Help me find direction in my relationship!?

I started seeing my boyfriend almost 2 years back..a year and 8 months to be precise.It was a long distance first..two different countries.but it was the best thing to have happened to me.we used to talk for hrs over da phone.he used to come down every three months and finally in Sept last year he came back for good.but after that things started to get messy between us.i wanted more of his timeand he wanted his space.first 4-5 months ..he kept doing things as i wanted till one day it became a nasty fight over meeting up.we fought like mad people.so bad that he din't want to speak to me ever.this went on for over a month.he was talking but he had become cold.then one fine day he came to me said he was sorry and we would work it out.we agreed.but even now its not the best.it seems like he is calling the shots all the time.if he doesn't want to meet,we don't meet.he gets pissed if i insist cos he feels i am forcing him.i don't know whether we are in for the long haul this way.what do i do

You back off, you don't call him, in fact, you might want to look around for another guy. Phone calls aren't the same as being with someone in person. Hes feeling too pressured, so back off, let him stew a bit, tell him you need a break too just to make sure you aren't too dependent on him. You are forcing him into something he doesn't want yet. That can't make you feel good either. So take some time off of the intensity and get some perspective back before worrying about the long haul.

Sounds like you are not the one for him. He wants to call the shots. You aren't going to be happy once he's established that he is the one to call the shots. You two have control issues between you. You describe how 'he kept doing things as I wanted' as a time when things were going well. They weren't going well for him at that point!
Back of and stop 'forcing' and see if you still like the way you feel with him. You may feel uncomfortable and decide that this is not the relationship for you.