Does she really love me?

I've been friends with a girl online for many years. We started dating (online) and because of our distance, we've only met in person once. Shes my first love and I love her a lot but I'm worried that she doesn't feel the same. It's hard to tell because she isn't a very warm person and not the type to txt message "I love yous" on the phone or anything. Though she didn't seem turned off after our initial meeting and still says "I love you" (usually only after I say it first).

She's been busy lately with "offline" things and hardly finds time to be online. (the only way we communicate right now) I worry that she's more concerned with her current life and not that concerned about a life with me. I don't want to just give in all the time and give her so much space that she leaves, and I don't want to kiss up to her so much that she gets bored with how nice I am either. But I don't want to make her give up everything for me. How can I find out how she feels? (I've already tried asking her)

I would also like to add that we do plan on meeting again but I'd really like to make a commitment and possibly move in together and see if that works out but I don't think she's ready.

Another problem is that she is really nice to everyone, including the opposite sex, and she is attractive and has guys coming up to her often. She does not make it clear to these guys that she's dating someone else and not available and that bothers me. She also hangs out with a lot of guys and it's hard for me to not be jealous but I can't exactly tell her she can't have guy friends. I think she's faithful to me at least but I don't trust the guys at all, and I'm afraid that with our long distance relationship, it's only a matter of time before one of these guys gets too cozy with her.

I'm stuck here because I don't want to lose her and I've waited so long already to be with her. It's not great being at her mercy but I don't know how to gain any control in the relationship without causing problems.

Having not had any relationships online... it's hard for me to grasp the idea of falling in love online. I enjoy spending time on the computer...but keeping a relationship going needs more than texts, emails, e-cards etc.

Whether you want to or not... just give her time. If it's really meant to be... it will happen. Meanwhile... get out into your own part of the world and develop face to face friendships and relationships. Life;s too short to be infront of a computer all the time.

That said... I'm outta here! (he he)

if you've already asked her then you should already have the answer.

what about getting to know me instead? ;-)

Ask her how she feels about the relationship bro. Don't grovel at her feet but be firm and ask why. That's all a man can do if he's giving it his all.

Long distance relationships are very tough, been there done it. I can tell you that i know actions speak louder than words.

Just give here time, and continue the communication you have right now. Maybe she meant it that she love you but don't have much time to talk to you.

well u could ask her friends 2 ask her but NO thats not rite cuz then she'll b like y couldnt u ask me so NEVERMIND!!!!! adn um...well it seems like ur sol 4 now dude i wouldnt give up on here but i think she doesnt like the long distance thing...cuz if she cant say i love u adn uve been goin out 4 many yrs...than she doesnt.....adn im sry to say his cuz u seem like u really really care 4 her adn she jus doesnt realize it......

Tried to wait more time, and be patient time will come for you and her.

you no i went threw this just a couple of months ago the guy i was talking to wanted ta b on the phone with me all the time we was on the computer whenever we got the chance and if i went out with my bestfriend he acted like it made him mad and i was going threw a money problum but he couldnt understand that it was really hard with 2 kids and all well him not understanding really got on my nerves and he made me not even want ta talk to him when i could so we just kinda driffted apart and now he has a gf and it really hurt me but i kinda loook at it as his fault and his gf now controlls him so its really his bad not mine and i hop things DO NOT WORK OUT WITH THEM AND HELL CALL ME so good and dont crowed her

internet love is tough i know..i met someone on line ive known for a bit..it gets way confusing!! i know epecially if they live far,,i hate when they dont return messages too...but they could actually be busy too!! it sucks..i think to myself is this gonna work?? is this just a fling? im a person that likes to see the whole pitchure details and all
its way hard!! u said u met her only once..so why dont u meet up again how far are u guys away? woman need assurance all the time that u love them..at least i do!! im a needy girl!! and a stubbarn girl..i think its best if u really love her has much has u say..show her how nice u.. are woman do really like nice guys!!