Should I tell my teacher that she made me cry?

On Monday my teacher started talking about someone getting violated at the school dance and I was molested a few years ago and never got over it cause I have never talked to a therapist or anyone like that. Well as she was talking it brought back bad memories and I wanted to cry. After a 30 minute meeting with the guidance counsler for the schuduling of next years class I finally returned to class at the end of the day to get my bookbag. As I walked in the room I could no longer hold in the tears and finally started "boo hoo" crying. Now is worried and I've been avoiding her. Should I tell her that she accidently made me cry? (she does bring up the subject of people getting violated alot)

Like I know she doesn't know that I was molested so I won't hold it over her head and I'll make sure she knows but I just want to give her a heads up so we can avoid the whole situation. Is that okay?

I really don't wanna make her feel bad or anything. Like she can still mention it because people need to know what to look out for if someone might violate them but if she is going to tell a violation story maybe she can give me a heads up?

Sweetie, not only do you need to tell the this teacher what she did to you ( regardless of the fact that it was accidental)but you need to talk to your counselor at school and ask for a referral to a therapist so you can get some help. You badly need help- it's obvious from your question that you have never gotten over what happened, and you have some very strong and inappropriate feelings of guilt and shame which you need to address and work through. What happened to you was NOT your fault, and working with a good, trained therapist will help you to see this and stop blaming yourself. It might also give you the courage to finally come forward and tell your parents and the police what happened to you, so they can catch the guy who did this- before he attacks another little girl the way he did with you and gets away with it a second time.

Even if it has been years since the original episode of abuse, there are still things the police can do which may prevent anyone else from experiencing what you did. That's why you need to get up your courage through therapy and speak to them- and to tell your parents as well. By hiding the truth and not dealing with it, not only are you hurting yourself, you are letting this guy who hurt you GET AWAY with his crime- and increasing the likelihood that he will attack someone else. That's not an acceptable outcome in anyone's eyes, and I should think that would be especially true for you. Sexual predators and pedophiles, like the one who attacked you, RARELY if EVER have only one victim. Most of these viscious men will prey on young women or children repeatedly until they are finally caught and prosecuted. This guy who hurt you deserves to spend the rest of his life behind bars, and YOU are the only one who can put him there and see that he does this.

So tell your teacher what happened, and why her conversation hurt you- and then go talk to your guidance counselor about this. Perhaps your teacher will want to go with you to do this- educators like her are MANDATED BY LAW to report abuse of any type, and this includes sexual abuse and rape, to the authorities. Your teacher is also required to keep what you tell her private- she can't talk to other kids, other teachers, or anyone else about it without your permission and permission from your parents, which should make it easier for you to speak up about this. You will NOT be blamed for what happened- sexual abuse is never the victim's fault, and teachers and other mandated reporters ( such as doctors) learn this as part of their training when they enter their professions. If you get scared, you can also remind your teacher of this- but do it politely.

Good luck, and I hope you get some help.

It seems like she had no idea that she was hurting you so much. When she is alone, I suggest that you go to her and express you feelings. You don't have to tell her everything that happened, but let her know how you feel, so she'll be more careful next time. As for the molestation, it isn't too late. You can (and probably should) go see a therapist. I know that it seems over, but trust me, you will feel a lot better and more comfortable with youself if you seek help. Good Luck!

~Zara Sahana

I don't think so just ask her politely not to mention violations in class. I mean she didn't do it on purpose.