May i go to bed?

my daughter (20) was in a car accident tonight with her friend. she was able to drive herself to her friend's house. they're unhurt. she called me, quite shaken. i wanted to come and get her, but she said her friend would bring her home. i've never met this friend. she works with her. i said okay and was waiting up. her friend's mom wanted to have the friend checked out at the e.r. (the mom is a nurse). my daughter said she will accompany them and will be home late. okay.

i usually have delayed reaction to these types of scenarios. i got up from bed and to the computer just to wait up for her. the e.r. is busy and she said she will get checked out too. i'm exhausted. i want to go to bed. it will be a few more hours.

ethically, how could i go to bed when my daughter has been in an accident and is in a hospital waiting room. but logically, i know she's okay, and she's calmed down considerably (was even joking about it). would it be wrong not to wait up for her?

i feel bad for even having to ask this question. i feel like a bad mom. in another case i'd like to think i'd fly down to be with her. but i know she's okay, physically.

Yes, go to bed. You won't be able to make any kind of rational decisions if you are exhausted, anyway.

I'm a combat vet and one of our biggest rules was to sleep when you can and be ready to react when necessary.

I'm also a nurse. The LAST thing we need is another person taking up space while we are busy trying to figure out what is wrong. If they made it to the house, then they are obviously not in very serious shape.

Yes,Mam u must accomany with ur daughter and her friend. It is not a question that she informed u that she is O.K. and her friend's mother who is Nurse is being with them.Being Mom, u must go and see there.

You are such a good mum. If I have a mum like you, I would love you so much. I do never have such a good mum like you in my life. I proud of you. Please go to bed and have a nice sleep.

She says she is ok. It sounds like you are a good ways from where she is at. I think it would be ok to wait for her response. ER's take the most critical cases first. If she is having to wait this long, her condition is not considered bad by the triage nurses. I don't think you are being an aweful mother...I think you are being a caring mom. How about lying down beside the phone. That way you can hear it when it rings. You could also set your alarm for a couple of hours so that you can get a little rest. Although, I bet you wouldn't sleep too well because it sounds like you are already worried. I will pray for you and your daughter and her friend. You can do the same thing. Lets thank God that she was ok and thank Him for seeing her through this. May He be there to give her comfort and heal her body. May His presence be felt at your side...easing your worry and tension. May His love fill your bodies replacing any other feelings. We thank you Lord...in Jesus' name...Amen