Need some advice regarding my girl friend?me and my gf r goin through a rough patch at th mo and she say's tha

she love me, that she's in-love wiv me and she don't want to lose me but she's scared of staying wiv the same person and regreting it years later, were almost at breaking point but i don't want this and from wot i can gather my gf don't either but it's tearing me up inside not knowing if were gonna stay 2geva or go our seperate way's. she say's she want's to go back to basic's like flirting, dating again to see how thing's work. on top of this she has bin talking to this bloke that she met on this site, it has gone from a question to emailing each other to txtin each other to phoning each other to talking bout meeting up it never bothered me when they were emailing but when it went further i asked her to stop talking to him and all i got was a loud of grief like why aren't i allowed male friends, i'm not bothered how many male friends she has but all this has happened in the space of 2 weeks surley if she loved me as much as she say's then she wud see that it is hurting me and stop

Hiya hun,
Sorry to hear that you are going through a rough patch. You dont say how old you both are??? this may sound blunt & cold but it sounds as though your girl wants her cake & eat it!! talking from personal experience it will never be ok to be with someone & date others, It never works out for the better, someone always gets hurt, I have been with my man 19 years now & still wonder if I am with the right person, I love him with all my heart but we are total opposites & we have to work damn hard to be a couple, thats the pleasure of having a good relationship. You sound pretty easy going & it sounds as though your girl dosent respect the sanctity of love? I am no saint & have had my fun but would be devestated if my man found out so keep certain things quiet. If she needs to go back to basics as you say then I think for your own benefit you should try a short seperation & you go out & flirt & have your bit of fun, maybe her seing you with other girls would give her a reality check & realise it is you she wants to spend her life with. whatever happens hunni good luck xx

Let me translate all that for you: She's popping someone else.

Your girlfriend wants the space. Give it to her, or you both may regret it later.

Not only does she tell you she wants to date other people, but also she seems to rub it in your face that she met someone else. That is disrespectful and unfair.

Honestly, as a woman, I would be suspicious about her intentions, if not her actions, with this guy. Why the hell she's off meeting other men online when she is in a relationship is totally beyond me.

Take a break. What's the worst that can happen? Either you will meet other people whose company you enjoy more, or you will get back together stronger than before.

you are boring her.

i gotta say the same, seems she likes to flirt big time or is doing the dirty on you..you don't need this, theres plenty of girls out there go and find a girl that respects you and not use you like tihs girl is so openly doing...

i understand that she is hurting you by what she is doing (talking with this other guy) but all you can do is let her see that your better for you...if you luv her you will support and be there for her...luv isnt easy...but if its going to be its going to be...dont rush it...but dont give up on it either...

move on - it's over

ok so you're hurting and she's caught up in her idea of this guy who seems to have hypnotised her over the net etc. Ya know what you now need to take the upper hand and put her in her place, she's right theres nothing wrong with having male friends but she's gone way too far, shock the life out of her, announce tomorrow that you need to tell her something. when you eet ask her to listen and then state your piece

tell her you think you both need some space and you are taking a break ease things off for a week or so
if she is worth your love she will come running to you if not let her go. You sound young there's a million girls out there who would'nt dream of cheating on you so try it, take the risk of loosing her because she needs a wake up call or to set you free not dangle you on a string. Good luck.

youve ever right to feel hurt thats bang outta order,what you do next is up to you,sounds like shes decided that shes suddenly scared of staying with the same guy,to give her the opportunity and excuse to go test this other guy outand then have you still in line if it doesnt work out.If this was my bloke saying this along with the timing of meeting and exchanging calls with another woman id be very dubious huns im sorry.if she insists dont be waiting for her when she returns if she backs outthen its because she chose you so theres something to work on xxx

She's allowing the other guy to convince her the grass is greener where he is!
She will probably regret it later, but let her go before she cheats on you.
I don't think she has been 100% honest with you about what she has been discussing with the other guy.

i think shes taking you for granted, she knows that you love her and thinks she can use u and u wont say nothing! just let go! she doesnt deserve you! and in that case you probably can see other woman too! just move on with ur life, its not worth it!