Should i believe him ??

My boyfriend loves porn . Theres nothing wrong with porn.. only when you start to care about it more then your girlfriend. I was being a bit of a b*tch a while ago and i told him that i didnt want him to look at it * i know mean * When we first meet he was telling everyone that he was single .. even when i was pregnant and he has admitted to having a problem with always wanting attention from other woman .

So for the past few nights i had told him that he can go on chat sites and porn sites. As long as i was in the room and i was apart of it . Anyways i feel asleep and i woke up to him looking at these 3 girls .. back and forth .. He had a HUGE b*ner . and was asking them to see there faces. Should i put my foot down and just get ride of the computer?? or did i set myself up for failure??

** please dont be rude , i am looking for real answers **

tks!

I think porn is okay to look at...
But if he's chatting with other girls on webcam , that kind of thing...??
That is NOT right. That's real, and not right. That could be one of your friends on there! lOl. but honestly.
Tell him you want him to stop NOW, that just watching porn is okay, but not watching real girls on webcam and talking to them.
I'd be so f***n pissed off if I were you!
That's not appropriate for your bf to do.
Tell him if he doesn't quit your out!!

No you are not setting yourself up for failure if you just get rid of your boyfriend. I do not mean to be rude since I do not know your situation. It sounds like your boyfriend is a wannabe player with a porn addiction. I think you deserve better. Maybe stay single for awhile and focus on raising your baby because you do not need someone like him to be by your side.

I'd have a big problem with it. I'm not against porn where the people are actually getting paid to do it, but where its on a web cam and there interacting that's when id put my foot down.
Its respect plain and simple, if he was single go for it but he's not and needs a good smack up the butt so he remembers.

I think you should tell him to stop. Why would he get turned on by somebody else? NOT COOL. I think you need to let him know that Porn is fake and you are the real thing. You kinda of did set yourself up but hey u can always say " you know what I'm not liking the fact that you pay attention more to porn than to me" Then see what he has to say about it.

And you are not bein a B for not letting him watch it. I don't let my bf watch it at all. =]

ok guys will always enjoy it. But yes you must put your foot down. He's got to learn that he has a wife, let him know it bugs you and you dont accept it. Dont be a part of it.

Thats like agreeing and going along with him and just encouraging him to do it more.

I think that hes going to do what he want to do and u can either be a part of it or have him go behind your back and do it !!!

my bf loves porn 2...i personally have a problem w that...u shouldnt have eyes 4 ne1 else other than ur partner...i feel if u need 2 c other woman/men naked other than ur bf/gf then theres something wrong...the only 1 who should b giving him a b*ner is u

It's not you, it's him. He has a problem, definitely, and probably an addiction. I recommend he (and maybe you w/ him as well) should see a counselor.

Good Luck!

yea I do think you should put your food down he should be honest and support you not go out looking for attention from other girls good luck

You should first put your foot down; if he doesn't stop leave him. That behavior isn't the kind of behavior a committed man would have.

I would just talk to him and tell him ur not comfortable with it and if he don't like it well then get rid of the computer

GET RID OF THE COMPUTER!!!! :). Talk to him about it and tell him the computer broke. :) YELL AT HIM!!!!

i deal with the same addiction but i just got rid of my computer
im on my friends right now

honey, wow. you don deserve this bull. wonder how youve taken it? jesus...i say leave his ***.

Personally I think you are setting yourself up for failure. I understand your goal which is to save your relationship and make your boyfriend happy, etc., but unless he takes some ownership in the relationship and decides that he wants to participate too, neither of you will be happy.

You shouldn't have to police his every move because it becomes too stressful on you and it makes him feel like you are controlling. I know it is a hugggggge stretch for guys to talk about their feelings, but if the two of you could sit down and figure out where your(relationship) shortcomings are and try working on those things maybe things will get better.

Ask him what makes him want to turn to porn and please don't assume that it has anything to do with you because I am 99% sure that it doesn't. If he can put this thing aside and concentrate on your relationship and your child, then there is hope. If not, maybe he can get counseling. Good luck to you.