Creepy Question (SO sorry, but please help)?

I'm 18, never had a boyfriend, don't have any friends.. not your average 18 year old female at all. I had a bad childhood. Actually, it's almost as if I had no childhood at all. I fear that my father is going to try to take away my adulthood as well. That's another story though. Here's my most recent concern regaurding my father--

I can't even TALK about guys around him. I'm just now getting out, meeting guys everywhere. I literally have the guys lining up and chasing me around stores, yelling at me as I drive by, screaming "I love you" from across the room, whistling at me.. etc. It's a whole new exciting thing for me. My father acts as if this is a sin. It's almost like he's jealous. He has in no way ever been there for me. I've never actually had a real conversation with my father. When my mother jokes around about me getting married, having children and things of that nature, my fathers face turns apple red and his facial expression looks extremly scary.

He starts giving my mother dirty looks and clenches his fists like he wants to hit me or something. He looks as if he could explode, and I've seen that look-- it terrifies me. Why wouldn't he want me, his only daughter to have a relationship? To be happy..

It's so extreme that I can't even talk on the phone. He doesn't allow me to talk on the phone especially to guys. He thinks all women are "vvhores, sluts, bitches"... etc. There's a guy who lives 3 hours away from me and I actually want to be with him, but I fear that I can't. If I'm ever with a guy physically (I'm a virgin) I'll always have that fear in the back of my mind.. those thoughts about my father and how all women are vvhores. What's wrong? He almost makes me feel like someone with mental retardation or something. He's always told me, "Never get married, it'll be the biggest mistake of your life." I WANT kids, I WANT a husband, I WANT a family. Please.. I'm an emotional wreck. How unhealthy is this?

I think you should get away from him, your 18 years old...so he can't stop you from leaving. It sounds to me like he thinks of you as his property instead of his own child. If your out of highschool (or will be soon) i'd say go away to college or university. But he really sounds like he needs help...have you told this to anyone else?

You need to get away from your father.
you may love him, and he is your father but, he's wrecking your life.
i advise you to find a flat somewhere near this boy or with a friend, and move on with your life....

you need a life...
XD

You are absolutely right. Everyone wants to find love and start a family. Your "father" ....... is a complete nutcase that should be shot in the head.

It's pretty unhealthy. Sounds like you need to find away to move out of the house and get far away from the guy.

Umm. You're 18, you're an adult and you can do whatever you want to.

Let see. You're 18. That's an adult in almost every state in this country. Its time for you to leave the roost. Go to college, look for financial help to go in case you say you can't afford it. Leaving the home can be traumatic to you or any parent but you must go. If you can't then you're being held against your will and some legal issues will be addressed if not corrected.

Hey calm down its okay im here for you basically what i think it is your dad is unhappy with how his ife turned out so he thinks that by not letting you get married or have a boyfriend he thinks you wont be making a mistake but its your life and you can do what you want why not just move out your old enough you could come live with me but i dont where your from cause im from the u.k but dont worry about your father dont let him get that pretty face of yours down oh and dont tell your dad but im a guy ill be here if you want to talk mind i dont care what the time but ill be here okay so you have a friend you can talk to

Hey, that sounds really rough. I know this is extreme, but have you considered leaving? Are you still in high school? Can you talk to your mom? It is not normal to be in a situation like that and it can cause permanent damage, but the fact that you recognize this means that it is in no way too late. My best advice is that you see what you can do about getting away from him. Women are not whores and tramps, and don't let anyone ever let you feel like you are less than them. He is that way because he is intimidated by you. I know it might not make sense but it is true.
Good luck!

You said that you are afraid of being a "whore" because of what your dad said. Do you know what I am saying? Your dad is trying to confuse you by saying all of this crap. Try to stand up for yourself and if he gets mad either run away and go with a boy you want to live with because you are old enough or just make sure to run up to your room and stay there until he comes up to appologize and by the way, make sure to stand up for yourself ALWAYS because if you do not you will probably spend the rest of your life regreting it.Hope this helps!

Im guessing your parents either split up or got divorced
Obviously your father has a lot of bad emotions from this.
I think your father may be afraid of you getting married because all he knows is it ends sourly.

Dont let your fathers foul moods put you of from dating, you could talk to your mum about it and see why your father may be behaving this way and if she cant shed any light then go directly to your father and ask what the big deal is about you growing up and dating.
Sometimes you just got to ask and ask until you get the answers

Sometimes its hard for parents to realise that their kids are growing up
If your living with your father then why dont you move in with your mom things might get better and you might get the extra support and love you need

Good luck

Wow. You are in a bad situation, but you should know that it is not your fault. And you should not feel like there is something wrong with you for wanting to meet someone and have a full life on your own. The one with a problem is your father. I suggest you find a way to move out, even with a friend if you can (and he wouldn't come after you). Your father sounds angry and bitter and maybe he will be jealous of any attention someone else gives you. It may be good for you to get some advice from a counselor or church leader or another adult you trust. You deserve to live a happy life.

Your father sounds old and bitter about his life. Whatever went wrong in his life, dont let it effect you. You are 18, he has no legal bearing over you. get out ASAP and start living. If he wont let you get a job, see if you can stay with someone else until you can support yourself. if that doesnt work, join the military. There are ways out.

It's time to make a choice. Are you a scared little girl, or a young woman who can make her own judgments about life?

Don't run off and do something silly. Get your education, make sure you can fend for yourself. There are *lots* of boys in college...date, have fun, and then decide if marriage is for you. Put first things first.