Do I break off my engagement or do I let my heart break instead?

I met a man that makes my heart sing. He makes me feel like I am the only person in the room. Even his negative qualities are not negative to me. He has everything I have ever wanted in a man. He is my ideal and Im falling for him hard.

So here is where fate plays twisted games. I am getting married to another man in 22 days. Please don't get me wrong, I love my fiances however I am not in love with him.
He is a wonderful person but things started off on the wrong foot and I guess I felt like this is as good as it would get for me. I didn't expect to meet someone so perfect, I didn't expect that he would return my feelings and now I am lost.

I dont want to call off the wedding, I dont want to break his heart, so in turn I will break my own?

I am so lost and have no one to talk to because all my close friends are in the wedding party and I cannot let them know how I am feeling. I just want to run away from them both.

I should clarify. My fiancee and I have been together for 4.5 years. He proposed in 2006 and we have owned a house together since 2004. Why would i not say Yes If I love him? I know that I love him but im not in love with him.

I didn't go looking for this guy, I don't go out to clubs, I dont go to bars, he is a friend of a friend who I met casually.

My statement "his negative qualities are not negative to me" is because people say you should focus on the negatives, and what other people see in him as a negative (he is short, he has a cute childish laugh) I like. Thats all that meant

Thank you for the advice you have all given. I know what i have to do and you may think it is selfish but im going to marry him. I haven't cheated on him yet and im not about too so i am going to put a stop to communication with mr. right and forget that he exists.

Wow. Think about your feelings long and hard because this could potentially be a bad situation. You met someone new and exciting who is everything that your fiance isn't and now your fiance pales in comparison to this wonderful man you've met. Am I close?

When I was about to be married I developed a bizarre crush on a guy simply because he was everything my boyfriend wasn't and I didn't realize how scared I was of marriage. Calm down and take a breather. If you were not in love with your fiance before you met this other man, that's one thing, but if you've just decided this upon comparison of the two men then you might be in for some trouble.

You can't build a solid marriage on a foundation like this. You need to seek some counseling either together or separately and you need to talk to him.
There is no sense continuing in a one-sided relationship and it's a decision that no one can make for you.

Have you ever heard the saying about being careful of what you ask for because you might get it? We often want what we don't have. I am thinking of Tori Spelling, who had such a wonderful wedding and a year later, divorced that man to marry someone else or Prince Charles, who didn't want Dianna, but only Camilla and now that he has Camilla, does he seem happy? Do you really know what you want?

You answered your own question when you said "I love my fiances however I am not in love with him." (It's fiancee . . not fiances, by the way)

Why make yourself miserable? Call off the marriage now and rather than go through a divorce later. It'll only be harder on you both if you do it later.

You need to make the decision about you marriage without taking this other guy into consideration.

This other guy is an illusion, right now. You do not have a realistic perspective about him. Consider this statement "Even his negative qualities are not negative to me." Really? They will be.