Calling all Mums! I'm not perfect but sometimes I really think my mum hates me. Who do you think is right?

She never says she loves me (ever!) and is always nagging me, like constantly. I have a tidy room and I do my chores but she hates me going out every weekend and constantly moans about my friends(they drink too much, they have dyed hair + make up, they're too SHORT! etc) and the fact that I wear make up. ("you look like a clown"). I'm 16 and I love meeting new people and getting out at night, but she's really shy and spends most of her time at home. She's really practical and we never ever do the mum and daughter things all my girlfriends seem to do with theirs. Am I being unfair or is she? Please tell me where I'm going wrong if I am!

Well, maybe the reason why your mom hasn't said I love you to you is because she might be thinking that it might make you feel awkward or her too. some people (not only moms) are not verbal about they're feeling... I'm sure she said it to you when you were a baby and it doesn't go away even if you don't hear it now.
When I was your age I too have a tidy room, good grades and all I always think is that she doesn't even appreciate it and see it at all, until now, that we're grown ups... she told me that she always believed I could do it, no doubt in her mind (to be a good daughter, student).
And about your friends, well yeah moms are like that, did you ever notice the fact on how attentive she is about your friends and what kind of people they are... it's because moms want to know who you hang out with, if they're good company to you or would get you drunk all the time.
Make-up? my mom used to say that too and I tell it to my daughter too, because I don't want her relying on make-up to make her look beautiful because she is gorgeous the way she is... plus make up damages skin specially for teenagers because they are not that thorough in cleaning it off they're face.
Your friends are probably doing mom things with their moms that they both like, you know your moms shy so why not look for something to do together that you both like.
I don't think she's being unfair, I think she's trying to be a mom the way she knows how.
Now, I am actually thankful because if she didn't do all those things (raised me the way she knew how), i wouldn't be the way I am now... I finished college, worked at a good company, I have my own family, and I'm living comfortably.
You'll get her too when you have your own daughter, I know grown-ups tell you that all the time, but it's actually true. =)

Just sounds like a case of two different personalities. Not uncommon. I felt like my mother hated me throughout my life (not so)...in my teen years she even told me she hated me. I moved out as soon as I turned 18 and never looked back. Though our relationship wasn't great, I still visited on occassion and said I loved her...she's my mom. It has improved over the years...but she's still a nag and SO negative it drives me crazy to be around her for long.

it seems that your mother may have had a bad childhood herself and thinks this is the best way to raise you, all mother are worried their daughters might become sluts (not saying you are one) but when a mother sees their daughter with make up going out to meet friends at ur age they worry

Perhaps she looks at you and sees what she missed in her teenage years. Did she have children at a young age? She may be having some internal struggles or perhaps something traumatic happened to her as a teen and she doesn't know how to talk to you about it. There is no right and wrong when it comes to a mom and her daughter. Ultimately I'm sure she only wants the best for you. Agree to disagree. Enjoy your life!! Don't try to live it for your mom or to impress your mom. People would pay money to be 16 again, as evidence by all the plastic surgery in Hollywood. Have fun, where you're a mommy you'll look at everything a bit differently.

I'm not a mum but I know that your mum doesn't hate you, she just has her own issues to deal with. She may be taking it out on you unfairly or you may be doing things that annoy her without realizing! She picks at you so there is obviously a difference of opinion. Try to make her life easier if you can and you may be surprised that her attitude changes.

Also, mums and daughters can totally clash when you are a teenager, its just a fact of life. You will never understand why (I still don't!) but there it is! You will probably grow similar as you get older (in a nice way) and bond better/ be less at each other's throats. In the meantime, try and live a peaceful life with your mum and get through to the light at the end of the tunnel.