I think my ex might be interested in me again but I don't want to push her. What should I do?

Hey

I posted an ask a few days ago about my ex. She ended things 1 mth ago & I had avoided contacting her to give her space. She txted me a few days ago on the basis she owed me some money & asked if she should call to discuss. I said not to worry about the money. She then said she had a dvd of mine and could bring it round. I suggested to her we chat at some point.

I called her and we chatted for a bit about what we've been up to. I suggested we should meet up for a drink and she said yes.

How should I deal with this meet up?? I want her back but know if I push or get full on she may pull away.

Something she said made me take note too. I suggested a meeting time and she replied, "that's a good time, it gives me time to get ready"!

I am not going to mention the break up and just be myself.

Are these signs she might be interested?? What should I say if she mentions the break up??

YES you should push her some times that is what girls want especially if she made the first move to call you! well thats what i think and i am a girl and i have made a move with the guy ive left and i want him to just come out with it so i dont have to get embarresed and plus it makes me feel like they actually do care and want me too!!!

You should play it very cool if you still are interested in her. It sounds like she may be interested again, or that she may just be lonely. Either way, if you want to get back together with her at some point, it should be mutual, not just you that wants to reconcile. So, I would play it cool and if she wants to discuss the break up, let her talk and you just listen. Don't sound lonely, eager, etc. Don't tell her if you've dated others, don't ask her that either. Whatever happens during the breakup is fair game and shouldn't cloud a reconciliation discussion. Move slowly into the recommitment, so that you can rebuild trust. You can't pick up where you left off, even if you try.

She may have realized she might have stronger feelings for you than she thought. But remember this isn't only about her, she broke up with you, she might be confused and its not fair for her to bring you in for her selfish reasons. Hear her out, but make sure she knows where you stand too, should the brake up come up. If not go with th eflow but don't set yourslef up to get hurt again, by this I mean if she says she wants a nother go at it ask her what changed her mind and decide if you feel its a good time for both of you.

the best thing to do is when you meet up for a drink treat is as a good friendship, take things as they come and just be yourself, if she does talk about the break up then you should talk to her about it but be nice she wouldn't of brought it up unless she wanted you to talk it over, relax and the conversation should come easy and if she asks you how you fell about anything the best thing to do is be nice and always be honest, the friendship is the best way to start any type of relationship.
hope it goes well for you take care.

She obviously ended things for a reason and maybe this meeting is for her to give back any of your property and moneys owed.Don`t jump the gun and think that she wants to go back down memory lane and re-start a relationship,just hear what she has to say and then take it from there.Their could be a number of reasons why she wants time to get ready maybe after your meeting she is going on out after.Remember be yourself and try not to mention your history together unless she brings it up...........good luck.

You need to make her think that she can't have you, then she'll be crazy for you.

But a word of warning: If this girl broke up with you once, she's very likely to do it again. She probably wants to know that you are still there for her, and once she knows this, it is more than likely that she'll be off again until the next time she is feeling a bit low or unloved.

Sorry if I sound cynical, but I've been in this kind of relationship.

Hope it all works out for you.

xxxx

She sounds very interested in my opinion and you gave her the space she craved.... good on you. Take it easy when you meet, listen to what she says, be pleasant. She may test the water to see if you're still interested... don't play so cool she thinks your not interested will you? Like you say, you're gonna be yourself, good, but do let her know you would take her back because you do miss her. Then maybe you can both sort out what went wrong and how to fix it so that it doesn't happen again. I think I remember your question last time. She felt stifled. You obviously were overly loving I suppose, just chill out yeh.

Good luck and I hope you both work things out.