Omg not again =[ i'm 14, and my 12 week old daughters crying again?

She usually cries from about 11pm-9am, and she just won't stop. If you look through my questions, she wouldn't stop crying earlier. well i took a bath with her like someone suggested, and she played in the water and laughed and had a good time =] i washed her with the johnsons baby shampoo lavender stuff, and i put her in her pjs, and then layed her down on a blanket in the living room. well we [haha] were asleep for about 2 hours, and I woke up about 10 minutes before her and she was still asleep sucking on her paci. =] well she woke up and i breastfed her, burped her, did the knee to chest thing to relieve gas, and changed her loaded diaper lol, it was all normal. i took her temperature, 97.2, and then just held her and sat on the couch and watched tv. well she was wiggling around and so i put her down and played with her, and got a call from my parents saying they had to stay late for a meeting. well when i hung up she went hysterical! she's been crying for about an hour straight.

for about a week, she cries nonstop from 11pm-9am, and then goes to sleep from about 9-1pm. well i'm not sure what to do, and i'm extremely tired, like i've been getting around 3 hours a sleep a day, and my mom won't help me because she said it's my responsibility. i've tried the vacuum, the rocking in a rocking chair, the singing, humming, the sitting outside even at 4am, the relaxing music, the putting her down and letting her cry while i calm down, EVERYTHING. i missed soo much school that i have to go to summer school, so i have to bring her to summer school with me at about 10 because i get there late, and then just lay her down in the back of the room on a blanket and she sleeps from the time i get there to the time i leave, no problem. but i just don't know how to get her to stop, what should i do to help her quiet down?

she's 12 weeks 3 days, not teething.

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Sounds like you're doing wonderfully.

Babies cry sometimes, it's probably colic.

I know how frustrating it is.... my daughter's 12 weeks too. I'm 23 and it's soooo hard sometimes !

If absolutly nothing works, then she might be cranky and need to sleep. My daughter gets herself worked up into a right state sometimes. She won't do anything because she's too tired.

They're loud aren't they.... my hubby works with harrier jets, and i stole some of his ear defenders yesterday. These things protect against huge jet engine's, two feet away.
Nothing. She goes straight through them.
Try the crysis line. It's nice to be able to talk to someone when the baby's screaming and nothing works. It really is one of the most stressful things in the world.

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!
You are doing everything you can for your daughter, and she is obviously loved.
Rammstein sends my daughter to sleep, something about the beat and deep voice i think.

I am impressed that you are coping so well, you really are doing fabulously. Even if your parents aren't, I'm proud of you. Your showing people that young women can take care of their children.

I read at some point that some babies do really well with swaddling. A pediatrician in LA has done a lot of work with parents with crying babies. I am attaching the link for finding out more about it.

i'm assuming since your screen name is "his girl" you are still with the daddy. so call him up to help you out! at least i hope you are not in this alone!

try gently massaging her to try to get her relaxed...

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it really saddens me that you are going through this alone. punishing you by not helping you is just cruel. also, you are 14...you can't be treated like an adult! kids make mistakes. im sorry that your family is unsupportive. they should at least try to help you for the sake of the baby. in the meantime, try to find ppl you can rely on, and keep loving that precious baby of yours!!!

Just sing her a good night song, read her a story, play with her for a little while. And most of all check her diaper(The most reason why all babies cry).

ok, email me. My mom would like to talk to you, if you want to. She is a mother of 8 and breastfeeding advocate and she wants to help you, only if you want.....

onlyhope24@yahoo.com

Maybe she has sensitive ears? Does she usually cry after loud noises like the phone ringing?

wait...did i just see you were 14 with a 12 week old daughter? Well, try the same thing you just did.

Maybe she has reflux?? Check with the doctor.

Unfortunately some babies are like that. She may be colicky (you should probably talk to her pediatrician about that) or she may really be gassy (in which case you can try gas drops). My son also gets fussy if you don't hold him in the right position so you might want to try different ways of holding him.

unfortunately she is going to cry some babies cry alot others not so much thats what babies do some people call it colic but if she isnt sick, got a temp or seem in pain she might be just having a moment. take care your parent should be home soon stay cool and just love that baby

That seems like a long time for a baby to cry that hard. Do you have a baby swing? Have you tried holding her in every possible position you can think of? (Im sure you probably already have tried!!!) Hmm, perhaps she is gassy? Maybe hungry again? Sometimes my 8 week old son will drink 2 bottles back to back, he is a pig!! Good luck, and congratulations on the baby!!!

ok i was always told to keep socks on a colic baby and maybe you need to try some formula as she might settle down i had to do formula cause breast milk was giving to much gas but i would try some formula or let her latch back onto the breast and if that does not work she might have a ear infection

Sounds like she's colicky. Talk to her pediatrician about what to do for that.

