10 POINTS!! I need a MATURE answer PLEASE!!?

Im 20. I met a girl a few weeks ago. We have hung out every day for hours a day and have been eating dinner in our college commons area every day. She comes over until very late at night and texted me literally all day non-stop. She told my friend when we first started hanging out that she was still "sort of" seeing someone else that she went to high school with that is studying abroad for another two and a half weeks. She has pictures of the two of them all over her room and facebook and has a message in her AIM profile that said "have fun while were apart but don't give your heart to anyone." Were starting to get more touchy with cuddling and Im worried that she is just using me to "fill a gap" because she is lonely until he comes back. I also don't want to be a part of any cheating or anything that could be happening. What do I do in this situation?

I agree you need to just be up front and ask her what is going on.. what her feelings are for this other person and for you... Is she just playing you as you said till he gets back... You sure dont want to go on with this if she is and you didnt ask as think how much you could be hurt. You sound like a very sincere guy with your head on right and you know what you want and that you do think things out clearly.. Good for you .. just find this out and if that is what she is doing... just passing the time away till he gets back.. then you need to move on.. you are to good for that kind of childish games.. that women that does end up with you will be a very special and luckly lady.. I hope you go far in your life

It sounds to me, that although she was seeing someone before she left, her heart is sort of leaning toward you. I suggest that you should talk to her about it. Understandably, she might become defensive about it. And if she does, chances are she is torn about how to feel about the situation. If talking doesn't help, or you're not sure if you are comfortable talking about that, maybe in a few weeks when he returns she will be able to sort everything out on her own.

Well, if you want to be mature about the situation, just ask her about it, and tell her you want the truth. Just say you want to know what's going on with her and this guy. If you still don't know what to do when your finished asking her, just leave me a message and I'll do my best to answer your questions. I hope you and her can work this out, because it sounds like you really love her. Best of luck =)

I would confront her. She is obviously not keeping her relationship with the other person a secret, so asking her wouldnt be crossing the line, especially since you two have been hanging out quite a bit. Its not fair to you or the other person if she is just "filling a gap" so, the only way to get down to the bottom of it is to ask. You may not hear what you want to, but in the long run you know you wont be wasting your time, or being used. :) good luck.

I would not waste your college years on being so serious. Trust me, this is the absolute best time in your life to play the field. It sounds to me like this girl is using you to fill a gap. I advise you to fill that gap, and fill it repeatedly until her boyfriend comes home. Then move along.
You'll regret it in 5 years if you don't hit it. Yes, I am being a total arrogant chauvenistic douche, but that is really one of the most liberating and experimental times in your life. DON'T WASTE IT!

Well, do you want a serious relationship with her? If you do, you need to let her know that you don't want to be the until he get back-guy.

Judging by what you said, she is majorly in love with the other guy. But may be feeling lonely without him and she may think that since you know about him you are cool with just hooking up. Or, she my just be the flirty type.

In this case, you make it seem like she'll be affectionate. You must be the voice of reason my friend! I know it's giving into what you want because you are interested in this girl, but if she's sort of seeing someone than yes it's cheating and you don't want to be a home wrecker. As much as it'll hurt, she'll appreciate you putting your foot down. Your being serious about not being affectionate might have her feelings toward you strengthen.

Hope this helps!

She definitely might just be looking for someone to fill a void while she is away from that other guy, the only real way of knowing is asking her.
I have done this before when i was 18 my boyfriend went away for school i only seen him on holidays so i had "a friend" that i would hang around with when my bf wasn't around..
best bet is to just ask her.

if i were u i would tell her what u know. tell her that u herd that she was kinda seeing someone from high school. no offense but be a man and tell her how u feel tell her that u don't want to be involved in any cheating situations and that u don't want to be the fill in guy. i think if u be completely upfront with her she will respect u for that and she will tell u how she feel about your relationship and about the other guy she is kinda seeing

You've answered you own question; you wrote:

"Im worried that she is just using me to "fill a gap" because she is lonely until he comes back. I also don't want to be a part of any cheating or anything that could be happening."

Of course that's what she's doing; she's not trying to hide her intentions either. So unless you don't mind being her part time lover...... you have a choice to make good buddie.

