I just found a video of my 14year old son having sex with his 14year old girl friend.I don't know wat to do?

my son has been going with this girl for a year.It was just a school crush then he started visiting at her house. i said no at first but I went and met her mom and dad and they assured me that they were being supervised. My son is a straight a student in honors and has NEVER been a behavior problem so I gave him the freedom of going to her house on weekends. Now I look in his cell phone and there is a video last week of her giving him oral sex in her room on her bed. I'm hurt, imbarrest, disappointed, and mad at myself becouse my gut said "bad idea" but my heart said " let him go. He's a good boy" just becouse I didn't want to hurt him. Now I don't know what to do or say to him or her. HELP?

update 4-11- I picked my son up from school. I wasn't sur what to do but he had a attitude cuz I said no "girlfriends" house today.My plan was 2 talk 2 him at home but his tude changed my mind. I told him"I seen the video, and u need to call ur girl and tell her she has 20 min. to tell her mom about it cuz that's how long it's going to take us to get over there." He looked devistated! I know "shock n awe" wasn't the #1choice but I did it. He asked me not to go but lied and said"Her mom already knows" when I got there I spoke to her mom in private. Told her what I saw, asked if the girl was on the pill or if she knew they were having sex. she said "no" she looked real shocked and imbarrest but said" I had a feeling something was going on". I let her know he will not be over and that they could still see each other at my house for now. My son also told me his father(were divorced but talk often) knows he had sex but did't tell me.That tict me off a bit.we talked more at home about safety

Unfortunately... the fact is that so many teenagers are very sexually active these days. If i was in your shoes i would definetely delete that video.
You have to sit down with your son and talk to him. Tell him you saw the video - Warning - he will most likely get mad at you.. but you are a parent at its allowed for you to look through his phone. Explain to him the dangers of being sexual active - STD's and other diseases. Tell him that protection is very important. Unfortunately if you are too harsh on him.. he will go behind your back, try to have an honest open relationship with him. Tell him your here for him and you will support him always.
But you should also talk to the girlfriends parents.
Wish you luck.

Ummmm man that is a bummer....I don't know what to say other than DESTROY THAT VIDEO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keeping can only be a bad thing.....

The only thing you can do, is if he wants to be with her, demand that they both be at your house where you can keep an eye on them both, and be in the same room with them. In other words, don't let your son be in his bedroom or elsewhere, with the door closed. Sometimes young girls can coerce boys into doing that sort of thing. Good luck.

stick it on you tube