All you can really do is check her diaper, make sure she's not hungry, and doesn't have to burp, and just ride it out. It's tough, I know!!

I admire you for being so responsible at your young age.

Good luck!

just remember to always stay calm dont get frustrated b/c you cant figure out what is wrong with her she feeds off that and gets even more cranky. try swaddling her like a burrito and holding her close to you. it sounds like eveything else your doing is fine. just my biggest advice dont get overwelmed baby feels that. best of luck to you young mother.

what if you just brought her in the bed with you and let her nurse until she fell asleep. sometimes my daughter stays latched on to me all night but at least i get sleep.

it sounds like your being a great mommy. just keep trying. maybe you could schedule a doctors appointment just to make sure there isnt anything wrong

Try doing all that stuff...yet again!
Crying babies are the hardest thing to deal with, no matter how old you are and especially for a new mom.

One thing you could try is turning on the vacuum cleaner. I needed it to get me to sleep for a long time after I was born. It's a noisy place in your uterus and that may help her.

Try laying her on your chest so she can hear your heartbeat.

I wish you the best of luck...this must be really hard!

I saw your other posts and you got a lot of good ideas on that post. I am proud of you for taking care of your baby. For the crying, I think it might be gas or colic. Have you eaten anything different lately? I know you said you are nursing. I agree with the other poster about her crying possibly because the phone rang. Hang in there.

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Does she like her car seat? I used my car seat as a swing, by putting the baby in it, leave the handle up like you are carrying them and just rock it gently back and forth. Just make sure she isn't dressed too warm. Sometimes, they get sweaty on their back. Another suggestion might be some calming music. You can do it.

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No, Benadryl. I don't think that is a good idea. It shouldn't be used as a sleep aid for a baby.

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How about giving her a massage? Like rubbing her back.

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Do you have a car seat you can use as a rocker?

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I also pray with my children. We pray the rosary. I saw on your profile you are a Christian. I am praying for you now. God bless you.

Ask your doctor if you can give her Benadryl. If the phone wakes her up, turn off the ringer or ask your parents not to call if baby is asleep. Have you tried a sleep machine or playing some relaxing music in her room?

Have u tried the 5 S? I read the Happiest baby on the block and it saved my life.
1: swaddle her with a light blanket, she needs to feel secure so make the blanket tight like when she was in the womb.
2:sucking, give her her paci if she takes one, if not let her feed.
3: shhhhing. do it loud cause in the womb they hear it and she's not going to be able to hear u unless it's loud right by her ear
4: swinging, even if u don't have a swing set her in ur lap swaddled, sucking on a paci, shhhhing her and rock to the side.
5: side: try to get her to sleep on her side. you can lay her on her back after she's asleep

It sounds like ur baby has her days and nights messed up, it happened for about 2 weeks with my baby when she was around that age. I tried keeping her awake more during the day.

I know you are young and it's a hard job but try to get her on a schedule. It's important to give her a bath at the same time, lay her down for naps at the same time ect. But try the 5 S's it worked wonders for me.

Swaddle the baby. Wrap her up good and tight with her little arms at her side. Get someone to help with this so you can keep her arms down. Then rock/hold her a bit and give her a paci. I swear by the swaddle. Since you don't have much cash, just use a blanket. but if you have some extra, see if you can pick up a swaddle blanket. They are life savers and are easier than swaddling with a real blanket (I can't get them tight enough for my wiggle worm). Also, I like to wrap the little one to me. He likes to snuggle and listen to my heartbeat etc...They are expensive but check out the moby wrap. They are about 17 or 18 feet of cotton fabric. It's probably something you could make yourself. But when in a real pinch, I wrap my boy and sing to him. We rock out. He normally passes out in a few minutes.

Good luck! Stay strong!

maybe you should try distracting her. my little girl is 5 months now, but from 2 months onwards she gets bored of things.
If you put her down at school and she sleeps for so long, perhaps she doesnt want to sleep for so long of a night.
My daughter has a 2 sleeps of a night for 6 hours each time with a 2 hour break in between and only naps for about 40 minutes during the day. She has been like this for a long time, maybe even since she was 2 months or so.
I have to walk around the house and show her new things and talk to her constantly cos she is just so bored and she wants to see everything! Sorry I couldnt help more.

wow im so sorry to hear that no one is willing to help you and i give you props for actually being able to do this on your own! Im a teen mommy as well and i dont have much help at all either i am with my daughters father but he doesnt do anything for her, so i know how hard it is.. maybe she has some kind of pain that you cant see on the outside or by taking her temp. I would try some tylonel for right now if you suspect she is in pain and deffinately talk to her pediatrician in the morning, and i seen you said you were doing some things for gas, when my daughter had gas from nursing i would use the Milacon gas drops and they helped her so much and she was able to fall asleep more comfortably, i would just say keep doing what your doing and try to get thru the night, you can sleep when she does even if that means you have to miss school tomorrow, if you see her doctor they can give you a note for school! maybe it was something you ate that is making her fussy since your nursing you have to be carefull

