Met him in a yahoo chat room 3 yrs ago?

Ok I will get down to the point. I met him 3 yrs ago in a chat room, when I met him he had no job, he said he was looking and was having bad luck, he told me he had to move in with his parents, 1 yr passed, no job, living with parents, he is 34, and has no car and no money, Im in california and he is Maryland. 2yrs pass I buy a plane ticket and he says he will have a job by then, time comes he still has no job so I loose the money and ticket. 3yrs now, still no job, no money, still at parents home, I am a single mom making on my own, I tried to break it off, I told him I cannot be with him since he has no ambition etc.. he wont leave me alone, he is making me promises that this Sept he will come out to California. I need help here, I care about him but this is way to much. I will show your answers to him so that he can leave me alone!! Please answer answer.. I need an input!! thank you

You need to leave this zero.

Tell him to get his a$$ together and stop being a momma's boy.
He needs to let you go and sounds like he's holding you back. Not like you are having a good time too I'm sure it's hard to be a single mother and don't want to deal with this crap either.

You need to seriously lose this guy and move on. it's good that you want to help, but you don't need to be with him to help......you don't need this stress.

Find someone better that can at least support himself financially.

sweetie he has nothing for you, nor will he ever have. he lives with his parents. he wants to use you like he is using them. change your phone number, change your email addy, move if you have to. do not let this guy ever visit you, see you, or have anything to do with you. he is a loser. you deserve far, far better.

Well...it shouldn't be to hard to get rid of a broke, lazy, stalker who lives on the opposite side of the country. Change your number, and your e-mail address. He has BS-ed about everything else, he is BS-ing about coming to see you in the summer.

He sounds like if it took too much effort to reach you, then he wouldn't bother. But definitely get rid of this loser.

looks like he is going to be with his parents for a while..you need to be like.. i will give you this long...to change your act. get things together. and if you dont fix things, then we wont work out. but until then..we cant be together.. and if he doesnt try for you. well then he isnt worth it.