I need some Ex husband and wife opinions?

My ex told me he was recently reunited with a girl that he has not seen in 12 years. He was reunited with her over the phone. He has not SEEN her in 12 years. She has 2 kids, has not met them. She has not met my daughter! He is moving the girl into his home and taking away my daughters room and giving it to the other little girl. I feel this is a bad idea for my 5 year old mentally, What do you think?

Well - my EX husband did the EXACT same thing - met up with some girl - and moved her the kids in with him - and took over my daughers room. the girl got my daughters TV and everything she got for christmas... .. My daughter felt TERRIBLE -- but - its been about 3 years or so - and you know what - she's okay. I just told her - well this is your home - this is where you keep everything - there is where you live - and that is where you "stay". So --- she has a room at your house - so - is it bothersome - yes, I can understand that - I was not happy - but, we dealt with it. Plus...my ex said shes just staying until she can get a place - its been 3 years and they are married now.
he should have just been truthful from the beginning - he made his own bed with my kids - and they think of him as a liar now - but, oh well - all I worry about is my relationship with my kids - So - when he started calling me and asking if I could talk to the kids - and make them like his wife - I just said "whatever"... thats not my job!!

Just some advice: don't sit and talk bad about her father to her. but ... if you choose to not say anything "good" thats okay too - just don't say anything at all. my daughter started telling him she didn't want to go there(Her choice of course) - so, I just let her say whatever she wanted when he called - she was 9 at the time - so, I had nothing to do with the phone conversation - I told her that if she doesn't want to go there - SHE has to tell him - I will not do that for her!

You should definitely talk to him about his decision to take away your 5 year olds room at his house. The fact of a child's parent's divorcing is already taking a toll mentally on a child, now especially if the father is taking away a room for her at his house for the "new family" to move in, she may take it the wrong way.

Maybe you should advise your ex to talk to your daughter, and talk to the new girlfriend about the living arrangements they are trying to set up to see if there is a way that they can make your daughter feel more welcome in the home.

Obviously your ex is very lonely and needy. He has lost his sence of priorities, his daughter should come first, the girls should meet, and share a room. Even though we all have opinions about what should be, he will do what he wants. Unfortunately, that is how it is and you can do nothing about it. One thing that helped when my children were younger, I always told them " Daddy loves you very much, he just does not know how to show you." It did not excuse his behavior, and most important, they did not see me throwing stones. It is very difficult, good luck.