I have been seeing this man for about 9 months now, He ha told me from the first time that I have met him tha

he is still living in the same house with his wife, but in the loft. Does not have sex with her The children are in the house with them they are 13 and 11. Likes me but not in love with me,has sex with me. I am confused what is he doing? I am begining to fall in love with this man. Treats me like a queen when we are together. He has everything I want in a man. Tell me his wife sees who she wants to see and he sees who he wants to see. What he is telling me can this be true or is he full of it. I know this does happen with some married couples. He does not want to get legually seperated because he does not want the children to feel that the family is not together. He is an Italian man right from Italy if this helps you. He has already told me his son is upset with him because of the situation that is going on. The son notices that he does not sleep in the same room as his wife. Tell me what should I do. He stresses that he wants to always be friends and to continue to see m

I can only say, were it me, I would not see him anymore.

It is easy to put the wife and kids out of your mind when you do not know them yourself. But inside their home, they are a family, and he is pretending to you they aren't. They are married, they have children. No matter what his reasonings, you are hurting them as much as yourself by not aiming higher.

LIER!!! i hear these stories all the time. Of course he sleeps with his wife, he just wants a mistress so get OUT NOW!!! dnt let it get any further because u r gonna end up gettn hurt. alot of guys treat women like queen when they first meet them but as soon as u get more involved all dats gonna change 4 the worst...Be with a man dats free of all those restrictions dnt let him hav a hold on u...get out there and enjoy urself hun.

The nationality does not matter. He may be telling you that he is not satisfied in his marriage. He is only using you for sex since his wife does not give him any. You should find someone who is not married. They only say that they will leave their wife but they never do.

My br in law one of his family members has done the same thing, but they are divorced. But they do have a daughter but for her sake they are living together as roommates,and that is all. They are doing it for their daughter sake.

plain and simple, he's using you.

sounds complicated. i think parents are sometimes so blind-sided by what the children want, that they put themselves into situations that are detrimental. When the parents aren't happy, when there's tension in the house, the children pick up on it. THough it seems difficult, it would be better for them to be seperated if they are no longer involved/dislike company. It is his decision, what he does with his wife regarding living situation, and what he puts his children through and the likes. For me, I would feel unease at this situation. What are you expecting of him? Do you want him to date you? If he wants to date people, I would think he would be motivated to leave his situation and get out on his own and start a new life. The fact that he's still living there would be a red flag for me.

good luck.

First of all how old are you?

Second- He is using you. These aren't even original lines. Does he take you out and show you off? Or do you have to be "careful"?

He is married, that makes him out of bounds REGARDLESS of what stories or excuses he comes up with, He is having his cake and eating it too.

You already know he is too old for you. You already know the right thing to do, but I am more than happy to give you the push you need.

Break it off now. Trust me- I had the same thing happen when I was young.

Good luck to you.

Oh, goodness - you've fallen in that trap. He is a married man, (whether he sleeps with his wife or not) and he has two children. He wants to continue seeing you so he can continue the sex with you. Please get out of this relationship - you are setting yourself up to be hurt - He is not planning to divorce his wife because he may not even be having problems with his wife. If he really loved you, he would want to make a committment with you and get out of that house.