Having a home birth and dont' want to be bombared by my well meaning family?

When I send out the baby pictures (which will be right away), I want to put a note at the bottom saying something like 'I am very excited to show you the new addition to our family, however I am not up to visitors immediately. Please call so we can arrange a time to get together very soon.' Or something to put them at arms legnth in a nice way... but that gives me some control over all the pushiness they tend to have. I want this to a be positive experience. How to have them over one family at a time, and space them out, without hurting them? Does this sound good.. I was also thinking of meeting some of them at a restaurant as they tend to critisize my home as I have posters and items that they think are Satanic (unicorns or new age posters). How to meet them at a restaruant... AHH, how to handle this? How would you word the email with the baby pictures?

Honestly I think what you said to call first is a great idea b/c then you get to have them when you feel up to guests. as for your posters they're yourstyle and if they don't like them tough they don't have to live with them I covered my walls in band posters my mom hated them but let me have them b/c it was my room. If they don't like tell them not to look at them or my favorite was to tell people to deal with it! if youcan't get therapy! It has shut a lot of people up good luck

Well i had a hospital delivery and i'm a very blunt person sorry but i just flat out said idont want no one at the hospital at all when i get home i'll call and let u know when is a good time to drop in on us. For you I think ur approach will be just fine

I think that what you wrote sounds great! It doesnt sound like you are trying to be mean or anything so I would write that. As for meeting some at restaurants I wouldnt take a newborn out to a restaurant. Maybe after a couple of weeks but if i were you i wouldnt do that. Good luck!

Most people who have cared for a new baby will understand just how you feel. You have the right to decide who visits you in your own home. You can call people individually and give them a good time to come for a SHORT visit. If someone stops by unexpectedly and you don't want them to stay, you should have your husband\boyfriend\best friend\partner\whoever tell them when they can come back or where to meet you later.

It's your home and your baby. You are the boss.

I can understand your confusion on this question because right away families want to be involved, this is all out of good intentions, but they don't realize that you are trying to get adjusted to the new life you brought into this world and some of the birthing pain that comes with it. I would say something like "We will be in contact very soon and up to visitors. I do hope you understand." Something of that sorts. You don't want to sound too much like you really don't want them there, make it sound kind of personal like you would love to have them, and hate to do this, but you need time to take everything in. This is a big life change for you and your family, they should understand. Arranging a time sounds like you are having a business meeting to me (sorry no offense meant) make it a bit more warm and personal. Hope I was able to help a bit, thankyou for reading. Take care, good luck, but most of all congratulations on your new addition to the family.