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She spends all of her time with her boyfriend, what do I do?


Three years ago, we met som,e cool people who go to a different school. We鈥檝e gotten closer and closer to them, and they are our best friends, but its always been hard only being able to see tehm on the weekend. Lat summer, my best friend hooked up with one of them. Their relationship has been going really well, but the last 6 months, she鈥檚 always spendind her time with him. I never see her during the week (I have way too much work and we don鈥檛 have classes together), but she insists that she need to spend so much time with him because he goes to a different school. But she talks on the phone with him every night, she spends more time with him than with me.
They started dry humping in front of us while we were watching a movie, and I found out that like a month later, he fingered her and she gave him a hand job. Now , she can make tons of time during the weekend for her, but none for me. Because I have a lot of high level courses at school, I have way more homework than she does. She talks to him every night, and I found out that they have phone sex, too. I only get to hang out on the weekend. I have less contact with her than her bf鈥?but whenever I say 鈥淲e never do anything together鈥? she says 鈥淲ell, he goes to a different school, so I never see him!鈥? I never see her during the week, either! We don鈥檛 even see each other at school.
Yesterday, I went to the park with everyone, and my friend couldn鈥檛 make it. I had a chance to finally hang out with her bf alone鈥?and he acts totally different. He is FUN鈥?not just quiet and always wanting to kiss her. It is like before, when he was my friend, not just Emily鈥檚 boyfriend. It was cool to be able to hang out with him, nad I鈥檝e gotten used to being ignored by tehm, but now that I remember what it is like to actually have fun, I鈥檓 realizing how unfair it is.
Then tonight, we were watching a movie @ someone鈥檚 house, and they were spooning. I was like, 鈥渁www! Cute!鈥? Then I realized that his hands were on her boobs, his hands were in her crotch, and she put her hand behind her back and shoved them down his pants! Not only is she doing **** like that, but she鈥檚 doing it rite in front of us when we鈥檙e all supposed to be hanging out. Then, when we were alone, I mentioned it to her, and she just said 鈥渋ts none of your business鈥? Well, if she鈥檚 gonna be a wh0re like that and give him a handjob in front of me- it becomes my business. I think that鈥檚 low and disgusting. OK, so she wants to do it. Big deal. Do it on her own time, rite? Not when we鈥檙e all supposed to be hanging out. And when you go somewhere with a group, but you only hang out w/ ur bf- then it鈥檚 my business.
We were all hanging out, and she told us to leave the room for one minute just so they could make out,. They locked the door and everything. When they finally unlocked it, she was pulling her shirt down.
I鈥檓 sick of this!!! I want my friend back鈥攏ot some skank-whOre.
WHAT DO I DO?!?

It is your business if they are behaving like that right in front of you.They have no respect for themselves or for you.
Unfortunately, all you can do is get up and leave when they start in, or stand up and tell them how you feel.

I wish I had something to tell you that would change your friend back into he person you like, but I don't. She is going to have to do that herself, and to be frank- she may not. This may be the way she always behaves with boyfriends. Hopefully she will mature a bit and stop thinking she has a right to make everyone around her uncomfortable.

I can see why he likes her though... He's a teenage boy and found a girl that will do anything, anytime, anywhere. Until SHE figures that out though, there is nothing you can do.

May be time to find a new best friend. Sorry.
Also- If you are judging her, you better judge him too! She is not alone in this behavior, he is taking an active role.

Good Luck.

Since you've already tried discussing it with her, I think you should now talk to your other friends, not in a backstabbing gossipy manner, just out of concern. If it bothers you, I'm sure it bothers other people too. You and one or two of your friends should talk to her together, and just remember, don't attack her, it will only make her incredibly defensive. You can't stop her from being skanky in private, but you can tell her that she should not be doing that in public. They should definately not be engaging in sexual acts while there are other people present. I imagine it makes things really awkward and it's inconsiderate of everyone else.

WOW! She and her bf, should keep their hands off each other in front of you and everyone else. I am sorry that you don't spend as much time with her as you used to, but gee whiz, do you really want to now ? They had no right to do what they did while watching a movie at someone elses house and how dare they ask everyone to leave the room. And how silly that you all did. You all should have told them to leave. Just wait and see what happens with her and him. You keep up with your school and you future. When the day comes that she calls you crying that either she's pregnant or they broke up, remind her how she dissed you and emarassed you with her open sexual activities, as though they were performing for a porno movie. By then, you will be well on your way to a good future, and more than likely, alot more mature than she is. Your friend as you once knew her is no more. She has been bitten by the sex bug and that is what is most important to her now. You were right by talking to her about the event, and since it got shoved in your face, it was your business to say something. If she doesn't want anyone to say anything, she should do it in privacy. Let her go, don't let her bring you down or screw up your life.

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