Hey hun I have a 5 week old little boy and im 18 years old my husband is in the military and not with me at the moment so im all alone in this labor love called motherhood as well... My neighbor with a 10 wk old had this problem and it turned out to be colic..If there is no relief right now you can try to wade through the night but I would recommend finding some way to the hospital thats what my friend did she called 911 and an ambulance came and picked her and the baby up..Call 911 and explain the situation and they should send someone out to pick you and the baby up whether it be cop or ambulance. You can ask the doctor all types of questions and ask for references about finding somewhere to help you..Maybe a home for single parents that way you are surrounded by support and people who will help you out and get you out of that unsupportive household because right now you NEED support...As for yourself right now you need to take a breather because the baby feeds off that and it will just upset her more just try to remain calm and so will she =)

About all these jerks telling you your to young to be a mother and what not dont listen to them I get it all the time and im 18 and married!! You sound like a great and caring mother and I wish you the best of luck, I guess you can tell motherhood isnt exactly the easiest job in the world...

Best of luck and im praying for you hun

Ok im sick of people bitching at you for having a baby so young. Youve heard it already from your parents obviously and the fact that they arent helping with their grandchild even if u did make a mistake is crap!!I think she is colicy but try gas drops too. Not just the knee thing. My baby boy did the same things but only for a week or 2. It slowly got better. All i know is keep trying, especially the music. I have a music thing that plays music and has a projectile screen thingy. I seen on ebay they are like $8. check it out. Music and shhhh usually help mine along with rocking or walking. Just keep trying and dont get upset. They sense that. Even though I would get so upset I would cry half the night. Good luck

Honey I am so sorry that you have to deal with this without your parents. I would try a nice warm bath again and then when she gets out give her a baby massage with some lotion, get her in pj's and then lay down with her and nurse her and see if that works. If she has gas give her some drops if you have them. Do you have grandparents around to help you maybe? She sounds like she is colicky. Where do you live and I can see what I can do for you for help. e mail me when you get this so we can talk privately. Sara

also i see someone said benadryl shouldnt be used to help babies sleep, that is not right, my peditrician told me to use on my baby for a week to get a sleep pattern started.

I can't imagine going through all this at 14 - you sound like a really good and caring mother, and I am glad you are breastfeeding and doing everything you can for her as you are.

Some babies are like this - try sleeping with her in your bed, keeping the lights off or very low, no noise or just white noise. Even tv can stimulate them too much, I suggest not watching it when you are trying to get her to sleep - at 12 weeks she is already very aware of tv. You can try wearing her in a sling, too, just keeping her on you all of the time. My daughter is 6 months, but also very high needs and it gets a little better by 6 months...but it is also a part of their personality. Just nurture it the best you can, this too shall pass. You will be glad for all you are doing for her now. Good luck to you - at 14 you seem to be doing more than a lot of people older than you would be doing and your baby will be better off for it.

First of all sweetie, you need to just take a deep breath and :::calm down::: I also have a 12 week old daughter, and I can tell when I'm agitated, she only gets more agitated. If you need to, lay her on her back in a safe place (like her crib) and leave the room for a breather. When you've regained yourself, just go back and comfort her the best you can!

It sounds like you're doing the same things any other mother would do. TRUST ME, we've all had these nights. What works for my girl is -- no lie -- rock music. I turn down the lights, put on some classic rock, lay her against me with her back to my chest, and kind of bounce her up and down to the beat. It's funny because I don't even listen to rock music!!

Just remind yourself that babies cry. It does sound like she has colic (so does my little one) so if you get a chance google "colic" and inform yourself. It won't last forever, I promise.

I'm a single mom too. My daughter is 8 weeks old and she sometimes start crying and just refuses to go to sleep. WHen this happens, the only thing I can do to get any sleep is to lay on my back with her on my chest. I put a big pillow on either side of my so she can't roll off me. Then I let her nurse and fall asleep on me. I usually fall asleep for a little while too. Just be careful that her nose isn't covered at all because she could suffocate. I know some people are going to say not to do this but it's the only thing I've found to work and you gotta do what you gotta do. If I can't even get a few hours of sleep I'm not going to be able to be a good mommy to her.

Also, try a swing. If you can't afford a new one, try Once Upon a Child or Craigslist.com You can find some great deals on all kinds of gently used stuff! There's also a site called freecycle.com (I think) where people exchange free stuff. I haven't used it but I've heard about it.

Good luck and hang in there! I have faith in you. We can handle a lot more than we think we can!

To me, you sound like a really good mother but thats sort of the price you pay for getting pregnant at an early age

dang maybe that shows your just not old enough to have a baby