10 POINTS!! I need a MATURE answer!!!?

Im 20. I met a girl a few weeks ago. We have hung out every day for hours a day and have been eating dinner in our college commons area every day. She comes over until very late at night and texted me literally all day non-stop. She told my friend when we first started hanging out that she was still "sort of" seeing someone else that she went to high school with that is studying abroad for another two and a half weeks. She has pictures of the two of them all over her room and facebook and has a message in her AIM profile that said "have fun while were apart but don't give your heart to anyone." Were starting to get more touchy with cuddling and Im worried that she is just using me to "fill a gap" because she is lonely until he comes back. I also don't want to be a part of any cheating or anything that could be happening. What do I do in this situation?

It may be hard to do this, but get as far away from her as possible. You aren't being fair to yourself. She was (sort of) upfront about being being in a relationship from the beginning. Even if she has changed her mind about that other guy, what is going to happen if the two of you start seriously dating? What will happen if you leave town for a little while? Can you live with the fact that every time she is away she may be with that other guy she dumped for you?
My experience has proved to me that you can't trust a cheater. Just because you might not have slept with her, Yet! That doesn't mean she isn't cheating on her boyfriend with you right now. If you were a friend of mine, I would say you were in for a heartache if you pursue this relationship any further. Get out while you can, and quit wasting your time on this one. Your Rapunzel is out there!

just tell her how you feel about her hanging out with this other guy
it sounds like she's really into you ,so ask her if she is, just tell her that you are looking for something that will last and that you dont want to get close to her and then her dump you for some other guy,girls love it when you are honest to them so you need to be honest with this girl and tell her that you are atiny bit bothered by the fact that she is still with this guy while she is also with you
the best thing to do is tell her how you feel girls love that!!!!

Apparently she still has a connection with this person she met before you. I would ask her what she really wants out of the relationship you have with her and if she sees it going anywhere or whether or not it is serious. You don't want to get mixed up in that situation. I'm sure she likes you, but it seems that her heart belongs to someone else...she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Sometimes honesty works best.

Good luck

well first of all, you should probably approach her about it. if it makes you uncomfortable, it is good to get it out in the open. the key to a good relationship is an honest one. she is not telling you somethng, and you need to know it. let her know that it bothers you and give her time to explain. be calm and voice your concerns, but don't jump down her throat.

Take her for a coffee and get into casual conversation, then bring up the fact. Unfortunatley, i dont know who she is or what her personality is like so she may get mad and storm out or totally open up to you. One things for sure, you will never know if you dont ask!

you obviously need to talk to her thats really important because of the fact that she needs get how you feel. if your into that random hookup thing ask her about make up a story about a girl see how she reacts then you'll now its the worst my possible but its a way

wat r u gay.i would take her to her room bend her over the bed as she is looking at man pics and give it to her like she never had it.then she will forget about that dude because you had balls to give it to her like a true man would

Leave gap to her communication and check her reaction..........

I think you should ask her.

i think you should ask her. i mean, just politely ask her about it. tell her exactly how you feel.

TALK TO HER!!!! It's the only way to sort out your worries and to make her relize what she's doing.

don't play dumb, you know what to do!

Confront her. let here know what ur thinkin'

this girl sounds like there is some interest involved. but if i were you i wouldn't get too close. if she is still "sort of" seeing someone that means she can have her cake and eat it too. shes waiting for this guy and yes it seems like shes using you to fill a void. but the problem with that is she might develop real feelings for you if this guy stays away too long and when he comes around shes going to have to decide. so my advice is to just stay friends. try not to let yourself get too interested in her. maybe try start talking to another girl. honestly, maybe sometime you guys could be something but if the other guy is still in the picture try not to be in it with them.

You seem very to be a very thoughtful guy, and that's good. You have an opportunity to be a good, strong man of integrity in the situation, and it seems that that's your desire. Kudos.

As difficult as it may be, I think you need to express everything you just expressed to us here on the forum directly to her, too. You can do it in person or via a hand-written letter (emails are a little to superficial and shallow). Tell her that you care about her and appreciate her, but that you really want to do what is BEST for her. Let her begin to realize that you really mean this, and help her figure out a solution (it may be that SHE is very confused to). Helping her find a solution, maintaining your own integrity (rather than just "using" her), and really looking out for her best interests will ultimately get you what you want in a woman, and ultimately send (or draw) her the right direction.

Sounds like you've already done the hard part of identifying the issue - now ya just gotta man-up and see it through.

A final thought:

A woman doesn't want a man that needs her and grasps for her out of his own need.... A woman wants a strong man, able to stand on his own and be content, and yet decides to *choose* her, among all the other women in the crowd, out of his strength.

Best of luck to you.

well, sounds like you are being used to fill a gap, especially if she still has pics of the guy up all over the place. But from a different point of view, isn't that where you wanna be in college? Filling the gap means, no commitment, no having to buy gifts, ect. She needs you for something, and it's up to you if you want to give it to her or not.

Personally, "give her what she wants". Something to fill her "gap"( not literal). but you got to play the part, and do it right. Right to the point were she starts calling you baby. she'll forget about her other guy and be eating out the palm of your hand. Then do with her what you will... keep her or ditch her, it's up to you.