Room mates boyfried is an a**. Advice please?

So my roommates boyfriend is one of the biggest jerks I've met. He treats her like crap, is rude to her family and takes all he can from her and her family and never gives back. He'll randomly show up without her at her parents, eat all their food and expect them to do things for him. When he wasn't invited on vacation with her and my parents he got really mad and yelled at her mom saying she was an awfel mother and a real mom wouldn't "abandon" her children for her enjoyment and pleasure of a vacation. That was the third time he said something very mean to her.

We are moving into an apartment soon and I am concernd about him.Hes a leach. I don't want him around all the time since he isn't paying the bills, buying the food and paying rent. Me and her are. My boyfriend already is willing to help out with groceries, while hers doesn't have a job.

I know I'll explode on him sooner or later. Any tips on how to express my annoynce in a direct, mature way without upsetting my friend.

Unfortunately, this is something only your room mate can put an end to, not you. As much as it annoys you, it's still not your business to butt in. Be thankful though you have a much better boyfriend than that. Make sure he doesn't grab your food from the fridge and stuff though. If he does, then tell him to pay for it. People work for the food.

tell your freind the truth if she moves in with him then she cant move in. Becuase your not gonna support his lazy butt. He needs to grow up and become a real man. If not then hes out of the picture.

keep your food and anything else that is just yours in your room,get a frig. then pad lock your room. this will help you out and if he doesnt like it then tell him why it has to be done,hes a mooch. if your friend get offended then thats her problem. shes the one putting up with him and that doesnt mean you have to. if she hated it enough then she needs her own place with him.

This sounds like a recipe for disaster!!! He sounds like a loser but if your friend isn't going to break up with him you will have to deal with him. You will just have to set down some ground rules with your roommate before you move in together. Nobody can touch anything of yours & buy a lock for your door. Try to keep to yourself when he is there. Its going to be hard really think about it before you move in together!!! good luck.