People i know u think its wrong falling in love with your cousin, but what is she thinking?

Before you say "ewww, how could you ever marry your cousin, that is incest!" or "the kids will have defects!" ....Listen to me for a second. I have a cousin, she is a girl, and we just met last week in over 10 years. (the last time we saw each other was when I was 10, and she was 6.) Ever since we met last week, we have been inseparable. We have talked on the internet 4 days/nights in a row...usually for about 8 to 10 hours. She and I both have told each other that we do not think of each other as cousins. Instead, her and I have declared to each other that we are each others best friends now. And one night when we were chatting, I said "Your dad would never let you and I be in the same room together." My cousin asked "Why not?" I said ..."because he thinks we are 'kissing cousins'." And then my cousin replied, "But we're not cousins...." And one of the nights her and I were talking, she asked me "Wow we are so much alike, are you sure you're not adopted?" ...Why did she ask that?

She jokes a lot about us getting "together" but when I asked her if she liked me, and she said No and Yes. She said "no romantically, but yes because you are my other half." I am getting mixed signals from her. Can someone please tell me what is going on in her mind? Is it possible that she is falling in love with me? I've dated a girl before for 2 and a half years, so i do know what love is. But...I am in love with my cousin. I dont care what anyone says, I am in love with her. I would do anything for her. How do I let her know how I feel about her? Does she like me too? And how long should I wait until I tell her that I love her? Seriously...no negative comments please. Dont judge me, because I cant control who I love, it just happens. Is she afraid to tell me that she likes me too? How should I bring this up when im talking to her. BTW...she couldnt get on the computer tonight, so she called me from her dads phone and we talked for 3 hours until the battery died.

How close are you related? Are you 1st or 3rd or more? If you are not related by blood I don't see a problem with it!

she is your cousin. you need to move on to another girl, your family will not accept that. It is not acceptable. And you will be opening a can of worms that you don't want to deal with in the world.MOVE ON

I DONT THINK SHES FALLING IN LOVE BUT SHE SENDING YOU MIXED SIGNALS BECAUSE SHE DOSENT WANT YOU TO ACTUALLY KNOW THE REAL ANSWER "S IN YEA SHE TOTALLY LIKES YOU" NO REally she really does like you and if she said yes she does how would you react

you need to take a step back and really think things through , you need to talk to her and tell how you feel . But she seems like she wants to be friends and not what your aiming for.

its illegal to marry someone related to you. do whatever you want though, its your life.

She's probably the only "half" of you that has a little sense. Maybe she feels the same way but knows that this is disgusting.

Dude, just forget about it, thats really disgusting and illegal so try to find someone your NOT related to?

She fancies you but thinks its wrong. I think it's wrong too. Forget about her it's disgusting and illegal.

wow... i would just try to wait it out, and talk and give her little.. tiny hints about u liking her, and maybe u and her will see u both together

I've heard stories of people marrying their cousins. I don't know, man. Sounds like she is into and you into her.

hmmmm

go ahead ak her out!
try changing clothes infront of her
see her reactions over it.

i think she feels what ur feeling and ofcoarse shes afraid to admit it she worries wht family will say... just be paient and see wht happens

hey..just ignore her..that;s not right, u know that.. btw, your question is just way tooooooooooo long i hv prob reading it. LOL!

Dude that is STILL gross! You ARE cousins! STOP trying to deny that!!

oh lord, IT IS WRONG TO SLEEP WITH FAMILY EVEN IF THEY ARE OR AREN'T BLOOD

that is so wrong y would you fall in love with your own cousion

Hello Mr. Confuse, why on earth are you trying to fall in love with your cousin. I really don't have to answer this quesiton, you already answer it in your own statement. Go get help and go to church. Leave your cousin alone. This is not real love or true love. Your just confuse. Its too many ladies in the world for you to be looking in your family. Get a life and tell your cousin she needs a life. Go to a counselor. Or better yet tell your family you want your cousin and see the results they would have for you. No cousins have any business talking a night 3 to 4 hours. You are sick.

I think she probably likes you alot, but maybe she is afraid to tell you her true feelings because you and her are cousins,
You should tell her how you feel, and ask her to share her feelings and thoughts with you, because nobody can tell you exactly what she feels unless you ask her.
good luck! ;)

you should tell her soon that u are in love with her and see how she really feels about you b/c u should start moving on now if she only likes u as a friend. maybe she does like you romantically but is scared to like u like that b/c u are her cousin and she mite be way more uncomfortable with that then she lets u think. i don't think its that weird that u are cousins, i just read an article like yesterday that said that birth defects were only like 2% more common in children of cousins...............and also my great grandparents were cousins lol, shhhhhhh don't tell anyone

you can start off by a conversation with her and then gradually get to the point that you are in love with her but dont just burst out with the fact, just start off by saying that how you feel about her. she MAY not accept it right then but she will notice that she needs you as much as you need her. try to explain to her how you feel about the whole "cousin" thing, but she says that she doesnt think of you as a cousin, right? so she should probally accept the fact that she is in love with you. hope you find my advice helpful!! =)

Sounds like she really likes you, but only she can tell you for sure. It sound like you guys are pretty close, so talk to her openly and honestly. Did you know that you can marry your counsin in most states?

