment to her by supporting her as a friend.

Dont tell her to her face, she may find this too much, what I would do is send her a text or letter telling her how you feel, but that if she does`nt want to she need not mention this text/letter next time you meet. This will tell her loud and clear how you feel but allow her to think about it and act on it if she wants to. Im worried that if you tell her this face to face she may panic and give you the wrong reaction as she is "on the spot"

"1 wk later she said she wasn't depressed, didn't need counselling and our relationship was causing her unhapiness."
Sounds to me like she was looking for an "out" and found it, She may be the type of person that doesnt want a long term relationship or she feels that the relationship you two shared was "toxic" in her eyes. You cannot change the way others feel, only stand back and respect there decision. If it was ment to be it will be.

let her do the running it sounds like she is depressed but is in denial of the fact for what ever reason so people think depression is something that you keep to yourself
that would explain her on /off feelings towards you as she will have days when shes fine then days when she just wants to be alone

If I were you, I'd let her come to you. I don't mean make her come running or play hard to get - I mean be there for her and let her see you you care. Then, when she feels better, she might see that you are a good guy and wants to be with you. Every relationship is different but there does seem to be feelings on both sides. However if she is depressed, the last thing she needs is pressure - it could make her withdraw further from you. I think you should carry on playing it cool, but showing you care. I admire you for the way your dealing with this. Just be patient. Good luck. x

hmm leave her alone. don't bring up anything. but just let her know you care. dont apply any pressure.

i was depressed, and after i found a really great guy and was happy, other males that i have known for a while suddenly told me that they had feelings for me, and it totally messed me up.

be her friend. let her know that you're there for her if she needs you. after that just let things be. if something happens and you end up together again well that's great :)

Hiya,its obvious that you care for this person very much,but i believe that she is looking for a get out clause.
Also please bear in mind that just because somebody is depressd dosent meen they are incapable of making a correct decision.
You seem to be saying that she only ended the relationship because she was depressed,this makes you sound slightly arragont,,,,,,,take it on the chin and move on,,,sorry its not what you wanted to hear,