My stepfather acts like a teenage girl. WHAT DO I DO?

My stepfather is the worst person I have ever met. And I know no one likes their stepparents at first, but he's far from being likeable and I need to know how to deal with him. I won't list everything he does (I doubt I would have enough room), but he's exactly like those girls in the movies that pretend to be nice to your face and then just malign you as much as they can. If it were constructive criticism, I could understand, but his goal is to make everyone else look like monsters so that they wont realize how awful he is. I'll give a little bit of an example; if I make dinner or clean the house, he'll tell my mother that I'm retarded for using too many dishtowels or whatever. And his idea of being nice is giving you a "comforting" slap on the butt or telling you how nicely you're "developing", if you get what I'm saying. I don't know what to do!! I know it could be worse and I should stop complaining, but does anyone else have to deal with this? How do you handle it? Sorry, Thanks.

Don't child helplines have more important cases to work on?
And yeah, my mom knows about some of it, and she has always said that that's just the way men are. Or she just get's mad and talks about society. She has never said a word to him. She's had bad relationships with men before and I don't know if she knows that she can do better. And if she is ok with the situation, then I just want her to be happy. She has been through A LOT and I don't want to make things harder on her.

Some people cannot say anything without being critical. Often it is because they are embarrassed about their own weaknesses. It's something you will just have to live with.

Are you retarded? I know you are not because of the way you wrote your question. It was very well written for your age. You know you are smart, try to ignore his nasty comments. I know it is hard to not yell back, but that would make it much worse. Perhaps he is jealous because you are becoming smarter than he is?

As for the butt slap and the comments...that is bordering on sexual harassment. If it goes any further, discuss it with your mother. If she won't do anything, discuss it with a trusted adult.

NOTE: make sure the adult can be trusted, many can not be. Perhaps someone at your local Planned Parenthood or Women's Center, or even Rape Crisis Center. You need someone who knows what this can lead to and will not simply go to your parents and rat on you for telling.

It isn't exactly the same situation, but you might get some help from an answer that I wrote a few minutes ago. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...

By the way, my father had a nickname for my brother when we were growing up. It was "damn dummy." My brother got straight A grades in school so that says a lot about our father.

Emily
your stepfather shouldnt be telling you how nice your developing and he certainly shoudlnt be slapping your butt. if you have not told your mother please do because I know if it were me it would make me uncomfortable. please tell your mama she would like to know im sure.He should not be calling you names either.talk to your mom and if she does not talk to him talk to some other adult you are close to ok.

get help from a child helpline in your area,discuss it with someone u trust before u go ahead ,tell ur mom too.did u try that?

People who put down others do it because they lack self confidence. Just like in school, the kids who tease others do so to make someone else look bad so no one will notice them and tease them. An adult male who is insulting his step daughter then commenting on her body is immature and inconsiderate, or clueless about how a real man behaves. Since he is your mother's husband, you'll need to be respectful toward him. Try to do as you're asked when it comes to helping around the house, don't smart mouth him and don't get in a situation where you are alone with him if at all possible.