In love with a father to be - what should I do?

I struck up a friendship with a guy since start of December.We had a spark and never acted on it cause we were both in a relationship.Since we meet after that I could feel real chemistry then the bombshell-his girlfriend of ten years was pregnant just a week before the night at Christmas.He never wanted children or get married.Nothing happened until March and one day we started texting eachother and by the end of the day we met and from the first kiss we feel in love. from that first week he moved into the spare room.He moved out to his friends house after 2 wks, but we r a secret and no one knows as how it will look. He has always been honest with me and said he has to move back and doesn't want to look like the man who walked away and also wants to be part of his childs life and will b in the spare room and doesnt even know if hell stay.from the first night we told eachother we were in love and we dont have sex just hug and kiss although we have done in the past.

I think you should leave this relationship alone until he has decided what he wants to do, either to leave his wife and children and live with you, or to stay with his wife and leave any relationship alone with you.

He can be separated from his wife and still be a part of the children's lives, but its sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it.

And i know its all very easy for people to be judgemental about this situation, but remember one thing if he has cheated on his current girlfriend, whats to say that in 10 years time he may not do it again with the next pretty girl that turns his head.

Complicated, but I think that you should try to move on and let him try to re-establish some kind of relationship with the mother of his child. At least try to do it that way and if things really don't work out you can try with him knowing that you have done you part.

I think you'll get lots of different advice on this so at the end of the day you'll need to decide for yourself.

Good luck!

Wow, why would you wanna do that to the poor girl? she's freekin pregnant and you wanna take her boyfriend of 10 years away?? ...jeez there's always gunno' be women like you to screw people's lives up, and as for him he's a real JERK for cheating on his pregnant girlfriend. He'll probably cheat on you with some other girl someday to, what goes around comes around hunny=)

sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it - if he allready moved out of the house - he could stay where he is and go and visit his child etc - he doesnt have to move back in... it just sounds fishy to me.... are you sure these two havent agreed to try and work things out for the kids sake and hes just stringing you along? It just sounds a bit suspicious to me hun... be careful
xx

In reality there is nothing you CAN do but move on. He has (for good or ill....but at HIS choice) gone back to his pregnant girlfriend. Pursue the matter and you will damage THREE lives even further. Sometimes we just have to suffer the consequences of our errors.

The big thing to do would be to walk away and let him be a father. He was no doubt happy with his girlfriend til you came along so refuse to have anything to do with him until he knows what he wants and where he wants to be.

cool-you managed to not just screw up your own lives but two other innocent people as well-I'm impressed
Ever think of anyone other than yourself?

u cant help who u fall for

i suppose u will just have to see what happends
you know- fate and all that

good luck x

does this guy love the mother of his child if not he is entering into a relationship on the strength of a child and the relationship will not last, have a serious talk with him and discuss how he feels about you

no-ones saying he shouldn't support his childs mother both emotionally and financially after all it is responsibility as a father

if your relationship seems like it will go somewhere and he wants it to continue i would advise that he tells the partner he has got pregnant the situation and that he will stand by her in respect of looking after the child and paying for things

however if this guy feels that he must keep the relationship going for a childs sake then it is his choice

thats a really awkward situation you've got caught in there

good luck