Let's forget the fact that she's your cousin, cuz that's obviously not stopping anyone lol, anyhow if she's related to you from your dad's side then it's perfectly okay. Just for the records xD

ANYWAY!!!

I think she has a gigantic crush on you, and she's in denial somehow. Maybe because you two are related. She likes you but she's probably a bit afraid. Cuz what's the point of falling for someone you can't possibly have, you know? The forbidden fruit kinda thing.

Here's what IIII would do if I were in your place: TALK TO HER! Tell her how you feel about her, ask her how she feels about you. Try and work things out if you're that crazy about her. Communication never failed anyone. Instead of "wondering" how she feels. Ask her directly, and tell her. Talk to each other, apparently it's already something you two love doing lol.

Good luck boy, just talk to her, that's all it takes. <3


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I was just going through the answers and I saw so many "ewws" even though you requested politely not to get them. Ignore those people, don't listen to them, you know what's right and what's best for you. Don't let anyone put you down or discourage you. Just do whatever feels right for you okay? Just talk to her and see how she really feels about you. Ask her for a direct response, no playing around, just how she really feels about you without jokes. No "romantically" and no "yes and no".. How she really feels about you and the relationship you two have. Get a direct response from HER, not anyone else. It'll help you put things in their perspective.

Again.. Good luck and talk to her <333

This is a little too deep for me. If feel sorry for you and I'm concerned that you don't even understand where this can go. First of all she is 16 years old and you are 21 or almost there. You can get yourself in alot of trouble because she is not old enough to be ready to except this type of ridicule that would come with a relationship like this. This is not uncommon because you have not seen her in 10 years you're having a hard time seeing that she is your cousin. But, she is and you are going at this the wrong way. You are going to have things in common because you are family you have the same blood. It's just not worth it. If you care for her you will back off and let this little girl have a normal life. Really she does not understand how leading you on in this way can effect you. Does she like you? It should not matter this will hurt her more then anything.. It's just been a couple weeks back off now before your feelings become to involved

she likes you as a friend, like her companion. she doesn't like you romantically though. it's kinda like me and my cousin, we're like best friends so it doesn't really seem like we're cousins. that's what she probably meant.

i sorry how ya fell but can i just tell you something ewwwww that's weird even if u aren't blood but i think she likes you don't worry everything going to be find she seems the same way u feel lost she seem nice the way you put it and yall talk every minute of the day she seems like the other half of you thats all i have to say :))

First I want you to clear your mind of all the garbage & hang ups that have been drilled into your head by our twisted, asss backwards culture.

Ok...now that you've done that, ask yourself what YOU want.

If you and your cousin want to share something more than a casual relationship - go for it.

In the first place, it's really nobodys business to tell you otherwise. You'll always get those who will look down on your decisions & assume they know better - F--k them.

You have to live for yourself. Don't make someone elses hang-ups become your loss. You should never compromise your feelings & needs just to make others more comfortable.

Follow your heart & do what pleases YOU.

"For the non-conformist, the world whips you with it's displeasure."

She likes you a lot as a best friend , but not romantically ( she is not attracted to you and doesn't see you as a boyfriend only a friend).She probably said your her other half because she feels you have connected and have a lot in common.Also when she said are you sure your not adopted she was probably joking but it means she shes you more like a brother.
Sorry to say if i was you i wouldn't get your hopes up because i don't think you will end up in a relationship.

She likes you!!!! but maybe being related is the reason why shes not being honest ...if I spent that much time on a guy as I have before it was because I was in love with them or had a crush ...because no one risks stayin when u should be sleeping or going out and doing excititng things to stay home only if theres something or someone more interesting that u can be with from home...so I would say from how I act when i like a guy that she likes you......but be careful dude she might not be able to get past the relative thing......even tho to me it doesnt seem like ur even family, cousin are suppose to be close since childhood but if u are 1st cousins than I dont believe in pursuing it ...but good luck

First of all, your ages: So she is 16 or 17, you are 20 or 21.
She is not thinking rationally, she is all caught up in you. You haven't seen each other for 10 years, now you are "best friends"? You are best to stay away from her, because not only is she your cousin, she is under age.

In the old days, before the internet and cell phones, you might not see your cousin again for another 10 years. In some ways that was better.

My best advice is to forget her and get on with your life. If you become serious about her, and when she is of marrying age, check the laws in your state. Different states permit different levels of consanguinity. If you are second cousins (common grandparent) that will prevent you from marrying in most states. If you are more distant, your chances are better.

I wanted to be the firt to answer so i just put this. but hold on while i read what you had to say and i'll answer you :]

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Yea, dude that is pretty gross and i know you can't help who you love and who you're in love with, but it's your cousin. Regardless of whether you two just met and started talking, it's wrong, and I just couldn't ever see myself with one of my cousin. Anyways, just really think about that stuff, and about what your family will say, because that WILL be an issue if you two form a romantic relationship.

i think she really likes you but doesn't want to admit it to herself even because of the whole cousin thing and the problems it could cause in the family and stuff..