Peace...
Blakely

not exactly sure bout your situation dude but maybe she's just comfortable being around you and the "cuddling" is just nothing more than brotherly love...some guys tend to be assuming and interprets some actions differently when they feel like they're being intimate with women...question is, do you actually have feelings for her? if no then just let things be the way they are...but if yes, then you'd better be honest to her before you get in the way with certain things...good luck buddy!

Well honestly she has been given "permission" to cheat so it is not cheating. they most likely have an open relationship.Go ahead and have fun with her.... be safe of course. Do not fall in love, her intentions are just for fun.
If you are not into any of the game play, quit the touchy touchy and tell her you just want friendship.

go with your gut instinct first and always trust it! this girl is involved and u knew from the start now time is running out so all you have is another man's problem and you are setting yourself up to be mr rebound. ride out the 2 weeks see what develops but dont go to the next stage of your relationship. you already know deep inside you cant trust her.

she is using you to fill her gap of loneliness (from my point of view)... if you truly care about her, you should continue to be there for her.. as a friend or a lover.. whatever you decide, but you shouldnt give your whole heart to her if you can trust her (ie looking at facebook and aim profiles...) do whatever, i wish you luck

Well, to me it sounds like she put their "relationship on hold". She is using you, but you could get hurt. Spending so much time with her and you will fall in love with her and then when she leaves to go back to him, it will hurt you. But to be sure you may need to confront her.

Hey, don't fall for this gal. Take whatever comes your way though, if she wants it, give it to her.....Let her decide for herself in the future. Come on..we only live once..enjoy your time together....if the other guy return, its up to her to make the decision.....make her have a hard time to decide...LOL....you just sit back and relax....It works...

dont get mad but I want to say your wrong as well. You know she has a bf but havent found ways to avoid her specially for the fact that you havent talked to her about it. what happens if you accidentaly kiss her? how would you feel if you had a gf and she was doing that if it was your situation. not cool man

u should tell her exactly what u just told us. i believe u could be right about her using u to fill a gap. in which case, u should cut ur losses now. but remain her friends, dont burn the bridge. cuz if u really like her, her and the guy could really break up, then its all u, if u want her.

i say just enjoy and have fun you never know it may turn into something more but if you back of she may think your not interested. some high school stay friends for ever and don't hook up..so i say go for it and see where it goes if it don't work out youv lost nothing then can move on..good luck

If her heart is with the other guy she will leave you once the boyfriend comes home .
She should not have gotten involved if she was not mature enough to wait .
Move on with your life because it's going to be a lot of frustration for you .

that would be the best thing to do! just ask or do something with her that would be special for the both of you and see how it go's!! take a chance!! if it don't work, there are other fish in the sea man dont fall for someone if you don't think they will fall for you!!!!!

You should just talk to her about it. You be MATURE and talk about it. Then you will know how to react. If she says her heart is spoken for then leave her alone. As long as you know from jump start then you can keep your feelings in check. Good luck

Tell her how you feel.... tell her your concerns... tell her what you know about this other guy and ask her to explain her current situation. Explain to her that you don't want to get in too deep if she is not sure about what she wants right now...

Be very honest!!! Good luck!

Just talk to her about it. If she really wants you, and if you ask her to, she'll break it off with this other ****** and you'll betogether, otherwise, as far as your concerened, she's spoken for, move on.

ask her...and why should you really care? do you really plan on staying with her? No chance you are filling a gap and its sex for you....what is your problem buddy? or are the feelings getting in the way? If so then your not ready for the REAL secret....maybe when your 21 or so....

ask her (in a nice way) if that guy is her boyfriend, if shes interested in you etc... if he is her boyfriend, don't do anything you wouldn't do with one of your guy friends.

You are just filling a gap...and it doesn't sound like she is trying to hide that fact....so you are going to have to decide if being friends and an occasional fling with her is acceptable to you

Tell her that your confused about the relationship and about her high school relationship,

U should let her know how u fell about the situation. i believe that she's using u so that she wouldnt feel lonely for the time being. DONT let her play u like that.

Take the easy pickings for the next 2 1/2 weeks.

Tell her to break it off with the other guy for good or you are not interested.