Ex-Mother-Inlaw Slandering my name to everyone?

Ex-Mother inlaw slandering my name to everyone?

I need some advice, I have tried to ignore it but its just too difficult when I know some people are believing the crap my ex-mother inlaw is saying, We have a small church community and the rumors have spread I almost don't feel welcome, My husband and I separated 3 mths ago and according to his mum its all my fault because I am sleeping with a female friend of mine, she has told me to my face that she has proof, and NONE of it is true I have to beautiful babies and I met this female friend in parents room when she was feeding her son, we are friends like any other friend and neither I or her are defiantly not gay, I am sick in the stomach she plays with my kids but tells me and everyone that she has proof that I sleep with females I don't know what to do, my ex agrees with her and says its true and thats what ruined our marriage, she is very controlling and if you don't do as she says ur in trouble. She has and is still humiliating me

My ex totally beleivs his mum, regrets ever laying eyes on me, never has or will stand up for me and its hard to avoid ex mother inlaw because his back with his parents so when I drop kids off she is their hugging kissing kids while spreading rumors abt me, I have confronted her she says it 100% true and her proof was god told her

Actually, since this is happening within the church, you do have options you wouldn't normally. Go and see the pastor. Ask him to schedule a meeting between you, your ex , his mom, and the "other woman." Tell him that you want to talk it out, and ask him to moderate and make sure everyone CALMLY gets their say.

Then, ask for a few moments at the pulpit before or after services. Get up (I know this will be hard, but it should come from your lips) and tell the entire congregation that the rumors that are circulating about you are patently untrue; and that, as Christians, you trust that they will not believe them and will welcome you as they always have.

I hope that you can work out your marriage. And getting this settled will allow you to focus on just that. Good luck.

Are you in Britian? If you are here in America we have laws against slander. Here if a person slanders you, you can take them to court.
Slander: (1)The utterance of false charges or misrepresentations which defame and damage another's reputation. (2) a false and defamatory oral statement about a person

Isnt that something that she is actually in a church group! Doesnt she get it that her own grandchildren may hear these lies later on and believe them? She is evil. I suppose your response could range from ignoring to passing out flyers at church denying her slanderous lies to hiring an attorney. I dont know what I would do under those circumstances but I certainly would keep distance and my children away from her

Take her to court for Defamation of Character and make her bring proof about her accusations. Just remember...your friends and family know you and know what the woman says is not true. As far as anyone else...if they believe...who cares. They are people you don't want to associate with anyway if they are going to believe rumors without getting the facts. :)

What are you doing let your kids be with her???? She may turn them against you in time. For goodness sake stop, taking them there.
Seek a lawyer, tell him/her what is going on and get them to write a letter, what she is doing is illegal.
Do NOT let your children alone with her, tell your layer, what she is saying to them.

Document, document, document,.......everything she and he says.......this is important, because if things get worse, you will have the documentation to back you up. Hopefully even have her slanderous claims in writing! Think ahead to a divorce!! They are trying to prepare the ground, be ahead of them!!
ONLY talk with her or your ex by email......................and keep the emails. Always be polite, don't give them anything to use against you. Make all arrangements for the children, via email...if you use the phone, tape recored messages. IF they want to discuss anything not to do with the children, file it but don't reply. Don't give them anything they can take out of context and use against you. Don't let them bait you. ONLY email about the children...ie what time your ex can see them, dr's appointments etc..


Check out this website, see the list on the left, : http://groups.msn.com/NARCISSISTICPERSON...
This group, can help you find your feet, and understand you ex's family better.......even if they are not Narcissistc(think they are, but what do I know), they are abusive.

His mother is looking for an excuse why her darling perfect son, can't make a relationship work...and trying to make sure none of the blame is hers.
Any chance you ex is gay???? Are they projecting?