Problem?? help?

My boyfriend and I are from two different countries but we've been happy together for 8 months now....things were fine but my parents want me to have an arranged marriage with this guy from our culture...the problem is when i told my boyfriend about it he was quiet...he said he loves me and wants to spend his life with my but he doesnt know how to react to these things...now the other guy is coming over from Ohio to meet me and i asked my boyfriend if he would be willing to meet my dad before the other guy came...at first he said YES (he has offered to many times before as well) but then i explained to him that im our culture meeting the parents is a serious thing so it means alot ...when i said this he said "lets sit on it" and since then he hasnt responded to it...I havent asked him cuz i would hate to push him into something he doesnt want so im giving him his space...but is this odd behaviour or would other men be like this in such a situation too??

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He is feeling pressured.... It sounds like in your culture, meeting the parents means a lot more than it does in the US....

And an arranged marriage..... Seriously, you need to tell your parents to forget about that- you are in a free country & that crap doesn't fly.....

hes scared!!

Are you going to have the arranged marriage? If you ultimately will do that, let your boyfriend go.

If he meets your parents will they except that he is who you want? If they dont' will you go with what they want?

Ask yourself what do you want to do. If it is stay with him, explain what you culture is, what your parents have in mind so he knows what he is up against and let him know your staying with him regardless. This is what he is probably confused about.

Simply put, he is not quite ready to commit to marriage but meeting your Dad. This would be normal unless you explain to him that you would not expect a commitment to marriage until the two of you decide with out the parents. And I would not want to marry someone arranged by my parents, cultural or not. This is the US, not India. This culture says I get to make my own mistakes in marriage and in life.

Think he is not ready for the committment of marriage and is scared to be pressured into meeting the folks under these circumstances. You need to stand up for yourself with your parents and let them know how you feel first.

Meeting your parents should be a good thing for someone that truly loved you being pressured or not I'm sure you would met with his parents if he asked without question. But yet and still you have to think about how he feels to you have just laid alot in his lap about marring someone else and you have not said anything about how he feels about this you should try talking to him and finding out how he feels about all this.

If you are an adult young woman, its you to make a decision depending who you love most. Your parents should chose you your partner. However if you are underage, thats a diferent situation, your parent would have to decide but still you have the right to say no. Love is not forceful, its kind, you decide on your own, they decide on their own to accept one another, to love one another and stay together. Stand up and tell them your stand and who you want in your life.

Can't you just tell your parents that you are in love and that you are old enough to make your own decisions?

Obviously, I might not understand about your culture, but surely you must put your heart first. Nowadays cultural issues are loosing terrain, besides, if you love this guy you're with, you must fight this battle.

I can't image getting married to someone I don't even know, let alone someone I don't love.

I wish you all the luck!